The first time sexual intercourse failure is very common, generally need to pass 2-5 attempts to succeed The first time sex, failure is a very common thing, failure is mostly related to the experience of having caress, which most of the failure after 2-5 attempts can be successfully combined. So even if you fail, do not be impatient or have any concerns and psychological shadows, you can try again after a little rest, or wait 1-2 days after the emotional stability of both parties before snapping. Couples sexual happiness, the importance of communication sexual science research shows that couples making love is a matter of both sides, is the need for two propellers turning at the same time, and then to balance the take-off of an aircraft. If one propeller starts when the other propeller does not cooperate, then how to fly can not fly. In fact, from the point of view of sexual psychology, couples in the process of lovemaking, if couples do not have a tacit understanding, do not understand each other’s sensitive points, favorite positions, etc., it is difficult to have a harmonious sex life. So that the couple’s sexual happiness, the importance of communication. Both sides can communicate about sex feelings through the end of each sex, so that each other more understand you, when reached a certain tacit understanding, each other’s a look, gestures, gestures, and even moaning can be heart to heart. After sex, you can not immediately eat cold things Sex often makes people feel hot and thirsty, so many people will choose to eat cold food to relieve. But I do not know that the changes caused by sexual excitement is only concentrated in the sensory nervous system and endocrine system, as the sexual excitement subsides, this change will slowly return to normal. The consumption of cold food, even if it has an irritating effect, is limited to the digestive tract. However, because the sympathetic nerves are more excited during sex, the blood in the gastrointestinal tract will be reduced compared to normal. Therefore, before the gastrointestinal mucosa is congested, immediately drink ice water, eat cold food will make the gastrointestinal mucosa suddenly encounter cold, the gastrointestinal damage to certain. In serious cases, it may also cause gastrointestinal discomfort or colic. So, whether it is summer or winter, experts suggest that if you feel thirsty after sex, you may want to drink a small amount of warm water or cold water, try not to drink ice water or cold drinks. Before and after sex, don’t forget to drink a glass of water before sex, drink 1-2 cups of water, will make the man’s sexual organs more fully engorged, erection more forceful and longer. The hydration will allow the body to have enough water to help make and transport sex hormones and to produce secretions quickly to provide lubricant. It also facilitates the ability to urinate promptly after sex, which can help prevent urinary tract infections. After sex, and then drink 1 cup of warm water, can timely replenish the body’s consumption of water, can increase blood dredging, accelerate blood circulation, help physical recovery, while reducing the viscosity of the blood. Before sex, pay attention to personal hygiene and cleanliness No matter how high your lust is, before sex should wash their bodies clean before making love, do not wait until after doing so and then take a love bath. This may be the beginning of a disease, which is likely to lead to urinary tract infections germs, causing inflammation. Therefore, in the enjoyment of fish and water, be sure to wash the body well beforehand, and to use soap or body wash, do not simply rinse a rinse on the hastily done. Some people prefer to use sex toys or sex toys to cheer, should also be used before the use of its thorough sterilization. Newlywed contraception to pay attention to the method After marriage, if you do not want to have children immediately, you can choose to use condoms or external contraceptives (pessary cream, tablets, film) to contraception is more appropriate, if you plan not to have children in 2 to 3 years, the woman can take oral short-acting contraceptives, if you want to get pregnant, should start to stop using oral contraceptives six months before pregnancy, during the suspension of other contraceptives. If you are using the IUD for contraception, you should have 2 to 3 normal periods after the IUD is removed before you get pregnant. Women who have the IUD, regardless of the length of time it has been in place, as a foreign body will have some effect on the mucous membrane of the uterus. After the removal of the ring, the mucous membrane of the uterus must have a recovery time, from the eugenic point of view, generally should wait for 2 to 3 normal menstruation before pregnancy. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who have been in the business for a long time, but not everyone is aware of the fact that “sex” is also about having manners. Two people in the sex life, if the man only care about themselves, and do not care about each other’s feelings, or after the man is satisfied, the woman is still not satisfied, the eyes show dislike, and even ridicule, etc., will make each other feel unhappy or hurt. Sex experts reminded that couples should follow sex etiquette: sex to seek each other’s consent in advance; do not regard intimacy as an obligation between partners; to conserve the partner’s sexual privacy; do not talk about “business” in bed; do not compare the sex partner’s bedside manner; do not demand that both sides together into orgasm, etc. The woman’s physiological period, the beginning and end of pregnancy should not have sex during the menstrual period, women’s vaginal secretions will be neutralized by the menstrual blood into alkaline, become a good bacterial culture, while the endometrium is shed, there are wounds in the uterus, the uterine mouth and slightly open, if you have sex at this time is very easy to bring bacteria into the body, causing inflammation of the reproductive organs. If you have a chronic pelvic inflammatory disease, menstrual sex can cause an acute attack. In the first three months of pregnancy and at the end, sex can stimulate the development of the fetus in the uterus and can easily cause miscarriage, so sex is also not recommended. After sex, not immediately sleep Men in sex, generally feel fatigue, therefore, many people like to fall asleep, thinking that this will be able to eliminate fatigue. In fact, the opposite is true, which will make the fatigue after ejaculation last until the next day. Usually, when couples have sex, from the beginning of the sexual excitement of both sides to the end of the orgasm, under normal circumstances, the duration is about 5 to 20 minutes, some people will be longer. The reason why there is a sense of fatigue after sex is mostly due to the brain and spinal cord that control the discharge of semen after ejaculation reflex function for a while to relax down. The nerves are excited and tense during ejaculation, and the nerves and spinal cord reflexes are relaxed after ejaculation. Young people have sensitive and active nerves, so they recover quickly, and some even recover immediately. For those who are older, the nerve response is relatively sluggish, and the recovery time is relatively longer. If you fall asleep immediately after ejaculation, the reflexes that cause fatigue continue to relax, and it is difficult for the fatigue to disappear. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a lot of money from the internet. Young or newlywed couples, sexual desire will be stronger, sexual life will also be more frequent. But with the growth of age, the number of sexual life will gradually reduce, about 1-2 times a week, and then gradually transition to 1 time a week. Ordinary strong healthy couples, 1-2 times a week sex is not excessive, but for those who are less healthy, it should be longer intervals. How can you tell if the number of times a couple has sex is moderate? Every time after sex does not feel tired, and can be full of energy, physical and mental happiness, energy, etc., this is the performance of sex life is moderate. If the sex life, the spirit of weakness, weakness, panic and shortness of breath, heavy head and legs, etc., it means that the sex life is too frequent, excessive, should be moderated. In addition, for healthy men, from the beginning of sexual intercourse to the emergence of orgasm ejaculation time to remain in about 3-15 minutes, a few people from the beginning of sexual intercourse to ejaculation time will last a long time. In women, it usually takes about 5-15 minutes from the beginning of intercourse to the appearance of orgasm, but there is a great deal of individual variation. Only in the process of sexual intercourse, which can be fully prepared beforehand, the duration of intercourse, even if it is shorter, both parties can be satisfied and all belong to the normal range. References: [1] Zhang Hong. 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