American psychologists and clinicians have been tracking for years and found that happy couples have some “common habits” and instinctively follow some “terms” in their daily lives. 1, not always to tell the truth It may sound contrary to common sense, but maintaining “100% transparency” with your partner is not a good thing. In the discussion of some difficult and sensitive topics, such as how the two sides of the family, it is best to “keep your mouth shut”, do not pour their own happiness and sorrow to each other, “reserved words” to really enhance the relationship. 2, arguments do not have to be divided into winners and losers because of the fundamental differences between the personalities and lifestyles of the two people, neither spouse can try to change the other’s “temper”. The idea that there must be a winning party and an apologizing party in every fight is not acceptable. We should try to come up with remedies instead of getting into endless fights. 3, touching small actions than sex is more important Stanford University psychologist Lewis Terman found that those “sexually happy” couples do not often sex, but often keep in touch with the body. Patting the shoulder, touching the face and other small actions far more than sex to promote the feelings between the couple. 4, look back on the good times University of Exeter psychologists interviewed 200 couples with close relationships, found that they have a common denominator: even if the two quarreled, they will still “historical perspective” to look at the problem, looking back at each other’s previous love for their little bit. They believe that fighting is an inevitable part of marriage, so they will not be so “invested” in calculating.