The quality of “with” is far more important than the length of “with”! The following five, if the mother has done three of them, then your baby is 99% bound to sticky! 1, always leave the child to the grandmother work busy mother, from childhood to leave the child to the grandmother, to kindergarten, every day is responsible for picking up and taking care of the grandmother. The first thing that you need to do is to get to school and prepare your lunch, and even go swimming, learn to paint, and play roller skating, all of which your grandmother is responsible for. It’s hard to be with your mother, but by nature, your child will be very close to her, not to mention that she often buys back new clothes and cute stationery, so once she finally has a chance to grab her mother’s coat, of course, she won’t relax! 2, overprotective of the child When the child wants to do something by himself, the mother always fusses and rushes to stop, afraid that the child will be hurt, and later on, the child feels that he can do nothing, nothing needs to be done, everything is fine with the mother. 3, the child does not have a peer playmate No peer playmate can do equal communication, grandmother always obedient can not stimulate the fun of competition, and separated by decades of generation gap, really can not because the same hobby spark, in this case, much younger than the grandmother and beautiful and fashionable mother is of course the first choice of the child. 4, not to the child’s “masterpiece” in time to give warm affirmation and praise Very early on, the child has also made their own clay dolls, has also been stacked blocks into what he thinks is very impressive, but also heart on the paper with oil sticks to paint a colorful, but the mother either can not see, or see also did not care. If the child holds the painting up to her eyes, the mother praises her, but the attitude is clearly perfunctory, in the long run, the child will not be interested in doing something on their own. 5, did not buy the child any intellectual toys When the child was small, probably bought hand rattles, rag dolls, bouncing balls and so on, with the growth of age, many things are no longer suitable for young children, the mother will not think of seven or eight-year-old children should play something, because piano lessons, dance lessons, English lessons, Go lessons and so on has been too busy. But mothers don’t know that toys are still very important for children of this age, and if they are not interested in what they are being forced into, children will not use their brains to think, and laziness in thinking will undoubtedly hinder normal intellectual development. For working moms: If mom has to go to work and leave, and the child keeps crying, then mom can establish a set of goodbye rituals between her and the child: such as hugging, waving, saying the agreed time to go home, giving the child an expectation, flying kisses …… so that the child can have a buffer of habit time mentally for mom to leave. Be close to your child immediately after work, turn off your phone to give your child half an hour of quality company, hug and kiss, and then play with her. Engage enthusiastically in whatever your child is playing, which can go a long way toward easing your child’s anxiety about not seeing her mom all day. No matter what, let your child know that although mommy can’t be there for me every moment, she is happy every time she is with her, and she loves me very much, which is more important than anything else.