However, for various reasons, many children’s learning process does not go smoothly, such as inattentiveness, inefficiency, lack of initiative to complete homework, obsession with the Internet, headaches and other physical discomfort when it is time to go to school or enter the school, sleep in class, and even later simply drop out of school and a series of aversion to learning and behavior. In the face of this situation, parents and teachers are very anxious, repeatedly talk to the child also does not help, some parents either violence to force the child to go to school, or take the child to and from major hospitals, and finally exhausted and had to give up, the result of the child at home to do nothing, wasting years, and finally nothing, mediocre. Parents’ wish for their children to become dragons and phoenixes has never been realized. In the 16 years of clinical counseling, among the large number of cases of children and adolescents I have contacted, boredom is the most common theme. So, what should students do if they are bored with school? First, we need to understand the emotions associated with boredom. (1) Dislike Dislike is an emotion of dislike. Dislike itself is not good or bad, and it is normal to have dislike emotions and avoidance behaviors in the face of things or things you do not like. However, in the face of the learning that should be very meaningful to life, the emergence of hate emotions, but it is worth paying attention to. Because dislike brings about passive learning and avoidance behavior, it is a self-destructive effect that must be intervened in a timely manner. (2) Nervousness, anxiety and even fear This is a group of anxiety emotions, students placed in a learning or school environment, for various reasons, such as low self-esteem, fear of not doing well in exams, fear of ridicule by others, etc. anxiety reactions. In order to temporarily relieve these uncomfortable emotional states, they may choose to avoid learning and school. (3) Depression Depression is a more serious negative emotion. Due to low self-esteem, loss of confidence in the future, or a weak ability to tolerate setbacks, students will fall into a depressed state and choose to voluntarily give up studying at this time, because within their logic, effort is not helpful. (4) Anger Anger is also a high tension negative emotion, due to dissatisfaction with school teachers, classmates or subjects triggered by anger, anger should be directed to the outside world, but sometimes children can not control the anger well, in order to avoid greater trouble, they will avoid the object of anger, the so-called “out of sight, out of mind”, and even they They may even turn their anger on themselves and appear to self-harm. When we understand the emotions associated with school aversion, it is easier to get inside the child’s head rather than forcing them to study, because the more we force them, the stronger their negative emotions become, and the more obvious the self-protective avoidance behavior. Therefore, we have to try to communicate with our children to feel their negative emotions such as boredom, anxiety, tension, fear, anger, etc. Make them less mentally alone and less denied so that there will be signs of improvement. Second, we need to analyze the causes of boredom with our children. Boredom is only an external manifestation; boredom has various forms of deep-seated causes. Can’t learn, can’t remember, not interested, teacher speaks badly, classmates bully, afraid of exams …… children who are bored with school will have a bunch of reasons to take out. In fact, there is a more major reason, that is the children’s psychological quality is weak, lack of confidence and dreams. At present, both our family education and school education, although advocating quality education, some parents and teachers are still too concerned about the children’s cultural achievements and rankings, so that learning becomes boring, while ignoring the interests of children, ignoring the cultivation of life skills and interpersonal skills, ignoring the shaping of good character. Children’s dreams become “to get into a good university”, “to find a good job”, “to stop suffering”. This is such a terrible misguidance. A child’s dream should be “to become a useful person for the family, society and the country”. If we get out of the educational misconception of “judging heroes by grades and rankings”, we will pay more attention to the cultivation and development of the overall quality of children, which will undoubtedly increase the interest and practicality of learning, and will not just deny children, so that the behavior of conscious learning will gradually be established. Finally, parents improve parenting skills, with the psychological help of professional teachers. If your child has heavy aversion to school, obvious anxiety and fear of negative emotions, or even physical discomfort, or refuses to go to school or drop out, parents should promptly take your child to a psychological teacher for guidance and, if necessary, to short-term intensive training in psychological skills. Because what really brings happiness to the child is not only the future profession studied, but whether or not they have excellent psychological qualities such as self-confidence, open-mindedness and independence. At the same time parents learn how to communicate effectively with their children and how to cultivate good psychological qualities and a sound personality. You can’t find two identical leaves in the world, and every child has his or her own characteristics and strengths. Every child has his or her own characteristics and strengths. There are always horses, but there are not always horses. Whether or not parents and educators can truly teach their children according to their abilities and find the bright spots in them is a crucial part of helping children who are bored with school to regain their interest and confidence in learning. Every child who is bored with school has the right and the hope to have a bright future!