The wedding night is one of life’s great events, but some men do not enjoy this good! After they get married, their sex life is not satisfactory, and some of them can’t even have sex successfully; the poor quality of sex life seriously undermines the self-esteem and self-confidence of men, and also affects the ‘sexual interest’ of women. Gradually the number of attempts by both parties decreases, and the desire to have intercourse decreases, causing a more serious impact on the marital life and family happiness of both parties. The following from 5 aspects to take you to understand the newlywed ED. 1, to understand why the penis will be hard and soft Penile erection is the process of arterial filling while the veins close and the pressure in the cavernous body of the penis rises. This process is mainly governed by plant nerves: erection and weakness of the penis is governed by sympathetic and parasympathetic nerves, parasympathetic excitement penis will erect, and conversely, sympathetic excitement penis will ejaculate and weakness. When men have sexual impulses will start parasympathetic excitement, parasympathetic nerve to start penile blood, the penis will be erect, when the parasympathetic excitement accumulated to a certain degree, the degree of sympathetic excitement significantly higher, parasympathetic excitement is inhibited, the penis blood flow will be weak, sometimes accompanied by ejaculation. Of course the whole process is controlled by the brain center. Figure 1 – The mechanism of penile erection and weakness. 2, who are prone to erectile problems in newlyweds The following three types of people are prone to erectile dysfunction in newlyweds: ① Sympathetic body: This is the most common case, these people are more easily excited and overreact to things. As a result, they are prone to more intense physical reactions to setbacks and difficulties. For example, a slight problem with the quality of sexual intercourse is very anxious, as the enemy thus inducing and aggravating ED. ② lack of self-confidence: especially the female partner is strong, or the female partner conditions prevail, the male partner in sexual intercourse is prone to low self-confidence, fear of poor quality intercourse, fear of failure of intercourse, or even develop a fear and aversion to intercourse and so on. Some men blindly suspect that they have erection problems before they try to have intercourse. ③ men and women do not understand each other, or the feelings are not harmonious: some introduced by others, the two sides do not understand each other and married spouses, sexual intercourse is prone to erection problems. And once the quality of sex life problems, but also easy to deepen the gap between each other. No matter which of the above causes impotence, the mechanism is due to anxiety, fear, worry and cause sympathetic hyperexcitation, on the one hand, can make the penis erection difficulties, on the other hand, can also make the penis quickly weakened. 3, how to deal with newlywed ED As ED and psychological factors affect each other causally, therefore, the treatment of the two should be carried out simultaneously. Of course the treatment of ED is prescribed by the doctor drugs, while the treatment of psychological problems is done by themselves under the guidance of a doctor. In conjunction with drug therapy, you also need to do work from the following aspects: ① build self-confidence: newlywed intercourse unsatisfactory is not uncommon, even if the failure is not shameful. The first time sexual intercourse due to overexcitement, lack of experience, or lack of knowledge and unsatisfactory sex is a common occurrence, you can actively try again. Do not blindly over-anxious. ② increase the affection with your spouse, the support and help of your spouse, the encouragement of your spouse is the best remedy to relieve psychological stress; both sides face together can make things better and faster to solve. On the contrary, the woman’s complaints, sarcasm and even sarcasm not only do not help, but also make the man worse and aggravate his condition. ③ quietly analyze the reasons, it is recommended from the Internet or books, read more or watch videos or books about sex life skills. Study carefully and find out the reason. ④ Don’t rush this period to make more attempts at intercourse, but also don’t pay too much attention to the quality of intercourse, because progress is often gradual. 4, newlywed ED is not all psychological According to my experience, more than seventy percent of newlywed ED is psychological; but not all newlywed ED is psychological. Organic ED has a certain rate. If the usual self-perception of erection is not very hard, or after about 3 months of treatment is not reduced; or body fat; or some other medical conditions such as hypertension, diabetes, etc.; to suspect the possibility of organic ED, it is recommended to do further examination, so as not to aggravate the condition and delay treatment. 5, some newlywed ‘impotence’ is actually premature ejaculation impotence premature ejaculation is relatively simple to identify most, if the insertion of ejaculation quickly, or ejaculation before the penis is inserted into the vagina, ejaculation before the penis weakens, this is premature ejaculation rather than impotence.