The above is mainly a biological explanation of the causes and advantages and disadvantages of the differences in the behavior of males or males and females or females in the growth of offspring in the breeding activities of animals or human beings. For human beings, we may find that there are more disadvantages if we take into account the effects of social changes on the behavior of males and females in child rearing. In modern society, since most women have independent economic income and corresponding social status, they play an increasingly important role in the family, and their attitudes, roles and behaviors in the process of child rearing are becoming more and more dominant. As a result, China’s ancient emphasis on the principle of “raising children without teaching them is the father’s fault” has been changed accordingly, i.e., the father’s predominant position and responsibility for educating his children has been seriously weakened. However, mothers by nature have a tendency to overprotect their children, and they can’t help but adopt behaviors that are overprotective of their children. Many women are more accustomed to restricting or limiting their children’s participation in so-called “dangerous” or “uncivilized” activities based on female assessment standards and behavioral patterns. For example, mothers may limit their boys’ risk-taking activities from a female standpoint, even restricting their chasing, playing, and fighting behaviors, not realizing that these behaviors not only do not cause serious harm to children in childhood (e.g., there was a recent report of an 11-month-old baby girl accidentally falling from the sixth floor with no apparent injuries, suggesting that children in this age group are equipped with adequate protection mechanisms), but also that the process of falling from the sixth floor can cause serious injuries to children. This suggests that children at this age have adequate protection mechanisms), and in the process children also learn attack, defense and escape skills, and develop appropriate response and behavioral patterns for coping with crises in the future. Similarly, because of their identity and experience as women, mothers do not understand and abhor the playful, aggressive and even mischievous behaviors that some males often engage in during childhood and adolescence, believing that boys with such behaviors are bound to have bad habits or even break the law in the future, and they will regard some of the behaviors of their sons that are accidental or even inadvertently occurring out of curiosity as signals of extreme dangers, and lightly, on the On the basis of exaggerations, they will severely prohibit and criticize, and on the other hand, they will be like a big disaster, threatening to punish the child, so that the child will feel that he has violated the laws of heaven and committed a serious crime, and will not dare to cross the line from now on. Although on the surface, such a mother to fulfill the strict requirements of the child’s responsibility, but because of the existence of the process and conveyed excessive worry and anxiety, resulting in the child at a young age on their own once “violation” of excessive self-blame behavior, in similar scenarios thereafter because of the inability to grasp the balance will be overly restrained themselves, lost the opportunity to explore new things, The child loses the opportunity to explore new things and learn new behaviors. Moreover, the mother’s excessive constraints and blame on the child may have the opposite effect on the child’s growth. For example, when the child grows older and more knowledgeable, he or she may feel that his or her behavior was not as judged or predicted by the mother, and may feel that the mother has made a big deal out of it, and may increase his or her contempt and hostility toward the mother, and may therefore rebel strongly against all of the mother’s constraints. Similarly, because of their anticipatory anxiety and negative cognitive tendencies about the future, mothers worry too much about and overreact to the small, insignificant ups and downs of their children’s development, and tend to predict their children’s long-term futures based on the model of “knowing the future by looking at the leaves”. Such predictions can be triggered by the child’s failure in a test or by a misbehavior that has no serious consequences. In fact, such predictions not only cause the mother to worry too much about her child’s future, leading to stricter supervision, but also transmit such cognitive and evaluative patterns to the child, so that the child learns to make generalized judgments about other people and about his or her own failures or transgressions, and is prone to form negative evaluations. In the long run, children and adolescents guided by such cognitive patterns are more likely to give up on themselves and break down after suffering setbacks, and are more likely to form negative attitudes toward others, which is not conducive to building friendships with partners based on sincerity and trust. In addition, it is difficult for mothers to avoid their own emotional influence in the education of their children. For example, when mothers are in a good mood and are happy, they may turn a blind eye to their children’s bad behavior and may even find it amusing, not only refraining from criticizing and stopping it, but even evaluating it in