Elementary school is a key stage in the growth of children, and in this period of growth of children between the ages of 6-12, in addition to learning, what are the more important things? 1, an environment where they can be accepted From the perspective of psychological needs, the satisfaction of a sense of security and a sense of belonging is the most important need for children at this age. Having an environment where they are accepted can make them feel welcome, accepted and recognized, which will increase their sense of security and give them a sense of belonging. And this environment, the most important thing that children need is the acceptance of the family environment, followed by the acceptance of the outside collective. 2. Have a non-school group of their own Why a non-school group? One important reason is that there is a single standard of evaluation at school. If a child does not have great grades but is a great team player, the child will be recognized in the group. Having your own non-school group also prevents your child from growing up in a single-evaluation environment, and your child needs to know where he or she shines and what makes him or her different. 3. Have an environment where children can speak freely As the age group increases, children have more and more secrets because they are well aware of their parents’ expectations and thus are reluctant to say much to them. So it is necessary to have an environment where children can talk freely about what is on their mind, especially what mom and dad think is bad. Such an environment can help children accomplish independent thinking and communication and expression skills. Such an environment may not be a family environment, because children care about their image in their parents’ minds. 4. Have your own spiritual mentor A child needs a spiritual leader at this age of 6-12 years old, especially after the age of 10. Able to accompany the child growing up, let the child and him to explore the future together, inquire what they want and why? What should I do? Someone who can give advice or tips to the child. This mentor can be a parent, a teacher, or a member of the family, or a professional. 5, have the habit of expressing their own ideas Parents need to help their children slowly build the habit of expressing their own ideas. When the child asks why to give a response, you can also often ask the child “why”, so we will know the reasons for his decision to do a certain, and even with him to find a better way to solve the problem. 6, have a continuous exploration of their own experience We are a lifetime of exploration of the question: Who am I? What do I want? What do I like? We will see that people with a strong sense of well-being do not go after what they do not desire in their hearts, but what others impose on them. What most people want in society today is usually what society wants us to want, rather than what we really want. Not knowing what you want can be very confusing, especially for children after puberty, who can get lost in such a state of mind and have all kinds of behavioral problems. So what’s the best way for parents to do? One of the best ways is to ask why, through constant questioning and thinking, to meet the child’s need to constantly explore themselves. People’s greatest happiness comes from knowing what they want and achieving it! 7, have the experience of completing reading “thick” books About “reading”, children from childhood accumulation, to the fifth and sixth grade, especially in the sixth grade and above, they need to have such a reading experience, they have to complete the reading of a “thick” book They need to finish reading a “thick” book by themselves. One is a sign that his reading ability has reached the point where he can finish reading a large book; two is a sign that his brain has developed to a certain level of physical ability to learn better and effectively, i.e., he can study quietly; three is that he can turn reading into a long time work. Therefore, it is valuable for the child to have a long cycle of reading experience. 8. Have the experience of setting goals and plans and achieving them Starting from the age of about 9, children need to have this experience of setting their own goals or plans and going about achieving them. The greatest value for children is that when they set goals, their learning ability will be improved and they will go about developing various methods that will inspire them with the joy of self-actualization. And the process of completing a goal plan also allows parents to observe the state of their child: whether he knows himself and thus can help him grow more effectively. 9. Have close contact with nature People need to have the closest relationship with nature, yet life nowadays has more constraints on people’s contact with nature. For creatures like people, contact with nature is especially important. This close contact brings children, first, perception, the perception of the growth and transformation of nature, and second, responsibility, including responsibility for animals and plants. Children need to know that humans are responsible for nature. 10. Have a favorite, persistent sport Sports and art are human emotions from the heart and one of the ways to give vent to human emotions. Sports make parents and children have more non-learning topics, will improve parent-child communication, so it can be said that sports is a source of joy, for the growth of children, this matter contains two layers of meaning: ① children need to have a favorite sports to watch, not necessarily he can do There is one thing in the world, so that you do not spend money and the mood is particularly pleasant, is sports. Whether it’s the Olympics, Asian Games, tournaments, or even various other events …… when watching the games, it will make your blood boil, experience the mental pleasure, and have more to look forward to in life. But some of such likes are cultivated from a young age, this is from the family mom and dad to do. ② Children need to have a persistent sports persistence, is the most embodiment of the spirit of sports. And a persistent sports, but also a social, sports can let you make very many friends with the same interests, we can play together, but also will therefore expand the social side of the child. So, let the child have like or stick to the sports program, should be in the child 6-12 years old to dig. 11. Have regular participation activities Having regular participation activities will help each family to build their own culture. For children, there are a number of activities that they regularly participate in each year that become each family’s culture, such as trips, events, and competitions …… This is especially important for families. Why is it so important at the elementary school level? Because children reach adolescence after 6 years of elementary school, and we find that having non-academic topics and non-academic activities with children when they are young can help children get through the glue with their parents during the adolescence period very well. Therefore, having regular participation activities will become the culture of the family and children will know that there is more to life than just learning. 12. Having your own collection Whether it is a collection of match skins, stamps, game cards, logos, Barbie dolls …… collection can help your child build a hobby of their own and construct their own world. Have their own collection, help children to build self-awareness, what I like, in the process of continuous collection, will also build the child’s sense of purpose; When showing their collection to others, will also give the child a sense of accomplishment; Collection can also look for the fun of life, create fresh topics, these are children at the age of 6-12 years old need to have, to teach children, infiltration to the child how to live. 13, have hands-on experience The child’s hands to make a thing, exercise the child’s hands-on skills, more importantly, the child can complete a work of their own, can independently participate in such a process, which is very valuable for his sense of achievement to meet. 14.Exposure to society Every child is a social being, and they have to face the whole society. They have to know themselves in the society, contact with different people, different cultures, and will have their own summary of their own feelings. Chinese children have only one identity, students. Children should be social beings, yet our children have too few opportunities to be exposed to society. When they do step into society they will be nervous and won’t know what to do. Children need to really experience asking strangers for help, asking for directions, making their own budgets, and learning to take local public transportation on their own, in a safe manner of course. 15. Have the experience of failure Through certain events, let children face failure, or let children have the feeling of failure, which will make them reflect on their self-perception. There are many parents who can’t accept failure more than their children. Sometimes children don’t react much in the face of failure, but parents care a lot, and often it’s mom and dad who end up running away, such an escape is the biggest obstacle to a child’s growth. 16.Have the experience of rejecting or being rejected It is found that parents are especially afraid of rejecting their children, parents will think: How can I reject him? I want him to grow up freely, and if I reject him, will the child think I don’t love him? When a child does not have the experience of rejection, his life is very fragile. In fact, it is the parent who cannot accept to say “no” to the child. It is very difficult for the parent to say “no”, so he refuses to say “no” to the child. If the child has never been rejected before the age of 12, what will happen when the child gradually moves further away from the protection of the family and faces rejection? In addition, children need to have the experience of saying no. If our children do not have the opportunity to say no when they are young, they do not have the right to respect themselves. If our children do not have the opportunity to say no when they are young, they do not have the right to respect themselves. The process of saying no is the process of gradually reflecting their own value.