1. What are you doing while your child is doing homework? [Mistake]: Watching TV while supervising your child, chanting, “Write faster.” “Don’t dawdle.” “Don’t watch TV, study hard.” [Result]: The child is unhappy: “Why can you watch TV and I can’t? It’s not fair.” [Correct approach]: Adults also read books, do not disturb children, create a strong family learning atmosphere. [Result]: The child is calm and his mind is on learning. 2. Your child is dawdling, procrastinating and inattentive when it is time to go to bed, but the homework is not finished. What would you do? [wrong approach]: reprimand your child: “You’re so angry with me, why didn’t you finish your homework again, I can’t even watch you for a while, hurry up and write! I’m watching you.” [Result]: The child is not in a hurry and still looks at it slowly [Correct approach]: Seriously and calmly say to the child: “Child, writing homework is your own business, you have to be responsible for your own business, you are not allowed to finish it, it’s time to go to bed, go to school tomorrow and explain to the teacher by yourself.” (Appropriately let the child bear some consequences of his or her own behavior.) [Result]: The child realizes his mistake and regrets it. He thinks to himself, “This is the end, how can I tell the teacher? 3. What should you do if your child keeps watching TV and doesn’t sleep or do his homework? [Wrong way]: Turn off the TV in anger and yell at your child to do homework or go to bed. [Result]: Your child goes to bed with an unhappy stomach, hating you in his heart and calling you a tyrant. [Correct approach]: Calmly say to your child, “Son, it’s time for you to do your homework, and you will be criticized if you don’t finish it. How much longer do you want to read?” Child: “Can I watch for another 10 minutes?” Parent: “Yes, I’ll turn off the TV when it’s time.” Each side takes a step back. [Result]: When the time is up, the child turns off the TV voluntarily and goes to bed or does homework. 4. What do you do when your child scribbles his homework? [Wrong approach]: Get angry: “Why do you write so messy, can’t you write better?” Even tear up your child’s homework in anger. [Result]: The child is confused and doesn’t know what to do. [Correct approach]: Seriously and calmly say to the child: “Son, I have already said that if you don’t write neatly, you have to rewrite it, because if you don’t write neatly, the teacher can’t see it clearly, and you see, this is the “rule”, so you can’t break it, so you have to rewrite it. Look, you should write like this (tell about the standard of writing, horizontal and vertical, the same size.). . Child, you just have to write better than what you just wrote (compared to yourself), are you confident?” [Result]: The child understands the importance of “rules” and thinks, “It’s easy to improve on what you just wrote.” The child will have confidence in himself/herself. 5. What do you do when you see your child’s report card after he/she fails a test? [wrong practice]: reprimand your child: “Look at you, you got such a little score, don’t you think you’re ashamed? Look at others, how can they get a hundred? You’re so stupid! I’m so angry.” Some even kicked the child a few times. [Result]: The child is in a bad mood, thinking, “I’m finished, I’m so stupid, I can’t learn anymore, no matter how much I learn.” [Correct approach]: Comfort the child: “Child, I know you are not feeling well, one failure does not mean anything, the key is to find out the reasons for not doing well and then solve it, OK, I will analyze it with you. I believe you, next time there will be progress.” [Result]: The child went to find the reason seriously and thought in his heart, “I will try my best to live up to mom and dad’s expectation, I will do it.” 6. What do you do when you get home from a parent-teacher conference and the teacher tells your child off or you get criticized by the teacher? [wrong practice]: As soon as you get home, you take it out on your child, hitting and scolding him/her. [Result]: The child will not have any self-confidence, and will either learn to be violent or timid, and will not dare to say a word, and will learn to lie and not dare to tell the truth to parents. [Correct approach]: First talk about the child’s strengths, then analyze the reasons for the shortcomings, encourage the child, and believe that the child will improve next time. [Result]: The child will give you a surprise! 7. What should you do when your child does not greet people and has no manners? [Wrong approach]: Reprimand your child in public: “Why is your child so rude? You don’t even know how to say hello, how did I teach you?” [Result]: The child’s self-esteem will be greatly damaged, and he or she will feel ashamed of himself or herself. [Correct approach]: Give the child a step down: “My child is a little embarrassed, it will slowly get better, he is usually quite polite.” Give an example of being polite” [Result]: The child knows that he is wrong and thinks, “I didn’t do well this time, I will do well next time, I can’t let my parents down.” 8. The child asks a question that you don’t know, what do you do at that moment? [Wrong approach]: Unhappy: “Don’t ask blindly, just get your study done, you don’t know what to think about every day.” [Result]: The child thinks: “Hey, it’s no fun, always talking about learning and studying, it’s annoying, don’t ask, don’t ask.” From then on, the child skips all the difficult problems and does not seek to understand them. [correct approach]: happily say to the child: “child, you can ask such difficult questions, prove that you use your brain, good. But I don’t know how to do it either, let’s study it together, okay?” [Result]: The child was so happy that he would persevere in the future when he encountered problems and had to study and understand them. 9. What do you do when your child doesn’t get up in the morning and won’t get up no matter how you call him? [Wrong way]: Get angry: “Why don’t you get up? You’re going to be late!” Slap your child twice, and then get your child dressed in a hurry. [Result]: The next time, the same thing happens. [Correct approach]: Calmly say, “Son, I’ll call you once, if you don’t get up, you’ll be late and will be criticized, it’s your own business, you handle it yourself.” The child didn’t get up in time to eat breakfast and was late. [Result]: Next time get up when called.