In our daily life, from dressing and eating to choosing a spouse, we are often faced with various choices. In each case, we will be faced with a choice, we will go through a comparison, weighing the pros and cons of each option. During this period, it is normal to have occasional hesitation. However, some people are different, compared to ordinary people, they treat every choice very carefully, even a very small thing will be indecisive, afraid of their future because of a choice and regret, and some even affect their work and life. If such a situation occurs, we must be alert, it is likely to be a psychological disorder called “selection difficulties”. ”Choice difficulties” in psychology is called multiple avoidance psychological conflict Miss Wang (a pseudonym) is a notoriously difficult choice in the dormitory, every day, she will be faced with a variety of choices and distress. Every day at dinner, Miss Wang will always be torn by the choice of what to eat, choose meat for fear of becoming fat, choose fish and fear of fishy taste, choose vegetables and feel that they will not be able to keep up with the energy, can not properly study in the afternoon …… roommates are not very willing to eat with her, because Miss Wang will consider what to eat and delay a lot of time. Recently, Ms. Wang was faced with a major choice in life. She is about to embark on a job interview, two companies have thrown her an olive branch. A company is a listed company, where you can learn a lot of skills, and the treatment is better, but the work will be more tired, and far from home; another company is a small company, the work will be easier, but the treatment will be worse. For this reason, Miss Wang has been torn for a long time, has been unable to make a choice, and even insomnia for this reason. ”Difficulty in choosing” is not a disease, but a symptom of performance, known in psychology as multiple avoidance of psychological conflict, refers to the simultaneous existence of two or more goals, each with advantages, but also its disadvantages, people have the role of both attraction and repulsion, so that people are indecisive, difficult to choose. Most people with “choice difficulties” have anxious personalities The reason why there are choice difficulties is mainly related to each person’s personality. Generally speaking, people with anxious personalities are more likely to have difficulty choosing, they are prone to worry, sensitive, suspicious, hesitant, and sometimes even a little perfectionist. Everyone weighs the pros and cons when making a choice, but for anxious personalities, when they are required to make a choice, they tend to look ahead and back, and when faced with a choice, they often find it difficult. In fact, anxious and depressed personalities sometimes intersect, and for such people, it is easier to expand the negative ideas of things when making choices, and in many cases, even those with a certain amount of luck and a low probability of negative situations as a starting point for consideration, making it more difficult to make a choice. Difficulty in making choices is only one of the symptoms of anxiety, but if it is prolonged and not well adjusted, other situations such as worrying about one’s future may also arise. In severe cases, this may even lead to anxiety disorders. Personality change needs to be gradual. First, accept your personality flaws and make up your mind to change. Many people are aware of their personality shortcomings, but it is not easy to make up your mind to change your own. Because in the process of personality change, people will suffer new pain, and the result of change is full of unknown. Secondly, the adjustment of personality should pay attention to gradual progress, you can pay more attention to training and improving yourself in daily life. For example, you can make a record of the things you do to make decisions every day, and consider more good aspects when making choices. In addition, when choosing, you can first choose one of them quickly, and when problems arise, then according to the problems you encounter to deal with them and find a solution. Also, in the process of choosing, you can make an active rating of the pros and cons and deal with them according to the high rating. In addition, many people are afraid to choose because they are afraid that they will regret the choice later. When this happens, the mind must have the idea of going with the flow and not blaming oneself too much. Letting nature take its course is a very important concept in psychology. When there is a situation of regret, do not aggravate your distress in order to overcome this emotion, thus making yourself fall into a vicious circle, but should accept it with the usual mind of letting it be and going with the flow. Of course, let nature take its course is not to let go and do nothing, but on the one hand, to accept their emotions with a normal heart, on the other hand, to try to do what they should do, in the process of improving their character.