In fact, most children have had the experience of fighting over toys, but each child’s performance is different, some children as long as they see their favorite toys will go to grab, some children resolutely defend their toys others touch will grab back, some children only dare to grab the toys of children younger than him …… There are millions of forms of “grabbing”, so parents naturally have millions of ways to mediate, experts believe that we may wish to refer to some of the mother’s practices. A, distraction If it is under 2 years old babies grab toys, distraction method is very effective, because this stage of the child basically no reasoning, do not expect the child to listen to you say “you grabbed other people’s toys others will not be happy”, “if you do not share toys The reasoning behind this is that they are not mature enough to let go. The most common method used by Tao Tao’s mother is to divert attention, because she thinks that children are fighting for toys is a momentary interest, otherwise how can they usually do not play with things that others touched, so she usually “intervene” when children grab toys, such as taking out the children’s favorite food for them to eat, or start a She usually intervenes when the children are grabbing toys, such as bringing out something they like to eat, or starting a more interesting toy, or even grabbing a toy with the children. …… Doing so interrupts the direct confrontation between them, distracting them and defusing the emotions of the two in the heated conflict. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on a lot of things. Doudou’s mother has a good idea: when the children are fighting over toys, she will tell them: “Let’s compete together, and whoever wins will get a prize”. The competition could be anything from washing dishes, mopping, folding laundry, to playing chess or ball, and whoever wins gets a toy. This reward strategy can not only distract the children’s attention, let the children participate in the game, defuse the tension, but also let the children know that there will be pay to gain. Third, appropriate punishment In general, if adults guide the right way, children grab toys will soon dissipate the emotions, and can play together again. But for aggressive and possessive children, distraction and reward strategies may have little effect, then adults need to give some appropriate punishment. Mama Pudding suggests limiting the time he spends watching cartoons, or limiting the child’s consumption of scheduled food, or reducing the child’s allowance, or asking the child to reflect alone, etc. The exact form of punishment can be determined by each family’s situation. But note that the punishment must be carried out, not mommy punishing daddy relieving himself, otherwise the punishment will not be effective as well.