an appreciative manner. On the other hand, when you are in a bad mood, you will overreact to your child’s bad behavior, get angry over trivial matters, and even blame your child for his or her well-intentioned and motivated behavior. One can simply describe the phenomenon: when happy, what is good is good and what is bad is good; when unhappy, what is bad is bad and what is good is bad. This is the biggest harm in addition to easy to make the child confuse the concept of right and wrong, more likely to lead the child to learn to get along with the mother to look at the words and speculation, is not conducive to adhere to the principle of the cultivation of behavioral patterns. The pattern of reaction to mother-directed parenting in the wake of a child’s illness often leads to fear of illness, or fear of medication, or even fear of hospitals. It is common for children to become ill during childhood and adolescence. Most mothers have an uncontrollable emotional reaction to their children’s illnesses, which is revealed to their young children, causing their children to misjudge the severity of their illnesses and to feel intense anxiety deep down. Because, in the minds of children and adolescents, adults, especially their own parents, are almost omnipotent, they are obviously even more alarmed when they realize that these adult loved ones have panicked. For example, after a young child has an unusual cold, many mothers overreact by again and again taking the temperature, trying various treatments, and even fussing and bringing the child to the emergency room of a hospital. Such a reaction will not only cause the child to experience intense anxiety at the time, but will also aggravate or complicate the manifestation of the illness by being the first to experience a significant anxiety reaction to any subsequent illness. Some mothers, because of their anxiety reaction, may also show a marked distrust of the doctor’s treatment and medication, failing to comply with the prescribed treatment, or even asking the doctor to follow his or her hearsay. Similarly, some mothers are more accustomed to believing in the myth that “medicines are poisonous” and reduce the dosage of medicines prescribed by the doctor in the course of treatment, leading to the development of a latent motivation within their children to resist taking medicines. Children who are influenced by their mothers will grow up following their mothers’ behavioral patterns to cope with illnesses, and may adopt the same pattern of seeking medical treatment, taking medication, or even resisting going to the hospital for treatment. This phenomenon is particularly prominent among psychiatric patients, not the least of which is the role of the mother’s verbal and physical influence on them since childhood. The above characteristics of mothers in the upbringing of their children have become very prominent in modern human society, especially in China in recent years, where the one-child national policy has been implemented to an unparalleled extent. In the urban environment, the education and growth of many children are almost always subject to the will of their mothers, making too many children and teenagers weak greenhouse flowers or even bean sprouts in test tubes, seriously impairing their ability to adapt to the natural environment as a living creature, even as their physical abilities, their courage, their ability to chase and run, their ability to defend themselves and to fight, all seriously deteriorate. In the face of the 0-15 score of the soccer match between Chinese and Russian elementary school students in recent years and the phenomenon of little fat people getting exhausted, we cannot but say that it is a direct or indirect consequence of this over-protective education style filled with too much mother’s love. The phenomenon of masculinization of women, feminization of men, and gender neutralization in contemporary Chinese society has gradually become obvious. There is no lack of such representative figures among entertainment stars, and many “pseudo-maidens” have appeared among the grassroots. For such a social phenomenon, don’t we have reason to say that it is the mother’s role is too strong and lead to it? In fact, behind the powerful exterior of those strong women is likely to be a rather weak inner world, once suffered a setback, the most likely to have a total collapse. Because in essence, this kind of strength is often the lack of corresponding psychological foundation of the “castle in the air”, or just outside the strong. In contemporary society, in addition to the weakening of the father’s role as a result of the mother’s domination of her children’s education, the involvement of grandparents in intergenerational parenting and education is also an important reason for the weakening of the father’s role. Due to late marriage and childbearing, family planning and the one-child policy, the reproductive activities of modern people have also become dramatically different from those of the past. Late marriage and late childbearing make some people not give birth until they are nearly 30 or even 40 years old. Those who give birth at this age, despite the fact that their own level of maturity has tremendous advantages for their children’s education, the disadvantages are also very obvious, that is, at this age when first becoming a parent firstly because of their own experience they begin to