We are always in constant contact with things in our daily lives, and each time we come into contact with things, we will have some thoughts, and these thoughts will affect our own emotions, and we all know very well that positive thoughts will drive good emotions, while negative thoughts will make people emotionally depressed, if we can realize our bad thinking and try to correct it, then our emotions will naturally become sunny, here are Part of the list of common bad (wrong) thinking, compare, how many do you have?
All or nothing thinking is also called black or white, dichotomous thinking. You see a situation as having only two categories, rather than a continuum.
For example, “If I can’t be a complete success, then I’m a failure.”
Catastrophizing Also called luck divination. You pessimistically predict the future without taking into account some other more likely outcome.
For example, “I’ll be so distressed that I won’t be able to do anything.”
Ignoring or discounting positive experiences, behaviors or qualities that you tell yourself for no reason do not count.
Extreme events For example, I completed a program very well, but that doesn’t mean I was competent, I just got lucky
Labeling You put a fixed across-the-board label on yourself or others without considering that the evidence points to a more
reasonable conclusion that is not as bad.
For example, “I’m a loser.” “He has no merit.”
Magnifying/Narrowing When you evaluate yourself, another person, or a situation, you unreasonably magnify the negative and/or narrow the positive For example, “Getting a moderate rating proves how incompetent I am. Getting a high score doesn’t mean I’m smart.”
Mental filtering Also known as selective extraction. You are overly focused on some negative details and don’t see the whole picture of what is going on.
For example, “Because I got a very low rating (along with several very high ratings), it means that my work
performance sucks.”
Mind Reading You believe you know what other people think, without considering other, larger possibilities.
For example, “He thinks I didn’t know something about the program in the first place.”
Overgeneralization You jump to an outright negative conclusion that is long overdue for the present situation.
For example, “Because I always feel uncomfortable at parties, I don’t have what it takes to make friends in any way.”
Personalization You believe that other people are behaving unkindly because of you, without considering the more likely explanation.
For example, “This maintenance person is being rude to me because I’m doing something wrong.”
“Should” and “I” are also called imperatives. You have a stereotypical fixed idea of what you or someone else should do.
You have a stereotypical fixed idea of what you or someone else should do, and an overestimate of the consequences of not living up to expectations.
For example, “I made a mistake, it was terrible, and I should always do my best.”
Tunnel Vision You can only see the negative side.
For example, “My son’s teacher can’t do anything right; he’s fussy, slow to feel, and teaches poorly.