After becoming a parent, few people can keep a good temper without being angry with their children. Some parents have asked similar questions about what to do if they hit their children. Sometimes children are unreasonable how to say it is useless; or parents are in a bad mood and so on, these situations prompted by parents will feel not to fight can not be managed, beaten and heartbroken, which should be done? 1, scolding on the child’s physical and mental health is prone to adverse effects Everyone has self-esteem, and children are no exception, he also wants to get everyone’s respect. The child who is beaten is first injured in self-esteem, parents were his closest people, the result is often beaten, so it is difficult to feel the warmth of love, not only on the parent-child relationship is also easy to make the child rebellious, fearful psychology. 2, for children to learn to lie to provide the premise children in the process of growing up inevitably make mistakes, but some parents know that the child did something wrong first hit. In order to avoid suffering, the child will try to lie in fear. If the parents don’t find out, they don’t have to be beaten; if they find out, the result is not good. Both results are actually bad, and even a vicious circle. 3, children are prone to low self-esteem children who are beaten will also feel helpless after their self-esteem is hurt, and even doubt themselves, feeling that what they do is not good, are not right. The child is less willing to stay close to mom and dad and may feel depressed inside. The child may be quiet and reluctant to play with his or her buddies, feeling that he or she will not perform as well as other children. How can I change my mind and teach my child in a different way? Nowadays, most parents do not have the concept of “no beating, no talent” or “filial son under the stick”, which also highlights the progress of the concept of education. I think the mother’s question is also a good start to self-awareness. In fact, in addition to beating children, there are still other ways to educate children, take a look at it. 1, parents themselves are not appropriate to educate their children when they have emotions When parents themselves are in mood swings anger, it is best to calm yourself down and leave the child’s environment first. After calming down you can tell your child how you feel and let them know their inappropriate behavior. This will promote the child’s reflection. 2, let the child bear the results of the child has a fault, parents do not have to immediately wait to count the criticism of the child, because the natural consequences of the matter is also the punishment of the child, he needs to bear. For example, the most common thing is that when a child spills milk, he or she needs to clean it up by himself or herself, and the mother should not do it for him or her. It’s a good idea to let the child understand what the results of his or her mistake may be, to help avoid the child from making the same kind of mistake again. 3, the way to punish the child should be appropriate Children playing around when toys are still everywhere, but also will be petulant themselves not to clean up, the mother sometimes a lesson child it, he will cry more than. This is the time to tell your child to put the toys away and stop making noise, or you will be punished. For example, it will confiscate a few of his toys for a few days, so that children remember not to do this practice themselves to accept the results of punishment. When you hit your child and then blame yourself, this is an opportunity for self-awareness When you are so angry, have you ever thought about the reason behind it? It’s because the child made you angry? The problem may not only lie in the matter of the child at the moment, it may touch a feeling in your own subconscious. When your mind is at peace again and you look back at the reasons why you hit your child, you may find that much of it could have been avoided. So, need to want to solve the problem, try to understand, what is affecting their own emotions.