Sources of anxiety
①Emotions: including family, friendship, love, and interpersonal relationships. For example, someone cares a lot about the likes and comments on the things he sends out in his “circle of friends”. How high my friends’ recognition, see friends getting better and better and triggered by the loss of self. And the more anxious you are, the more you have to look at, through life disappointments or catastrophic events to find a sense of balance, only 3 hours of sleep a night.
②Money: not because of less money and anxiety, gain and loss more become the cause of anxiety. For example: the stock market brought about by the reduction of property, a customer in a stock market crash loss of hundreds of millions of dollars. A certain boss has three lifetimes of inexhaustible money to spend, but because of how to let the money become a source of anxiety, and therefore sleepless nights.
③Children’s growth: The experience of having a family is stronger. Many parents superficially just want their children to be happy and healthy, but the actual point of anxiety are the parents’ expectations for their children and their planning for their children’s future. They are even anxious about what kind of object their children will find.
④ Self-reasons: dissatisfaction with their own state. Such as: feel that they should be better, should get more love, earn more money. Feel condescending, unlucky, etc. Think about it, do you love yourself? If you do not love yourself, what makes others like you? Why let others into your psychological world?
⑤ Uncontrollable factors: from the air, transportation, being cheated, etc., but most occur in foreigners on these things dissatisfaction and unease, the national almost will not rise to the level of anxiety for such natural disasters.
What kind of symptoms feel that you are anxious?
①Psychological irritability
Mental irritability, restlessness, lack of patience, a little bit to the family, easy to hurt people, will affect the mood of things repeatedly thinking.
②Difficulty in falling asleep and intermittent sleep
Gastrointestinal functional discomfort, headache and dizziness, bad cervical spine, autonomic instability, chest tightness can not breathe and other performance. Boys anxiety for a long time hair loss, girls anxiety for a long time the skin tone becomes worse, blood color is not enough to “hang”.
③ Things are not as they should be
Anxious people are characterized by the feeling that things are not as they should be. It is very difficult for these people to accept the reality that things are not going as expected.
How to deal with anxiety properly?
①Accept reality and do not complain
Psychologically speaking, the first point of not being anxious is to accept reality, not to deny it or complain about it. Patients often never think about how to solve the matter, and more importantly, they are not rational enough to accept the objective existence of the cause of the fact. In fact, it is only by accepting and facing it that one can rationally think of a solution. In fact, the process of starting to solve things grows on its own and arranges the preferred solution, the alternative solution.
②Make anxiety fade away (consciousness reinforcement)
When you are in anxiety, tell yourself every day: 1. This thing affects my mood; 2. It affects my work life status. This stream of consciousness should be reinforced by taking a small amount of time each day to ask yourself, “Am I anxious today? Think about why I have this emotion? How to regulate and solve this emotion? It only takes 5 to 10 minutes a day. After this subjective consciousness forms a habit, it will become subconscious. Many people don’t want to be anxious, but they can’t control it, and it’s the subconscious that can’t be controlled. If the subjective consciousness is not strong enough, it will be controlled by the subconscious “you”, so anxiety will appear.
③Find yourself
How to let go of inner anxiety? Instead of thinking about the specific factors of anxiety, we should accept and face the reality, and try to find ourselves, where we are and what kind of state we are in. When in a state of anxiety, it is impossible to pull out the ego, so shift your attention to the process of finding the ego. When reflecting quietly, many people’s test experience tells them that the source of the anxiety is their emotional state, desire state, survival state, etc., and not the thing itself.
How to reduce anxiety?
①To reduce anxiety, you must build your own spiritual world
A person with a rich spiritual world may have anxiety, but not a constant state of anxiety. Once you are anxious about something for more than a week, you are in a state of anxiety, and for more than a month, you are not far from anxiety disorder. If you are anxious about one thing for more than 3 months, you must be treated according to the symptoms. What kind of people do not easily fall into anxiety? If the inner spiritual world is very rich, it will be easy to have alternatives, many interests, very independent, and it is easy to transfer anxiety, and your anxiety will disappear naturally. The premise is to have your own spiritual world, do not live for whom, “live for the children” such people do not have their own rich spiritual world, psychology is a respect for the self of the living body is the first.
②Independent spiritual world
In the face of external disturbances, social temptations, interpersonal relationships, and a fickle world, how is it possible not to be anxious? Need to have an independent spiritual world, must be clear with the outside world (including family, love). A certain sense of distance is necessary, this distance is to give each other space, is enough respect for another living organism, but also to give yourself an independent space, people and people must have distance, love and affection must have distance, people and society must also have distance. You can’t wrap your life body completely around another. There must be a place where you can quiet your mind and have a proper distance from the surrounding, which is the distance of coexistence.
In today’s society, many people take it for granted to check their significant other’s cell phone communication, which is ridiculous in psychology, so why not give each other a space and trust? A good relationship does not need to look at the phone to detect a problem, if a relationship where both parties have to look at each other’s phones to know what he is doing, it means that the relationship already needs to be fixed. That’s why it’s essential to respect and give space, that is, distance. Distance produces beauty, and every proper distance is a key point to keep things going.
③Diversion
If you can’t solve your anxiety using the above methods, experts tell you that anxiety can definitely be cured through diversion. A psychologist can definitely help you by listening to some advice and using some medication. In fact, anxiety medication and depression is different, can have a short time effect, “quick” effect.