Many mothers report that their children are disobedient, and the more painstakingly they teach them, the less effective they are. On the contrary, some parents share their experience in educating their children: the more they control their children, the more disobedient they become, but the more obedient they become! The more you ignore your child, the more obedient he becomes. In fact, the reason is very simple, most of the children now is “eat soft not hard”, on the contrary, everywhere discipline him, but the result is “you let him go east he is to the west”. Why the more children “regardless” the more obedient? 1, nagging makes children more numb Many parents have this experience, children naughty, at first criticize him two sentences still listen, but then do not listen. Parents inferred that the child’s ability to grow, leathery, do not put the words of parents in the eye. In fact, most children are annoyed when they hear their parents nagging them. Think about it, when you were a child, were you also very tired of your parents’ nagging? Especially the rebellious children, the face of the parents of repeated nagging directly as a wind, because the child heard more, numb. 2, scolding will only be counterproductive In the face of naughty children, parents inevitably hate iron, can not help but scold two sentences, or even beat a few. However, harsh reprimand and scolding is one of the main reasons why children become more and more rebellious. The most frequently asked question about children’s education is “Does scolding work?” The answer is: scolding is the most stupid way to teach. Children who are scolded a lot during childhood grow up to be either timid and fearful, obsequious, or impatient, sensitive and impulsive. Therefore, there is no benefit to scolding your child. 3, “arranged” education makes the child resentful A heart for the good of the child, do not want the child to suffer, hoping that the child study excellent examination a good university …… Many parents who want their sons to become dragons and daughters to become phoenixes have carried out “arranged” education for their children, arranging for them to attend special classes, quitting their jobs to accompany them, and having balanced nutrition for three meals …… However, the results do not help. 3 strokes to make children more and more obedient 1, more praise less criticism Children are children, after all, need parents coaxing, praise language not only children love to hear, adults listened to the heart is also beautiful. Therefore, more praise for children, less critical language, not only to inspire children’s self-confidence and action, but also to draw closer the emotions between parents and children, so that children are more willing to talk to their parents, the family atmosphere will be more harmonious. 2, more and children to discuss things more and children to discuss, in fact, to respect the child. Respect your child’s interests, decisions and opinions, dawdling and mischief, privacy and secrets, etc. To really respect children, parents must first lower their posture and learn to crouch down and talk to their children. If a child is unwilling or resentful to do something, parents should not force, learn to calmly communicate with the child to discuss. 3, give your child freedom big tree worried about the small tree can not withstand the wind and rain, so they hide the small tree in their own shade, however, years later, the small tree can not continue to grow beyond the branches of the tree up. The same is true for children’s education. Parents’ shelter only provides the sunlight, soil and water necessary for their children to grow, but in order for them to grow better, parents should be brave enough to let go and give their children the space to play freely. For the sake of their children’s growth and for the sake of their children to be more obedient, parents should be merciful, show mercy, give more guidance and praise, and less discipline and punishment. You can’t learn to educate your child in a day or two, and there are no perfect parents, so keep up the good work, parents!