I. The child spilled water, milk, etc. on the table Mistake: admonish the child: “Why are you so stupid? You can’t even hold a cup.” Some even give the child a slap in the face. The result: Both the adult and the child are angry, things get messy, and the child learns to solve problems by throwing tantrums and hitting others. The right approach: reassure the child: “Son, it’s okay, I know you didn’t mean to do it, pay attention next time. Will you wipe the table clean?” Result: The child gets the understanding, apologizes to the adult immediately, and happily wipes the table clean. The child learns to be tolerant. Second, the child failed the test Wrong practice: admonish the child: “Look at you, so little score, you do not mind the shame? Look who’s who, how can people get a hundred? You’re so stupid! I’m so angry.” Some even kicked the child a few times. Result: The child is in a bad mood and thinks, “I’m finished, I’m so stupid, I can’t learn anymore, no matter how much I learn.” The right approach: comfort the child: “Children, I know you feel bad, once did not do well in the test does not mean anything, the key is to find out why we did not do well in the test, and then solve it, OK, I will analyze it with you. I believe you, next time there will be progress.” Result: the child seriously find the reason to go, thinking: “I want to work hard, to live up to the expectations of mom and dad, I will do.” Third, children write homework grinding, it is time to go to bed, homework is not finished. (Children’s homework, the child did not grind, not here) wrong approach: admonish the child: “You are angry with me, how did not finish writing again, I do not watch a while can not, write quickly! I’m watching you.” Result: The child is not in a hurry and still takes his time, thinking, “I can’t finish writing because my mom is there.” The right thing to do: Seriously and calmly say to your child, “Son, writing homework is your business, you are responsible for your own business, don’t finish it, it’s time to go to bed, go to school tomorrow and explain to the teacher.” Result: The child realized his mistake and regretted it, thinking, “This is the end, how to tell the teacher, it seems that tomorrow’s homework has to be done quickly, otherwise it will still be criticized.” Fourth, the child’s homework is scribbled wrong practice: angry: “How to write so messy, you can not write better?” Grumpy will be three or two of the child’s homework tore up. Result: The child is confused and does not know what to do. The right approach: Seriously and calmly say to your child: “Son, I have already said that you have to rewrite your work because it is not neat and the teacher can’t see it clearly, you see, this is a rule that can’t be broken, so you have to rewrite it. You see, you can should write like this (tell about writing norms, horizontal and vertical, consistent size.) Child, you just have to write with improvement than the words you just wrote (compare with yourself), are you confident?” Result: The child understands the importance of the rules and thinks to himself, “It is easy to make an improvement over the writing you just did.” Full of confidence. V. The child does not greet people and has no manners Wrong practice: admonish the child in public: “Why is this child so rude? Not even greeting, how I usually teach you, no good.” Result: The child’s self-esteem is greatly damaged, and he or she feels ashamed of himself or herself and has an inferiority complex. The correct approach: give the child a step down: “My child is a little embarrassed, slowly he will get better, he is usually quite polite.” Give an example of being polite. Result: The child knows the mistake and thinks, “I didn’t do well this time, I will do well next time, I can’t let my parents down.” Six: The child’s socks are dirty Wrong approach: Parent: “Take off your socks and I will wash them for you.” Result: The child accepts it with peace of mind, thinking that parents are serving themselves, normal, and they are not tired anyway. Correct approach: Talk to the child: “Son, would you wash your own socks, please? Mommy is very tired today, can you wash Mommy’s socks too? Thank you, my child.” Result: The child was respected and went to wash his socks, thinking: “I have to care more about mom and dad in the future, I am also a member of the family ah, they are getting older.” Sixth, the child asked a question, the adult will not Wrong approach: unhappy: “Do not ask blindly, just get your studies right, do not know what to think about every day.” Result: the child thinks: “Hey, no fun, always say study study, annoying, do not ask, do not ask.” From then on, when you encounter difficult problems skipped, do not seek to understand. The right approach: happy: “Children, you can ask such difficult questions, proving that you use your brain, good. But I don’t know how to do it, let’s study it together, okay?” The result: the child is very happy, the future problems must be perseverance, must study to understand. Seven, the child does not get up in the morning Mistake: angry: “Why are you still not up? To be late!” The two slaps in the hand, hands and feet to find clothes for the child to put on clothes. Result: The same thing happens next time. The right thing to do: calmly say: “Son, I’ll call you once, if you don’t wake up, you’ll be late and will be criticized, it’s your own business, you deal with it yourself.” The child didn’t get up in time to eat breakfast and was late. Result: Next time get up when called. Eight: Keep watching TV and not sleeping and not doing homework Wrong approach: angrily turn off the TV and yell at your child to do homework or sleep. Result: The child goes to bed with an unhappy stomach, hating you in his heart and calling you a tyrant. The right thing to do: Calmly say to your child, “Son, it’s time to do your homework, and you’ll be criticized if you don’t finish it. How long do you want to watch?” Child: “Can I watch for another 10 minutes?” Parent: “Yes, keep your word, and turn off the TV when it’s time.” Each side takes a step back. The result: when the time is up, the child takes the initiative to turn off the TV and go to bed or do homework. Nine, the child is writing homework Mistake: watching TV while supervising the child, mouth constantly chatter: “write faster.” “Don’t dawdle.” “Don’t watch TV, study hard.” Result: The child is not happy: “Why do you get to watch TV and I don’t? It’s not fair.” The right approach: adults also read books, do not disturb the child, the home study atmosphere is strong. Result: The child is calm and his mind is on learning. Ten, the adult did something wrong Wrong practice: strong words or ignore. Result: The child thinks: “Why don’t you admit when you make a mistake? Well, it’s good to be an adult, you don’t get criticized even if you make a mistake.” The right thing to do: Admit your mistake and apologize to your child. The result: the child will do something wrong in the future, take the initiative to apologize and feel justified. Eleven, the parent-teacher conference teacher told, the parents were criticized by the teacher Wrong approach: as soon as you get home, the child will be angry on the child, and hit and scold the child. The result: the child does not have any self-confidence, either learn to violence, or timid, a word afraid to say, learn to lie, afraid to tell the truth with their parents, afraid of being beaten. The correct approach: first talk about the child’s strengths, then analyze the reasons for the shortcomings, encourage the child, and believe that the child will make progress next time. Twelve, the child’s daily life Wrong practice: parents arrange the child’s life properly, everything is the opinion of adults, the child to comply with the line. The result: the child becomes a puppet, no brain, passive implementation. The child becomes less and less courageous, less and less confident, less capable and less able to do housework. The heart is getting farther and farther away from the parents, self-absorbed. The right approach: the child’s own business, do it yourself, but also encourage the child to do housework. Something at home and the child to discuss and solve, encourage the child to express their own views and listen carefully. Result: Cultivated the child’s sense of family responsibility, know that the heart of the parents, like to communicate with parents, cheerful personality, have confidence!