For teenagers, the emergence of the Internet has provided them with a more diverse window into the world, but it has also given rise to problems such as adolescent Internet addiction and aversion to school. However, labeling a child with a disease like “Internet addiction”: “Teenagers are in a stage of rapid physical and mental development, so it’s easy for them to carry the psychological burden of a disease diagnosis, and it’s easy for them to become resentful and rebellious. Teenagers in the process of growing up more or less will appear some psychological problems, only this part of the teenager is on the Internet excessive as a basic feature.” Reasonable Internet access is beneficial to the healthy physical and mental growth of adolescents. For example, the communication among classmates is playing Warcraft and League of Legends, and if your child does not understand it, it often makes your child feel isolated. So, online games can increase social language and content, which is not a bad thing. But if your child can’t socialize properly with people in the real world and often hides in the online world, then the right remedy is needed. So, why do children go online excessively? Depression or other psychiatric problems depression itself is characterized by avoidance of human interaction, withdrawal, indulgence in inner fantasy world, avoidance of real problems, and the virtual world of the Internet can meet their needs in this regard, providing a platform to vent their emotional stress. “But some parents do not understand, they see their children can eat and sleep, think that the child is healthy, but do not know the suffering of the child’s heart. This type of child’s heart is too painful, too difficult! Unable to interact normally with outside society, so back inside the network. Many parents hate the Internet, hate games, hate cell phones, and even yesterday when I was out of the clinic, there were parents who dropped their children’s cell phones in front of me. In fact, this is inappropriate, such parents should be grateful for the network, games, cell phones, which can bring joy to children, because without these, the child may either not want to live, or have other behavioral problems.” So it’s not the internet that’s leading children to a dead end, parents with anorexia problems should consider if their child is depressed, schizophrenic, etc. Personality alone and vulnerable adolescence, the child’s character is characterized by sensitivity and flexibility, seeking self-actualization, curiosity, desire for friendship and communication, relatively weak self-control, etc.. The Internet provides the best stage for children to realize their needs. Then, why is he afraid or unwilling to contact with people in real life? This is the result of the child’s lack of courage in real life and insufficient inner security. Generally, these children are sensitive, vulnerable, suspicious and have single interests. However, they are not born lonely and fragile, the key period for the formation of character traits of adolescents is during infancy and childhood, so parents should be with their children as much as possible to reduce the separation experience of infants and toddlers, so that children feel safe and trust others; parents should also listen to and affirm them more during the growth of children, so that children feel respected. If, for various reasons, parents do not grasp the child’s critical period, it is still possible to help the child out of loneliness through psychotherapy, medication, etc., but parents need to have patience and confidence. Learning pressure Nowadays, it is most common for parents to make their children learn this and that, taking up all the time for relaxation on weekends, which slowly makes children hate learning. Especially children in kindergarten and elementary school stage must be allowed to play. Be sure to urge your child to play and socialize with their classmates. At home, parents should also always say to their children, “Studying is too hard, let’s play for a while!” When playing with mom and dad is happy, the child will be interested and capable of learning. This has been proven countless times in practice. Think about it, on the one hand, exercise, running and watching movies are supposed to be recreational and relaxing activities, which can both cultivate the emotions and relieve the pressure of studying. On the other hand, when we have a good relationship with our children, when the children and their classmates, social children of the same age play well, interact well, good relationship, the child has no other need to bother, then his interest in learning will increase. Family relationship disharmony child problems, parents should think about whether they do a good job to meet the needs of the child’s real life, as well as the needs of normal social interaction; whether the parents of the inner world and the child heart-to-heart communication, is not to have trust, respect, curiosity, support, appreciation, etc.. For example, did our parents scold, criticize and punish their children too much in the process of their growth? Director Liu Huaqing said he had a patient who had reached high school, and his father still beat him, even to the point of bleeding from the mouth and nose. In fact, no matter what the reason for the scolding, children will not feel happy if they do not receive recognition and affirmation from their parents. This poor parent-child relationship will lead him to indulge in the online world to find comfort, because he needs a channel to vent, which is quite normal. According to Director Liu, a young girl who came to counseling started surfing the Internet all day after she knew her parents were getting divorced, thinking that this would divert her parents’ attention to her and they would have no time and energy to think about the divorce. This shows that there are various reasons for children’s abnormal behavior and that parents should treat their children with care and respect. I believe that children are more willing to participate in colorful activities and interact with their parents than cold computer machines.