tend to be conservative minded, they will be relatively more restrictive and protective of their children, and secondly because of the relatively strong economic power, they will be more prone to Provide the best possible environment and conditions for the child’s upbringing, so that the interference of human factors in the upbringing of offspring increases, and it is easier to raise a child with a proud and spoiled child. Moreover, when they become parents at this age, their parents are mostly in the stage of retirement, and it is their greatest pleasure to enjoy their grandchildren, so they will naturally participate in intergenerational parenting activities with enthusiasm. However, the participation of older grandparents in the raising of grandchildren is obviously influenced by their own life experience and old age mentality. Their life experience makes them more aware of dangers and may make them more concerned than their parents about the safety of their children in order to avoid dangers, resulting in more restrictions on adventurous or exploratory activities and more overprotective measures for their children. Elderly mentality will make them often feel the joy of their own life in the continuation of their grandchildren’s young life, naturally, they will not want to let this young life have any chance of failure, and do their best to prevent and avoid the child’s adventures and explorations in the process of growing up, and naturally, they will take the corresponding restrictions and overprotection, and even restrict the child to participate in the activities of the same-age children and adolescents, and neglect the development of healthy mental qualities of the child. Nurturing healthy mental qualities. The problem of grandparents’ participation in raising intergenerational children also lies in the contradictions and differences in the understanding of raising children among elderly people from different families. For example, some of the education received by children in their grandparents’ homes is very different from that received in their grandparents’ homes, making it difficult for children to distinguish right from wrong and confusing their concepts of right and wrong. The problem of grandparents’ involvement in intergenerational parenting also lies in the contradictions and differences in their understanding of parenting between them and their own children. Differences between grandparents and their children’s focus of attention and human attitudes towards the growth process of intergenerational children will lead to corresponding influences on the children’s concepts of right and wrong and behavioral characteristics. For example, parents may have more stringent requirements for their children due to the long-term interests of the children, while grandparents often interfere or modify their children’s behavior because they feel that the children will be aggrieved and suffer, which not only greatly reduces parental authority, but also confuses the children’s concepts of right and wrong. What is even more worrying is that in contemporary Chinese society, there are some fathers, especially those who are parents of only children, who are overprotective of their children in the same way that their mothers are. This is not only due to the fact that these fathers have been influenced by their mothers’ education in strong families, but also due to the fact that it is difficult for them to teach their only child, and also due to the fact that they love and care for their only child, which is different from the mentality of fathers of multi-children families in the past. The mentality of the father is different from that of the fathers of previous multi-child families. If the father’s personality and behavior itself already has enough feminized characteristics, the role played by such a father in the growth process of his children is just another mother, or even a “worse” mother. Because the father’s own androgynous characteristics as a male are not distinct enough not only to form a balanced constraint on the mother’s educational model, but also to strengthen the defects of the mother’s educational model. As the Chinese saying goes, “a soldier bears a bear, a general bears a nest”, whether the father’s personality has sufficiently masculine, strong, courageous, open-minded and other androgynous characteristics, and whether he is able to fully express such androgynous characteristics, largely determines whether the father is able to play his role well, and also largely determines whether his own children are likely to have good mental health. children are likely to have good psychological qualities. Fathers with relatively obvious feminine characteristics are the more “bearish” “generals,” and their children are bound to have the same “bearish” behavioral characteristics. If we analyze this from the perspective of social progress, the children who grow up in such a family will also delay the progress of society because they are too conservative and not innovative enough: as an ordinary person, his cowardice will prevent him from boldly striving for his own interests or exploring an innovative path in life; as a leader, his cowardice will constrain him from exploring innovative methods of leadership and directions of development. As a leader, his cowardice constrains him from exploring innovative leadership methods and development directions.