Self-regulation of emotions Most emotional distress or mental illnesses need to be resolved to some extent by yourself. The psychologist only gives you a direction or advice, and it is up to the person to come out of the distress. Many people who come to see a psychiatrist assume that once a relationship is established, the doctor will be passionate about helping the person get out of the situation, which is an assumption. A psychiatrist is more like a library, where you access the information and what you do with it is your own business, not the book. Perhaps I am devaluing the role of the psychologist, however, it is more beneficial to the person’s own recovery if they remove the myth of the psychologist. Suffering is a necessary stage in the growth of the self, and since it is a growth worry, it is also a growth to be resolved. If one understands that emotional distress is a natural state of human existence, happiness and sadness alternate, cheerfulness and depression also alternate, think day and night. You can think of emotional distress as an unexpected “guest”. When a guest comes to your home, it makes you feel uncomfortable, you can’t be so casual, you have to be more disciplined in sitting and dressing, and you have taboos in talking and doing things. But the guest will leave, it is not your family, so think about it is not so uncomfortable. Third, culture has created the splendor of human beings and the dilemma of human existence. Culture has turned the world without poles into a polarized one, and a disordered society into an orderly one, stripping people with animal nature from the natural world to become conformist social beings. According to the dominant cultural model, each person has to cut his or her feet to fit the shoes to become an ordinary person, and needs to de-individualize and add commonality to conform to cultural expectations. Just like Chekhov’s “The Man in the Trap”, we are the ones who are forced into the cultural trap. If you identify with the pain, then the pain will no longer bother you, but will become a resource for you. If you don’t identify with the pain, wish you didn’t have it, or try to eliminate it quickly, then you expand the pain. There are many ways of somatic self-regulation, and for thousands of years people have been practicing through the practice of Nu. There are two levels of self-regulation, one conceptual and one somatic. Here I would like to focus on adapting to the environment by changing perceptions, and here are three principles: Greater self-control. It is from the body to the mind, and then from the mind to the body, that the practice is the trick to self-regulation or body nourishment. Most scholars or writers, probably because of their own preference, often exaggerate the function of some kind of self-regulation, as if to tell the reader that if you persist you can reorganize your mind and get rid of your troubles. In fact, there is no such self-regulation in the world that is only beneficial but not harmful. Just as a relaxed running workout can also cause knee wear, to improve the mind and body through self-emotional regulation, we must dispel some superstitions so that people can choose the way or degree of self-regulation according to their own characteristics. Otherwise, the more you want to improve the more tired you are by its efforts. Just as the more you want to sleep the more you can’t sleep, the more you want to sleep the idea of making your own nerves in the excitement. I. All the pain is related to the perception system you choose, if you change the perception, the psychological pain will not be cured. Why? Because our behavior, thoughts, and desires are often limited by our own conceptual system, and we cannot live as we wish, and this creates suffering. For example, if we appreciate beautiful women and express our love openly in a crowd, that openness is overshadowed by the fear of being denounced as a womanizer. If people can do their own thing and do not have to take responsibility and risk is very little trouble. Most emotional distress or mental illness is to be solved by yourself, the psychologist only gives you a direction or advice, whether you can get out of the distress all depends on the person himself. Many people who come to see a psychiatrist assume that once they have established a relationship, the doctor will be passionate about helping the person get out of the situation, which is an assumption. The psychologist is more like a library, where you access the information and what you do with it is your own business, not the book. Perhaps I am devaluing the role of the psychologist, however, it is more beneficial to the person’s own recovery if they remove the myth of the psychologist. There are two levels of self-regulation, one conceptual and one somatic. I prefer to adapt to my environment by changing my perceptions, and there are no more than three principles here: One, all suffering is related to the perception system you choose, and if you change your perceptions, your psychological suffering will not be cured. Why? Because our behavior, thoughts, and desires are often limited by our own conceptual system, and we cannot live as we wish, which creates suffering. For example, if we appreciate beautiful women and express our love openly in a crowd, that openness is overshadowed by the fear of being denounced as a lustful person. If people can do their own thing and do not have to take responsibility and risk is very little trouble. Second, all psychological pain has meaning, all experiences are important to life. Psychological pain II. All psychological pain has meaning, and all experiences are important to life. Mental pain is a necessary stage for the self in growth, and since it is a growth worry, it is also to be solved by growth. If one understands that emotional distress is a natural state of human existence, happiness and sadness alternate, and cheerfulness and depression alternate, like day and night. Think of emotional distress as an unexpected “guest”. When a guest comes to your home, it makes you feel uncomfortable, you can’t be so casual, you have to be more disciplined in sitting and dressing, and you have taboos in talking and doing things. But the guest will leave, it is not your family, so think about it is not so uncomfortable. Self-emotional regulation analysis Most emotional distress or mental illness is to rely on their own to solve, the psychologist is only to give you a direction or advice, whether you can come out of the distress all depends on the person himself. Many people who come to see a psychiatrist assume that once they have established a relationship, the doctor will be passionate about helping the person out of their situation. The psychologist is more like a library, where you access the information and what you do with it is your own business, not the book. Perhaps I am devaluing the role of the psychologist, however, it is more beneficial to the person’s own recovery if they remove the myth of the psychologist. There are two levels of self-regulation, one conceptual and one somatic. I prefer to adapt to my environment by changing my perceptions, and there are no more than three principles here: One, all suffering is related to the perception system you choose, and if you change your perceptions, your psychological suffering will not be cured. Why? Because our behavior, thoughts, and desires are often limited by our own conceptual system, and we cannot live as we wish, which creates suffering. For example, if we appreciate beautiful women and express our love openly in a crowd, that openness is overshadowed by the fear of being denounced as a lustful person. If people can do their own thing and do not have to take responsibility and risk is very little trouble. All mental suffering has meaning and all experiences are important to life. Most emotional distress or mental illnesses have to be solved on their own, the psychologist only gives you a direction or advice, whether you can get out of the distress depends on the person himself. Many people who come to see a psychiatrist assume that once a relationship is established, the doctor will be passionate about helping the person get out of the situation, which is an assumption. The psychologist is more like a library, where you access the information and what you do with it is your own business, not the book. Perhaps I am devaluing the role of the psychologist, however, it is more beneficial to the person’s own recovery if they remove the myth of the psychologist. There are two levels of self-regulation, one conceptual and one somatic. I prefer to adapt to my environment by changing my perceptions, and there are no more than three principles here: One, all suffering is related to the perception system you choose, and if you change your perceptions, your psychological suffering will not be cured. Why? Because our behavior, thoughts, and desires are often limited by our own conceptual system, and we cannot live as we wish, which creates suffering. For example, if we appreciate beautiful women and express our love openly in a crowd, that openness is overshadowed by the fear of being denounced as a lustful person. If people can do their own thing and do not have to take responsibility and risk is very little trouble. Second, all psychological pain has meaning, and all experiences are important to life. Psychological pain III. Culture has created the splendor of mankind and the dilemma of human existence. Culture has turned a world without poles into a world with poles, made a disorderly society orderly, and stripped people with animal natures from nature to become conformist social beings. According to the dominant cultural model, each person has to cut his or her feet to fit the shoes to become an ordinary person, and needs to de-individualize and add commonality to conform to cultural expectations. Just like Chekhov’s “The Man in the Trap”, we are the ones who are forced into the cultural trap. If you identify with the pain, then the pain will no longer bother you, but will become a resource for you. If you don’t identify with the pain, wish you didn’t have it, or try to eliminate it quickly, then you expand the pain.