A correct interpretation of the meaning of the word parent What a father takes to educate his children is with his poise. One quality that a father must show before his children is poise. How a father expresses his poise, especially when he encounters adversity, when he encounters someone he cannot accept, when he encounters someone who has made a mistake, this is the strength he brings to his child’s heart, and this is the space he brings to his child. In particular, what kind of meaning does the word “mother” mean in the context of a mother’s life? This is a connotation that must be interpreted within our role in life. The first word is “emptiness”. Many mothers are so practical that when they look at their children, they can see three problems at a glance, and they can’t help but point them out quickly, but this is not the connotation of motherhood. When a mother sees her child’s strengths and weaknesses, she doesn’t move. Why not? Because the strengths need to be nurtured and protected by the mother’s good emotions, and only when the mother sees her child’s strengths and weaknesses without revealing them can she give her child the power to grow up inside. Some parents wonder, the child in front of other people are very good, a return home, the moment they see their own mother has changed like another person, become incomprehensible. The reason for this is that the “emptiness” is not done properly, and mothers who are not able to come down from the emptiness are not able to provide a space for their children’s emotions, and the children’s emotions are surrounded by their mother’s emotions. The second word is “weak”. Mothers learn to show “weakness” in front of their children. It is difficult for a child of a strong mother to be confident, and the child’s confidence will be weakened a little bit in this state of yours. A mother who is able to show weakness in front of her child is bound to have a child who is confident and strong inside. Do you want your children to be confident? Learn to show weakness in front of your child, show weakness in order to realize the child’s support, all stand on the child’s heart to talk about parents, in fact, is to suppress the child’s growth and development. The third word is “soft”. A mother’s true strength, a mother’s educational power, lies in the face of the child’s growth process, how to achieve such a “soft”. The softer a mother is, the stronger her ability to direct her children; a mother who yells and screams at her children all day long will slowly lose her ability to guide them. Having correctly understood the connotation of education as a parent, where do we parents put our mind first? Please never rush to enroll in classes, rush to find tutors, rush to find some method level to solve the problem. Family education focuses on nurturing, not teaching. Today, we especially interpret these two words, one is heart and the other is emotion; heartlessness is the characteristic of family education, and compassion and courtesy are the principles that must be observed for the effective implementation of family education. There is no definite method of teaching, and different methods are needed to treat children from different families and at different stages of development, but there is one principle: there must be love and courtesy, and love is in front of courtesy. Another status quo is that there are manners but no emotions, especially when parents reason with their children without emotional padding. Education at any level begins with conveying to the educated the true inner emotions of the educator himself. The emotion is done enough, so much so that when our children are eager enough to ask us for something, it is only then that we point out the reasoning. Emotional communication to a certain extent, the child will say, Mom, what should I do, or Dad, what should I do, this time a small reason to pass, it is possible to realize the ability to bring the child a kind of guidance. Parental anxiety and impatience, more terrible than the child’s learning problems The child’s learning problems are not terrible, the terrible thing is to lead to the child’s inner turmoil behind the source of these disturbances, these basic level of support is messed up, more terrible. How to realize the parents’ emotional self-control, that is, the child slightly appear a problem, you first do not rush, not impatient, you first calm down, first to adjust their own emotions first, and then face the problem. How to realize emotional self-control and management, this is a deep question for parents. “Only a calm heart can precipitate and absorb the rational thinking of education”, only when our parents’ hearts are calm, the point of our children’s education will become clear, so that we can precipitate the rational thinking of educators on education inside our hearts, and precipitate it as a state of our own, otherwise, the thinking of education is just like the water passing through the ground that flows through everyone’s heart. The effect lies in whether you can do the precipitation of thinking about education, precipitate into your heart, internalized into a state of yours. Without this kind of process, it is ineffective for you to listen to any education. Without the precipitation of digestion, there is no capital to implement education, that is to say, without the process of precipitation, we can not take the things of education experts to realize in their own families. The space of family education must be left to the child Family education should be made clear, should make efforts to do things at both ends, one end is the father, one end is the mother, the middle section, the growth of any child is done in the process of meandering, this space should be left to the child, do not care about it. First-class parents rely on release, parents who do not know how to educate rely on control, control the child is one hundred percent failure, release the child has fifty percent success. Families that hold onto their children every day jump into the wrong space, a space that each child accomplishes independently, but many parents are involved in staring into this space and can’t let go, can’t get out, can’t let him control it, can’t let him control it, and don’t let him control it, so there is nothing else to control. Some parents say, “I don’t care if you let me put it away? Letting you let go is not not caring, it is letting you step into your role and take care of your child’s emotions rather than getting too involved in the child’s behavior. Too much involvement is tantamount to making a mistake without realizing it. Parents’ educational energy is released, enough to ignite the enthusiasm of children’s learning “University” said “correct heart, and then sincerity”, correct who’s heart, parents’ heart, and then correct the child’s heart. In fact, temperament determines children’s learning differences. Children’s temperament is a kind of temperament that is slowly internalized by their parents’ state, just like our professional habits. If a parent’s heart is always cold and fickle, any educational thought that falls on his mental side will bounce back like a ping-pong ball, and so will the child. The mood of the parent breeds the mood and temperament of the child to learn. All parents are carriers of a culture, and the temperaments of children nurtured by different family cultures are different. Culture is the flag of education, education to the highest point is culture, the culture and the transformation, without talking to the child’s heart will be sensitized by us, at the same time produce another kind of vitality. How to ignite the enthusiasm for learning within the child, ignition requires a certain temperature, requires a certain state to ignite. If the parents’ heart is indifferent, numb or anxious, it is difficult to ignite the child’s passion for learning. In the face of whatever state your child is in, remember that as a mother, ensuring your own emotional peace is the greatest education you can give your child.