When our friends or loved ones feel depressed or sad, confused, etc. and don’t feel good: what we shouldn’t do vs. what we should do. What we shouldn’t do What we should do People generally think that cognition and thoughts are under their own control, so how can they be so influenced by emotions? In fact, sometimes emotions have a really big impact on cognition. Some depressed patients summed up a rule: when happy, most of what they think of is optimistic, when sad, most of what they think of is pessimistic. Happy when the negative side of things feel more numb, not sensitive; pessimistic negative when the positive side of things feel numb, and sensitive to the negative side, so think of the negative side of things, the imagination is very vivid, the impact is relatively large. — These are not intentionally controlled, but involuntarily. What not to do What should be done The depressed person appears lazy, does not want to move, the person who was diligent and active now becomes inactive, does not want to do anything, does not want to go to school, does not want to go to work, does not want to be active, do not think he is really just lazy, in fact, that is a symptom of the disease. What you shouldn’t do What you should do When we are generally tired at work, we will often choose to take a hot bath, take a walk on the street, etc. to relieve ourselves, or at most take a leave of absence and rest for a while to get back to work. However, people with depression cannot recover their energy by resting, and if they continue to work at high intensity at this time, it will be more detrimental to their condition. So when they say they are tired, they are really tired, that is physically exhausted and mentally tired! What not to do What should be done When depressed people feel they are sick, as loved ones and friends you should feel grateful that at least they can realize they are sick, there is the possibility of going to the hospital for treatment, and recovery is not far away. What not to do What to do As depression worsens many people will experience a shift from “unhappy” to “not wanting to live”. With the development of the disease, patients will become slow in thinking, willful activities, cognitive, emotional and communication disorders, work ability, interpersonal skills and self-care ability. If left untreated, the condition will develop from “unhappy” to “unable to live” or even “do not want to live”. At this time, in addition to understanding, the main thing is to help the person to get treatment. What not to do and what to do For people with depression, even the lightest mental burden can bring unbearable psychological stress. Some of these stresses are not much for ordinary people, but depressed people do not have the strength to fight even the slightest negative emotion, which can push them deeper and deeper into a mental rut. Don’t push them to do anything. A peaceful environment is very important for depressed people. What not to do What to do Depressed people often show indifference to people or things around them, which can be best described as a sense of powerlessness. What not to do What to do In addition to often not wanting to talk, often can not help but emotional outbursts, temper tantrums, I hope we can understand, for this emotional outbursts depressed patients themselves are also very distressed. At this time, please do not give more pressure, what they need is love and understanding. What not to do What to do The opposite of depression is more “vitality”, the body is trapped by the disease, resulting in life is also like being trapped, the energy in the body seems to be drained, resulting in life is also like being emptied. So don’t say “be happy” or “think happy” to depressed people, it’s not the mood that causes depression, being happy and thinking happy won’t relieve their pain, not to mention the fact that most depressed people have lost What’s more, most depressed people have lost the mental regulation mechanism of “be happy and think happy”. You know what? A little more understanding of depressed people will reduce their pain. A depressed friend once told me: When I feel bad, please don’t use “comparison” and “rules” to tell me that I should get better quickly, I prefer you to be with me, to listen to what is going on, to make me feel that I am not alone. If we meet depressed friends around us, I hope you can give the right help, and Ann is always here to care and accompany every depressed friend.