Xiao Song grew up smart, lively and active, elementary school stage only 10 minutes to listen to each class will, although inattentive, but no obvious disciplinary violations, good academic performance, elementary school teachers did not reflect what problems. After junior high school, he entered the key classes of key schools, parents feel into the safe, coupled with the work are very busy, did not ask him about learning, the first year final exams 5 out of 7 classes failed, so he became a hate of learning, do not listen in class, do not hand in homework, parents control him also throw a tantrum. Xiaoyu is introverted, her academic performance in elementary school is in the middle to upper level, the essay competition won the 3rd prize in Changsha, her mother has high expectations for her, she has been required to reach the top 3 in the class, the goal of the college entrance examination is positioned in Tsinghua University. After junior high school, her academic performance gradually declined, especially in mathematics, but she worked very hard, often doing homework until 12:00 p.m. and would not sleep until it was done. In the second semester of high school, her mother found that she was not as motivated to study as she used to be, and she no longer studied the homework she could not do, as long as she finished the homework assigned by the teacher. She told us that her mother nagged her all day long, reminiscing about the glory of her elementary school and asking her to enter a major university, but she had no confidence at all, her brain seemed to have built a dam, and she could not enter the math content at all. All these phenomena can be called boredom. Aversion to learning refers to the behavioral response pattern of students who treat learning activities negatively. According to the data, in a survey of 438 students in a middle school, 26% of the students answered that they were not interested in learning, 43% of the students thought the learning content was boring, and 19% of the students answered that they did not want to go to school. In some economically developed areas, the percentage of students who had bored with school was even higher. The direct consequence of boredom is a decline in academic performance and passive learning, which affects their future development; some children who do not get pleasure in learning will use other methods to make up for the emptiness of life, truancy, Internet surfing, early love, or even making socially undesirable companions and taking the road to delinquency, which cause more serious damage than boredom itself. Learning is the dominant activity of school-age children, a necessary condition for their social development, and a fundamental means for them to acquire knowledge and wisdom. So why do these children not enjoy learning? The elements that affect learning include learning ability, psychological factors, and learning motivation. 1, learning ability: some children due to congenital or acquired reasons of low intelligence, their learning ability is naturally inferior to others; there is another situation, some children, although intelligence in the normal range, but there are difficulties in learning to read, write or calculate, medically called learning skills development disorder, is due to a part of the brain in charge of reading, writing or calculating the development of abnormalities related to this part of the students, if If they are required to follow normal children, and they are unable to do so, they will lose interest in learning and give up learning. 2, psychological factors: because learning is a need to mobilize brain energy, using attention, memory, thinking problem solving process, any psychological factors affect the brain, will affect the learning effect. The most common such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), the basic defect is the brain prefrontal lobe dysplasia, inattention, poor planning. Children with a high IQ, such as Xiao Song, did not seek medical attention and diagnosis in time because they could keep up with their studies in elementary school because the learning was not too difficult. After junior high school, due to the increase in learning content and difficulty of learning, they can no longer cope using the slapdash approach of the past, and these children are more likely to give up when they encounter difficulties, so they become anxious about school. Anxiety because of anxiety, can not concentrate on learning; depression cerebral cortex is inhibited, can not listen, can not learn, for the decline in academic performance is very anxious, think that learning is not good everything is finished, will also choose to escape. 3, learning motivation: learning motivation is to promote children and adolescents to achieve a certain purpose and the psychological motivation to learn, expressed in the form of learning aspirations, desires or interests, etc., to play a driving role in learning. Learning motivation can be simply divided into internal motivation and external motivation: learning activities driven by external motivation are for external rewards or honors, inspired by social requirements, parental rewards, teacher’s approval, partner’s recognition, gaining honorary titles, enrolling in the ideal school, pursuing desirable social status, etc., with strong directionality and greater variability. Internal motivation is motivated by interest, desire to learn, ideals, beliefs, outlook on life, sense of responsibility and honor, and other internal factors, which are more positive, conscious and active than external motivation and have a greater and more lasting impact on learning activities. Young children are mainly motivated by external and near-field motivation, which gradually transforms into internal motivation as they grow older and more autonomous. Impaired motivation for learning is a key factor in primary and secondary school students’ aversion to learning. The lighter ones are negative and lack of motivation, such as Xiao Yu, and the heavier ones give up learning altogether, such as Xiao Song. Common reasons are: 1, academic failure: many children in the study of a failure, or a certain subject did not learn well, frustration, and did not get timely adjustment, will be daunted by learning, lack of initiative to overcome the difficulties in learning, positive spirit, the result is a decline in academic performance; and because of poor academic performance, not parents, teachers, classmates understanding and appreciation, more will lose learning 2, set goals unreasonable: many parents “hope that their children will become dragons” eager, expectations are too high, although the children try hard, but always can not reach the goals set by parents, too high expectations bring children’s hopelessness. Not only does not play a role in motivating expectations, but also makes the child daunted, lose the courage to advance, or antagonistic emotions, or lose confidence, broken. Xiao Yu belongs to this situation; 3, learning fatigue: too much learning content, learning materials, boring, monotonous, lack of interest, high intensity of learning, some parents are afraid that their children lose at the starting line, after doing school work to do extra-curricular exercises; there are students learning methods improper, such as only rote memorization, will not associate memory; will only use visual learning, will not use auditory learning, etc., will cause psychological In addition, family disharmony, conflicts, inconsistent attitudes towards child rearing, overindulgence or excessive demands, lack of attention to the value of cultural knowledge and personal achievement, etc., can damage the child’s motivation to learn. So, what should I do if I find that my child is bored with school? First of all, you can consult a psychologist, and if you find that there is a developmental problem, you should give special education. You should lower your standards for these children, teach them according to their abilities, give them more praise and encouragement, raise their interest in learning, and affirm them as long as they do their best to learn. For children with ADHD, although they are getting by in elementary school, they should wake up to the critical period of the first year of junior high school, insist on taking medication for ADHD, strive not to fall behind in the first year, maintain self-confidence, and build a good foundation. For children who are anxious, depressed, or suffering from other psychological disorders, appropriate treatment should also be used. For impaired motivation, the following measures can be taken: 1. Set reasonable learning goals: Although most children are in the normal range of intelligence, intelligence and ability can be uneven, parents should see the child’s strengths and accept the child’s deficiencies, and set goals that vary from person to person and do not compare with other children. If your child’s motivation to learn is impaired, the goal should be a low starting point, so that he can experience the joy of success; 2. Interesting, through rewards to improve interest in learning; to cooperate with the teacher, find the child in some aspect of the “flash point”, on the basis of his existing, as long as a little progress, we should encourage, improve self-confidence, stimulate interest in learning, by improving external motivation, and then strengthen internal motivation; 3, scientific brain, change learning methods. For children with learning fatigue, advocate scientific brain, a certain amount of time every day to exercise and engage in activities of interest, to help children master their own learning methods, to gain the initiative of learning; 4, improve the ability to deal with setbacks: modern society is a fiercely competitive society, it is impossible not to study pressure, to avoid setbacks, more importantly, to teach children the ability to deal with setbacks, such as exam failure is actively looking for For example, is it better to actively look for the reasons for failure in exams or to feel sorry for oneself? For example, if a child does not get into the ideal school, should he or she adapt to the current school and work hard, or should he or she give up on himself or herself and live through the years? All of these can be corrected through cognitive behavioral therapy. American psychologist Sori said: “A highly motivated review may be equivalent to ten negative repetitions”, in either case, the main focus should be to change the aversion to school and help children grow up healthy.