Every middle-aged and elderly friend, and even every Chinese will encounter a difficult problem – whether to bring grandchildren to their children? (hereinafter for the convenience of expression, collectively referred to as grandchildren) with it, life is too much bumping things; not to bring it, the children are not happy, that the elderly refused to help, and some children even so with their parents do not communicate with each other, the same way. In the end what to do? The answer is very simple, do not want to bring that do not bring. As for the reasons, the following five reasons are enough. In addition, it is recommended that friends who want to bring grandchildren also refer to see, it will help. 1, bring grandchildren is not the obligation of the elderly. Educating children is the responsibility of fathers, not the vocation of grandfathers. The old man to help their children with grandchildren is the love, not to bring is this. From the legal point of view, parents are the legal guardians of minor children, children’s upbringing and education is their legal obligations. Grandparents have no obligation to raise their grandchildren. Therefore, the elderly have the right to choose whether to bring grandchildren. 2, the elderly do not have so much energy to bring grandchildren. As people get older, their physical strength and energy are not as good as when they were young. Bringing up grandchildren is a very tortuous thing, without twelve percent of the energy, the elderly can not take care of it. Moreover, at this time the elderly should pay more attention to their own health. Their own health, is not to give their children trouble. 3, the responsibility of bringing up grandchildren is heavy, the elderly can not afford. The responsibility of bringing up grandchildren is mainly reflected in two aspects, one is the personal safety of grandchildren; the other is the education of grandchildren. Difficult to ensure the personal safety of the grandchildren Now the grandchildren are expensive, food, clothing, play have to be carefully cared for, can not have a little sloppy, or else the grandchildren bumped or sick, not the son of the three, is the daughter-in-law nagging, too hurt feelings. What is even more frightening is that if there is a slight negligence, the grandchildren lost or had a major accident, the old man will have to spend the rest of his life in the children’s accusations, the guilt of the heart. To cite an example, an elderly sister, Precious, was bringing her granddaughter, and due to negligence, her granddaughter fell straight down the stairs. Fortunately, the granddaughter later survived after an operation, and there were no after-effects, but Ah Zhen’s situation thereafter was very sad. The old partner complained about her, daughter and son-in-law absolutely no longer care about her, the spirit of the A Zhen collapsed …… difficult to ensure the quality of education of the grandchildren The matter of education is not a small matter. The old man’s concept of education is not necessarily able to keep up with the current era, so the elderly must not be strong, otherwise, the impact is the grandson’s lifelong happiness. 4, the elderly should have their own life. The old man is not a lifetime to serve their children, do not really for the children “bow and scrape, after the death”. Worried for a lifetime, the elderly should also live their own lives. Good conditions, you can go out to travel, walk around, see the beauty of the world. Conditions in general, you can choose one or two hobbies to cultivate, and then make more like-minded friends, together with the fun to have fun, but also a kind of life enjoyment. 5, children with their own children have many benefits. Many friends may be worried about not giving their children with grandchildren will not be too unsympathetic, will be children, neighbors gossip? For this, the elderly can communicate directly with their children, so that they understand their own children, better understand that parents are not easy, can grow again. If you are not happy, you can change the way, such as economic income can be friends, you can pay for babysitting for the children. Elderly people should understand that at each critical moment in life, let the children themselves to assume responsibility for the family and bear the responsibility to feel the joy of raising children and confusion, so that they can really become a sound mind, a person who understands and respects their parents, a person who can walk the road to success wider and wider. It is an old thought that when you are old, you have to bring grandchildren to your children. Modern times have changed, and the concepts of middle-aged and elderly friends can also be changed. The time to let go, let go, the children to do it themselves, do not overstep the authority to do it.