The term “urination” refers to the adult holding the child and forcing the child to poop or urinate. In addition, the scope of urination can also be extended to the adult constantly reminding or asking the child to poop or urinate because the adult’s reminders and requests interfere with the development of the child’s bowel control system and cause damage to the development of the child’s bowel control system. In layman’s terms, urination means that the child does not have the urge to pee and the adult demands that the child must pee. In our culture, a child not wetting his pants means that the child is well behaved and well educated by the parents, and vice versa, that the parents are negligent and the child is not well behaved. Thus, the child’s peeing behavior is directly related to the level of adult parenting and face. The first reason is to save money, as it saves more money on diapers. Adults always believe that urination will help children to form good habits of urination and defecation, and expect children to defecate according to the wishes of adults, for example, asking children to defecate at 10:00 a.m. whether they want to or not at that time. Merit mentality. If a child doesn’t wet his or her pants or never poops in his or her pants, the adult will take pride in this and gain a great sense of accomplishment. The damage done to the child by frequent urination The result of adults forcing children to urinate and defecate according to adult wishes is damage to the child’s own development of bowel control – the first damage: the child’s sphincter function lags behind Forcing the child to urinate before the child feels the urge to do so, constantly reminding the child to go to the bathroom to defecate and urinate (The less the sphincter is stimulated, the more the child’s function is delayed; these adult actions disrupt the development of the child’s urethral and anal sphincter functions. The second disruption: children have difficulty constructing their own defecation reflexes. Children who are forced to urinate, reminded to urinate and defecate, and forced to relieve themselves are controlled by external adult commands rather than by the child’s own neural reflexes. When there is an external command, the child follows the external command to defecate. When there is no one to remind the child or to urinate, the child’s bladder does not know to go to the bathroom to take off his pants and sit on the toilet to defecate even though his bladder is full of urine, and it is common for the child to defecate in his pants. The third damage: the child’s personality construct is damaged The child’s ability to control urination is lagging behind in development, and he is still wetting his pants at an age when his peers are already not wetting theirs, and such behavior will be scolded by adults and teased and joked about by his little friends, leading to serious damage to his self-esteem. Repairing the disrupted defecation reflex There is an eternal law in the development of life instincts: life instincts that have been delayed in development will find the time to redevelop and reconstruct. Since the function of the bowel system is a basic function that must be perfected in human life, once it is disrupted, the life instincts will initiate the repair process on their own. When the adult no longer controls the child 24/7 and the child is free to urinate and defecate, the child’s own defecation control system is given the opportunity to repair itself. The repair process begins with the defecation patterns of the infant stage and reoccurs through the four stages of development of the OCS as described above. Principle 1: Give your child time to rebuild his or her bowel control system. Principle 2: Relax and help your child rebuild his or her bowel reflex. Principle 3: Accept unconditionally the child’s repair behavior Let go of anxiety, wait patiently, and don’t care what others think Principle 4: Parents need to reflect on their parenting style Purpose of training the child to defecate When the child tells the parent that he or she needs to pee, it is time to take the child to the bathroom for defecation. Do not force your child to go to the bathroom to relieve themselves if they are not signaling to do so. In the early years of a child’s life, we need to train the child to defecate. The so-called defecation training is to help the child recognize in time when he has given the signal to defecate: go to the bathroom — take off his pants — sit on the toilet –then defecate. The purpose of training is to enable the child to know this procedure, the correct goal is to help the child cognize where to urinate and defecate, rather than asking the child to defecate according to the wishes of adults, defecation should be controlled by the child himself, which is a sure way to help children learn to control defecation. 1, the child is about one year old, you can prepare a urinal for him, to avoid the tension caused by the child too late to get to the bathroom. 2, once the child gives the signal to urinate, we will bring the urinal to the child. Gradually the child will know his special urinal and will automatically go to the urinal to relieve himself when he urinates. 3.After the child has mastered peeing in the potty, you can move the potty to the bathroom, and it will all be a natural transition. 4.The more you follow your child’s bowel control development, the more your child will be able to control his or her bowel movements. Does a child who is being urinated on always have problems? Children who have bowel problems have the following commonalities: First, children who have been continually (for more than 2-3 years) micturated or reminded to relieve themselves for a long time. Second, children who are persistently urinated on, where “persistently” means that the adult controls almost every bowel movement. Third, children who are regularly urinated on, or reminded and controlled by the caregiver, and who are required to relieve themselves according to the caregiver’s wishes. Children who meet all three of these conditions will definitely have bowel problems, and these children will still have problems with frequent peeing or pooping in their pants around age 6. Or they will defecate only when reminded by an adult, and they will defecate in their pants without an adult’s reminder. If the adult is urinating on the child, but not meeting the three conditions as described above, the child’s problem with defecation may not be too obvious, and the adult’s lack of persistence and lack of long-term persistence in the process presents an opportunity for the child to repair, and the child will have the opportunity to refine the development of his or her bowel reflex system. The view that “some children are being urinated on and have no problems” only excludes problems with the bowel system and does not consider whether the child’s healthy psychological and personality development is being disrupted by urination. Forced urination by adults destroys the child’s physiological self-management development as an independent person, and makes the child feel that he or she has no autonomy to urinate or defecate and has to follow the orders of others. These damages are not “obvious”, but do not mean that the child “does not have any problems”.