Many families have misunderstandings at the first visit. Children and parents often fail to explain their problems and needs well at the first visit because they do not know enough about counseling, resulting in longer sessions, higher costs, and their own resistance to reducing the effectiveness of treatment. To ensure that visitors (especially children) can be diagnosed and treated more effectively, parents should be prepared to do the following 1. Punctuality: Psychotherapy requires energy and time, and generally therapists have limited appointments to ensure the effectiveness of treatment, and do not receive a large number of therapists each day. Therefore, if the visitor comes late, it will affect the later treatment; if not, it will cause a waste of treatment resources. Because the therapist has left the time free for you, he has no way to receive other visitors if you don’t come. 2. Give the child the right to speak: No matter how you get along with your child outside the treatment room (such as at home), once you enter the treatment room, you are on an equal footing with your child. Parents in the treatment room to get rid of the life at home do not expect the therapist to listen only to you, and do not give the child the opportunity to express. In fact, in child psychotherapy, the center of attention should be the child. Therefore, do not make a fuss if the therapist asks you to recuse yourselves temporarily. 3. Use your mouth: The psychotherapist’s contact with the child is extremely limited. To give the therapist a more comprehensive understanding of the child and his or her problems, it is more important to rely on the parents to tell some stories about the child’s growth, in addition to preparing some materials beforehand. Parents must pay attention to the following two points: whining is only for the therapist. In therapy, most parents come with a belly full of anger, so whining is the real beginning of therapy and listening to it is a necessary part of the therapist’s job. Just remember: the whining is for the therapist to hear, and the child should be sent to another room or place. 4, do not “distort” the facts: after the grievance, we must seize the time to talk about the central issue, as far as possible to organize the language, clear, factual description of the incident, not to maintain their own dignity and let the child wronged; or “favor” the child and let The real problem is not exposed. 5. Use your ears: When the parent is talking, the therapist is listening with his or her full attention. Then, he or she is bound to give you feedback and suggestions, so listen attentively, especially to the problems that parents don’t notice on a regular basis. If parents are afraid of forgetting, they can also record the important words. 6.Use your eyes: When the therapist asks the parents to sit with the child, don’t lose the opportunity to learn how the therapist wins the child’s heart, how to make the child who is silent in front of the parents become active, and how the therapist trains the child in an appropriate way. 7. Remember the therapy assignments: After each session, the therapist may give some appropriate tasks to the child and you. These tasks may be some positive training methods, may be an effective way to improve the child-parent relationship, and may be an important basis for the next therapy session, so please make sure that parents remember them by heart. Finally, when it is time for the client to leave the therapy room, the therapist will make an appointment with the parent and child for the next session, but please do not ask the therapist to “leave your home phone number”. Psychotherapists are generally reluctant to give you what you want because they too need personal space in their lives. The child’s problems often involve the parents’ marital and emotional problems and in most cases require family therapy at the same time, so please don’t avoid your own problems!