The first step to successfully accomplish communication with older adults is to understand their psychology. The psychology of the elderly is very contradictory. It is undeniable that the elderly decline in memory, thinking and reaction in all aspects, and are pessimistic when there is a mismatch between the spiritual world he wants and the state of life that exists. With the dilution of social roles, the elderly are less recognized in the family and society, and for some of them who had small achievements in social work, the sense of loss is even stronger. People, at all times, are dignified beings. This manifestation not only wishes for food and clothing, but also needs spiritual pleasure. The need for spirituality is sometimes greater than the desire for material things, especially for the elderly who live a quiet life. If elderly people cannot adjust themselves and receive social care, they cannot smoothly complete the transition from middle age to old age, which may lead to physical illnesses or aggravate existing physical illnesses due to spiritual factors, thus making life in old age even worse. How to smoothly complete the physical and mental transition in accordance with the physical state of the elderly, accept their gradual aging in a peaceful state of mind and body and mind, calmly go to death, and gracefully finish the curtain of life is the last lesson that everyone should learn. In the context of an increasingly busy society, everyone needs to make psychological adjustments to themselves in advance. Technology is changing day by day, and the daily changes are endless, not to mention the elderly, even the young people are encountering an unprecedented crisis. In this situation, the advantage of experience is gone, do not say “I have eaten more salt than you have eaten rice”, age will only increase the probability of disease. With the disintegration of the small farm economy, human interaction has also broken the geographical boundaries, blood relations of family and friendship are becoming increasingly distant, replaced by interaction between strangers, and more relying on systems, laws and regulations to regulate human behavior. This reliance on regulations, rules, and norms to discipline groups makes the relationship between people more pure and utilitarian. This requires us, when interacting with people, to learn not only professional knowledge, but also humanistic knowledge. Thus, we can establish mutual trust between strangers, which is a prerequisite for communication. To communicate with the elderly, being kind to people is the first thing. Being kind-hearted and sympathetic to the difficulties of the elderly is a necessary cultivation. It is indeed difficult for people to grow old. Doing things incompetently, often forgetting things, and with simple interpersonal relationships, the elderly become more and more lonely. In this case, the elderly need more care, love and attention. But no matter what age we reach, we are also a social being, and laws, morals and norms are essential for people to be bound, and not to have privileges just because we become elderly, which is a concept that goes deep into the soul. That is, when can not rely on old age. Of course, as the country is aging and the number of elderly people is surging, the power of the family alone is not enough and needs to draw the attention of the whole society. Communicate with the elderly, but also to guide their minds. Recognizing certain difficulties of the elderly and causing empathy between the two sides is just a foundation for the next step of guiding their thoughts. When people get old, and with it, comes illness. The attitude towards diseases, especially for the long-term chronic diseases already in the elderly, must be set up for long-term coexistence with the disease, always pay attention to the changes in the condition, and never forget the policy of improving the quality of life, this concept should not only be accepted, but also implemented for a long time. Each of us must realize that living and dying is a process of life, and all we do is go with the flow. Some external environment can not be changed at all, we can only change the attitude towards the aging of the body and do can hold a calm and open-minded attitude. Life, no matter wonderful, or ordinary, is always a walk, no regrets and no complaints. Finally, in communication with the elderly, we must do, patient listening, kind smile, firm support, sincere companionship. Only when we spend the last part of our life calmly and quietly can we count on a perfect ending to our life. While accompanying others, we also gradually purify and wash our hearts and minds, and everyone gets old.