In terms of childcare, although the previous generation has a wealth of practical experience, but very often, the previous generation often have some friction with the modern way of childcare, and these are likely to be the misconceptions of the healthy growth of children. 1, always love to hold the child Many elderly people complain that since the child learned to walk, they just a little inattentive disappeared. So, many of the elderly with children out, in order to prevent the child out of their sight, they have been holding not to let go. So, what are the adverse effects of often holding the child? First, for children who can walk, if often held but more lazy to walk on their own, always let adults hold. Secondly, the “dynamic quotient” is also a reflection of “intelligence”, the more children are active, more hands, more thinking, the more the physical development of help. 2, destroy the baby’s concentration I do not know if your family has this situation: the child is concentrating on building blocks or reading a book, the elderly always interact with the baby from time to time. “What are you playing ah? Do not sit on the ground, easy to catch a cold oh. Come on, come and drink some water. Here, eat a piece of apple ……” There are always mothers complaining about their children’s poor concentration, but have you ever provided your child with an environment to exercise concentration? Babies and toddlers have a hard time concentrating, and if parents don’t pay attention, it’s not easy to get your child to focus on one thing. If you are worried about your child catching a cold, you can prepare your child before he or she focuses on “doing something” and do not disturb him or her in the middle. If it’s time to eat, it’s best to give a few minutes notice to give your child a certain buffer period. 3, too early to ask the child to learn to stand and walk See than their own small children will stand and walk, the elderly heart that anxious ah. They want their children to be able to walk as fast as they can to show that they are physically strong and smart. Each child’s own development should not force the child to stand and walk, which is not only detrimental to bone development, but also lead to muscle injuries. Children stand and walk need to build on a certain foundation, need to take one step at a time, to the time to stand, the child will naturally stand, walking is the same path. When the child’s leg muscles develop strength, they will naturally step forward. 4, there is no principle of feeding I do not know if you have noticed, many elderly people in life with children in the feeding convenience is not scientific. Afraid that the baby does not eat more than a few spoons of milk powder, end the bowl everywhere chasing the child to feed, a snack to stop the child crying, do not eat the main meal with snacks instead …… Such similar feeding methods are often staged in places you can see or not. Perhaps, you always complain why your child does not like to eat, why are 3 years old still can not eat independently? Not to mention what impact these feeding methods have on the child’s independence and shaping good habits, this diet alone does not have any benefit to the child’s health. 5, afraid of children cold, a lot more wear Many elderly people on the “muffled fever syndrome” may not be too well understood, if the child wears too much cover, will lead to the body temperature because of the timely heat dissipation and hypoxia, sweating, deficiency, and even coma situation. Children’s nerve endings have poor blood circulation and often have cold hands and feet. This normal phenomenon is often mistaken by the elderly to wear less, so the child wrapped layer after layer. Secondly, the elderly themselves are cold, so they may also feel that their children are colder. However, the child’s metabolism is faster, more exercise, very easy to sweat, to the child wear too much but more likely to catch a cold. 6, in order to comfort the child to shirk responsibility Spring Festival visit friends and relatives, the elderly in order to comfort the child to shirk responsibility for things really seen too much. Children just learn to walk, fall down and blame the floor. Children and other children fighting for toys crying, blame others do not share. The child accidentally ate chili, blame the food is too spicy …… All these excuses make me flabbergasted. When a child falls down, it is because the child has just learned to walk and cannot fully control the balance of the body; it is normal for children to compete for toys, there is no reason to force others to share; when a child accidentally eats chili peppers, next time the chili peppers can be put out of reach of the child ….. The growth of children needs a process, to let children learn to accept the setbacks on the road to growth, rather than just shifting the blame. 7, nothing is allowed to touch, extinguish curiosity “can not run, careful to fall down.” “Next time you can’t play like this, how dangerous it is to fall down!” “This loser, how the toys to dismantle” In life, you often hear the old man often so criticize the children, do not want the children do not touch anything, sit obediently aside to play to save worry? But which child is not full of curiosity about the things around, like to touch this touch that also because they want to understand and explore. Older people with children, do not allow children to try to touch, will only destroy the child’s curiosity, adventure and creative spirit. If the child is repressed for a long time, it is easy to lead to emotional outbursts, or the formation of “two-faced” personality performance. 8, wantonly meet the child’s requirements as long as the child obeys, can watch TV for a long time, buy any favorite toys and snacks, play computer at will. Many mothers reflect that their children are spoiled by the elderly in the family lawlessness, sometimes as long as a little does not meet their requirements, on the ground to spill and roll, so as to achieve the purpose. In this regard, it is recommended that parents do not blame the child in public, when the child is angry, can be appropriate cold treatment or distraction, so that the child understands that crying is not the solution to the problem. In addition, to give the child a certain frustration education is also necessary, so that the child understands that only give will get. 9, alienated from parent-child relationship children who take with who pro, this phenomenon is more than normal. You can’t throw the child to the elderly every day, but require the child is still close to you, this requirement seems a little domineering. However, many young mothers nowadays are unable to take care of their children full-time because of their work, which naturally affects the parent-child relationship after a long time. It is recommended that working mothers insist on having breakfast with their babies, give their babies a hug before and after work every day, cherish the time they spend with their babies at night and on weekends, communicate more with their children, and spend more time with them. Older people with children may have problems of one kind or another, but the starting point is for the good of the baby, so you can’t be too harsh with them. If you can’t parent yourself, you must communicate with the elderly and change these bad parenting habits together.