As you enter junior high school perhaps you will find that your personality, emotions, interests, interactions and needs have changed, and these changes will make everyone feel differently. For example, joy, surprise, confusion, and even anxiety and worry —– This article will help you to mature quickly and meet the challenges of the new period from three aspects: knowing yourself, accepting yourself, and regulating yourself.
1.Knowing yourself
1.1 The importance of knowing yourself
Wilde once said, “In this world, there is only one person I wish to know thoroughly, and that is myself.”
The junior high school stage is an important period of life and a critical period of nine-year compulsory education, which all require us to know ourselves better to adapt to the requirements of this stage.
The World Health Organization (WHO) defines health as not only the absence of physical illness, but also physical, mental and social good mind. From this, we can see that mental health is one of the three elements of health, and the pursuit of mental health is a sign of modern civilization. Knowing oneself is precisely an important element of mental health.
1.2 The way to know oneself
To know oneself is to make a proper judgment of one’s own characteristics, strengths, weaknesses and abilities.
There are two kinds of failure to make appropriate judgments: low self-esteem (low self-esteem) and conceit (high self-esteem). Both of these situations are distressing. Low self-esteem will make their own lack of confidence, do anything are worried, cowering, lack of courage and perseverance, intelligence can not give full play. Although conceited people appear to be full of energy and confidence, but because the goal is set unrealistically high, there is a great possibility of failure.
Plus this kind of people especially love to save face, can not stand the blow of failure often in one or several failures soon after a 180-degree turn, into an inferiority complex.
Su Dongpo has two lines of poetry: “do not know the true face of Mount Lushan, only to be in this mountain.” That is, people on the “self” as if they are in the hands of things, often difficult to correctly understand, in a sense, to know the “self” more difficult than to know the objective reality. Therefore, “it is important for people to know themselves”. Social psychologists call the psychological phenomenon that people have difficulty in knowing “self” correctly the “Su Dong Po effect”. The following test will help you to know yourself correctly.
I am not nervous when I speak in front of a large group of people
I take the initiative to greet people I know on the road
I will take the initiative to ask for help when I encounter difficulties
●I take the initiative to greet strangers when I travel
I take responsibility if I make a mistake
●I will congratulate a good friend when he or she achieves something
I don’t think saying “I don’t know” is an admission of my ignorance
I always have the desire to do better than others in my work and study
I don’t blame others when things don’t go well or don’t go well
● I actively care about and participate in class work whether I am a class officer or not
If you have more than 8 affirmative answers to the above test questions, it means that the test taker is mentally healthy and has strong self-confidence; if you have more than 5 affirmative answers, it means that your self-confidence is relatively strong; if you have less than 5 affirmative answers, your self-confidence needs to be improved.
2.Accept yourself
Acceptance of themselves is also the process of facing reality, as long as the heart to admit that people have shortcomings, have strengths, are not perfect, I am not exempt, I’m afraid I can be much more objective and real, you can think of it this way, I certainly have shortcomings, but I certainly have a lot of strengths.
Anyone in the world put in front of me, even Beckham, I can find a place better than him, even a little, do not believe? Beckham looks good everywhere, even his wife is super pretty, but he has a compulsive personality: every time he must wear new sneakers and new socks on the field, to put all the coke in the fridge in a symmetrical shape, and so on.
In turn, should also recognize that I have the advantages, but I also have quite a lot of shortcomings, just put any person in the world in front of me, even if it is a beggar, I can find out what is not as good as him, even a little, do not believe? Beggars really look open, put down, the seemingly complex life to do the maximum degree of simplification, in addition to filling the stomach every day, fell into the light of nothing. This kind of courage and free and easy, I did not.
Are we mentally healthy after accepting ourselves? You should further regulate yourself in order to achieve true mental health and pass through the middle school stage smoothly.
3.Regulate yourself
Combined with the characteristics of the junior high school stage, we should regulate ourselves in the following ways
3.1 Learning with joy
Confucius said: “Those who know are better than those who know well, and those who know well are better than those who enjoy knowing”. Without a strong interest in the learning activity itself and learning for pleasure, it is unbelievable that learning can be successful.
Bacon once said, “To know is a pleasure, and to be curious is the germ of knowledge”. Imagine if there was no Darwin’s childhood interest in insects, there is no later magnum opus “Origin of Species”? We need to discover the aspects of learning that interest us and further develop it into our own aspirations, and we will also find the joy of learning.
3.2 Keeping attention focused
The main task of junior high school is to study, the academic burden is very heavy, how to effectively arrange time to improve the efficiency of learning?
The great educator Zhu Xi once said, “Reading has three to, that is, the heart to, eye to, mouth to, three to, the heart to the most urgent, the heart is to carry on, eye mouth is not to be?” From this, we can see that learning should be done with the eyes, mouth and heart. Among the “three to”, the heart to is particularly important. Only the “heart to” attention to focus, learning efficiency is likely to improve. This is the so-called attention to focus. Let’s test your concentration.
Put a tick in front of the sentence that fits your situation, and see how well you pay attention.
★In class, it was raining heavily outside the window, and I had a mental image of hiking in the rain with my classmates
★I hadn’t come across this problem before, but I finally solved it after concentrating on it for half an hour
I often skip words or misread words when reading a text, sometimes even reading the wrong line
I was in the middle of my homework at night when the sound of TV was coming from the next room, and I couldn’t sit still.
I always listen to the lecture but not remember, remember but not read
I often lose things on tests, miss questions, or “skip questions” in the process of solving them.
★I can always sense a lot of information from the teacher’s gestures and expressions in class
I never eat or listen to music while doing homework
Discuss in small groups to see which of the above situations are good for learning? Then think about how to further improve your concentration in comparison with yourself [2].
Madame Curie said, “When studying, concentrate like a gyroscope and exclude distractions so that you can have greater results.”
3.3 Keeping the adolescent train running smoothly
Middle school is also an important developmental stage of adolescence, perhaps you will find us from a little girl with a bow on her head bouncing around, pestering her mother all day to tell stories, growing into a pavilion, charming young girl; or from a little boy covered in sludge, lively and naughty, growing into a poised, vigorous young man.
”All ignorance is regrettable, but ignorance of such things as sex is a serious danger ——” This quote from Russell illustrates the importance of adolescent mental health education. How to make the train of youth depart smoothly? Firstly, we should correctly understand and appreciate the physiological and psychological changes during puberty, and secondly, we should pay attention to pubertal hygiene, nutrition and fitness.
3.4 Set clear goals and put them into action
The main task of junior high school is to study. We have all learned “For Learning”, and the story of the two monks illustrates the truth of setting clear goals and putting them into action. Yu Minhong often says: “Do not wait for the best job to begin to work” is also this truth.
The goal we are destined to achieve is not to enjoy or lament, but to act, to see how much further we can go than today.
Jane Fonda compared life to a play in three acts, so the three aspects of knowing yourself, accepting yourself, and regulating yourself are the three acts of mental health in junior high school, remember that the third act is definitely the key, and the pieces that seem to have been scattered inadvertently in the first two acts will be connected in the third act, and your junior high life will be more exciting!