I often hear many people say, “My child has a bad temper and gets angry at every turn, what should I do?” My child is disobedient, how to educate him ah? “…… In fact, educating children is not as complicated as we think, parents only need to do the following three things, raising good children will become much simpler and easier. The first thing: cultivate a good parent-child relationship A good relationship is better than a lot of education. When parents have a good relationship with their children, the education of children is easy to succeed; when the relationship with children is not good, the education of children is easy to fail. The key to establishing a good parent-child relationship is “positioning”: 1, not “judge”, learn to be a “lawyer” Some parents see their children out of the problem, they can not wait to be the “This is very dangerous. The inner world of children is rich and colorful, parents want to actively influence and educate their children, without understanding their inner world will not be able to talk. The first key to understanding a child is to care for his or her self-esteem, defend his or her rights, and become his or her trusted and respected friend. That is, parents should treat their children like “lawyers” treat their clients, understand their inner needs, and always protect their legal rights as the only purpose. 2, not a “referee”, learn to be a “cheerleader” in the arena of life, children can only work hard on their own. Parents can neither replace their children, nor should they take it upon themselves to be “referees”, but should give their children the power to maintain a good state of play, that is, the power of “cheerleaders”. This will better help children build self-confidence, which is the core task of family education. Parents to be the child’s “cheerleader”, not only to be good at finding and praising children, but also to guide children to properly face failure, before the setback to be the child’s comrades. Education is the same thing. Stop, wait, give your child the opportunity to talk, and communicate effectively with your child, without education to solve the problem. The second thing: cultivate good habits of children Habits determine the fate of children, and there is nothing more important than habit formation. Parents who do not pay attention to the development of good habits of children, is undoubtedly in the burial of the child’s bright future. 1, everything starts with the habit of cultivation education is to manage a lifetime of education. Intellectual education is good thinking habits, moral education is the small habits of behavior, quality education is more reflected in the small human behavior. A lot of facts prove that habit is a tenacious power that can dominate people’s life. Everything for children starts with habit formation. 2, habit formation is never a day’s work habit is a big problem, is a big wisdom. The formation of good habits is never a one-day effort, the main principles are: low starting point, strict requirements, small steps, fast pace, more activities, seeking change, fast feedback, diligent correction. The key to habit formation is in the first three days, and the decision is in a month. Parents should fully respect their children’s rights and let them play the master role in habit formation. 3, through the cultivation of habits casting character Education is like a ship on the sea, must follow the correct course, otherwise, the larger the ship has the risk of hitting the reef and sinking. The quality of people, determine the direction of human development. One of the core tasks of family education is to train children to become a real human being. However, the issue of personality development is usually difficult to implement in concrete terms. However, researchers have found that habits and personality complement each other; habits influence personality, and personality influences habits even more. Decency, honesty, responsibility, love, cooperation, efficiency, and other character can be forged through habit development. The third thing: guide your child to learn to learn Attracting children to love learning and guiding them to learn to learn is an important responsibility of parents, and is where the real charm of parents lies. 1, there are reasons why children are averse to learning, regardless of permissiveness, let it dash; indiscriminate blind control, planting melons to get beans; nagging and scolding, recklessly scolded; instead of the package, manufacturing “machine” …… parents who take such a variety of unwise practices, will only make children more and more do not love learning The actual fact is that the child’s love of learning is only superficial. The reason behind the child’s dislike of learning is only superficial, there must be a reason: is not to develop good study habits? The reason is not to find out what your child is best at? Is it a failure to use the brain scientifically? Are parents hindering their children’s natural instinct to “play and learn”? Is the child does not realize that learning is his own business …… to find the reason behind, it is possible to help children out of the shadow of boredom. 2, the child’s curiosity and learning potential can be stimulated The child’s lack of curiosity is usually not the result of parental influence or strict enough requirements, but the blockage of the child’s interest. Interest (curiosity), dreams, sense of achievement, questioning, gratitude, motivation, anger, etc. are all channels to unblock and inspire children’s desire to learn. And for the child, the so-called competitive advantage is just the potential being effectively developed. Mood, enlightenment, suggestion, reverie, motivation, and planning are the six principles to stimulate a child’s learning potential. Although there is no absolute “timetable” for potential development, there are steps, such as establishing goals, controlling emotions, sharpening the will, focus on a point is very important. 3, the child test is the first method “love to learn” is “will learn” the premise, and “will learn” is “love to learn The “love of learning” is the prerequisite for “learning”, and “learning” is the guarantee for “love of learning”, “will learn” in order to “learn well”. In order to get the first place in the examination, children must master some decisive good methods, such as: complete according to the plan, write carefully, take your time to read the textbook, organize the wrong questions, handy notes, selflessly help classmates, efficient examination, free to write essays, etc. Educating children is not as complicated as parents think. If we can grasp the three important things: parent-child relationship, habit development and study, parents will become outstanding parents and children will become outstanding children, and it is not a distant dream.