In order to meet the needs of mothers, many kindergartens have started enrolling babies in the younger age groups (under 3 years old). On the one hand, this is a great way to meet the needs of moms at work, but on the other hand, moms’ hearts are often tugged at: do the benefits outweigh the disadvantages for their children, or do the disadvantages outweigh the benefits? 1, too early in kindergarten children are more aggressive Australian child education experts point out that there is growing evidence to support his theory – those children who are separated from their parents to kindergarten early are more likely to develop aggressive personalities, anti-social behavior and other psychological problems, such children will encounter interpersonal problems later in life, it is not easy to They are less likely to develop close relationships with others. Authorities on children in the UK have issued the same warning. They have found, after years of research, that children raised by their parents perform better in all areas than children raised in kindergartens, cared for by nannies, or left in the care of relatives, and that they do better physically, psychologically, and intellectually than children in other control groups. Professors at Oxford University followed 1,200 children and found that those who were placed in daycare from a young age were more “aggressive” as teenagers. Two other studies found the same result, that is, the longer the time spent in child care, the more likely to develop “anti-social behavior” and “violent behavior”. Early kindergarten can seriously affect the brain development, emotional development, social behavior, cognitive development of young children, in addition to their physical development is also delayed, neurological atrophy, abnormal brain development, these are related to the failure to get one-on-one family care, so experts recommend that young children should be allowed to grow up in a warm and safe family environment, rather than prematurely kindergarten them. 2, kindergarten or wait until the child is 3 years old before sending Ms. Chen’s child was a small class of children. Because she couldn’t find a suitable babysitter, she sent her two-year-old son to kindergarten, and the child’s year in the small class was a year when their family battled with illness. As long as one child in the class had a cold, her child would be infected. In winter, she and her husband often took the child to the emergency room in the middle of the night in the wind and snow, and spent many sleepless nights. The child was also infected with hand, mouth and foot disease when he was in primary school, but fortunately it was not serious. Ms. Chen roughly counted, because of illness, bad weather and other reasons daughter actually only half a year of small classes; and the treatment cost more than seven thousand yuan. If there are people at home with children, it is recommended that three weeks old before kindergarten. Because the two-week-old child’s own resistance is the weakest, and kindergarten is a public place, and even a good kindergarten will not be as good as the one-on-one care at home. The younger the child, the stronger the separation anxiety from the parents, and this emotion will affect the child’s eating, which in turn will affect the child’s resistance, and will be particularly prone to illness. From the child’s health considerations or three years old is better. 3, the best teacher can not replace the mother Xiaohu’s mother said: my son is more than 2 years old, because the family spoiled him one, now the child’s self-care ability is very poor, so I insisted on sending him to kindergarten, the child into kindergarten is not to learn how much knowledge, but to let him learn to get along with others, to develop good habits. In our society, the development of emotional intelligence is definitely more important than intellectual intelligence. She believes that the skill of getting along with others is more important than cultural knowledge, such as morality, basic common sense, how to find friends to play with, and what to do if you get angry with them. All of these can only be learned in kindergarten. Children under two and a half years old deserve one-on-one attention from their mothers, and co-parenting is the ideal way to raise them. If a young child’s brain is to develop in a healthy way, it needs to be lovingly stimulated. Parent-child interaction is the best stimulus, and the love of family and friends is the safest option for a child’s development, and it is this influence that is lacking in kindergarten. Even hiring a nanny to watch the child at home is not as good as the mother’s personal care, not to mention that most people are not lucky enough to find the ideal nanny. Children need not only regular staff to raise them, but also dedicated attention, and one-on-one parenting is better able to meet the needs of infants. Whereas a teacher in a nursery is usually taking care of several children by herself, she cannot meet the needs of all these children at the same time: drinking, peeing, playing, pampering, etc. Do not think that infants do not know what they are doing. The lack of response and satisfaction of their needs can lead to a sense of isolation, which can manifest itself in irritable crying and long-term effects that are detrimental to their psychological development, forcing some children to develop aggressive personalities, which is a consequence of the lack of emotion. Researchers from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development point out that the development of infants and toddlers is unique in that they need not only constant attention, but also concerted attention, which means that the people with whom they communicate are relatively fixed, and children are sent to kindergarten too early because most of the day is spent in kindergarten. If the kindergarten teachers are irregular and change frequently, such as when teachers are sick, on vacation, or on training, children who are not yet mentally mature will not be able to adapt. Even if the staff is relatively fixed, they have to take care of children in shifts, so it is important for parents to persist in caring for their children during the critical period of their psychological growth and development. A recent U.S. study found that no matter how good child care is, children who stay in child care earlier or longer are more likely to exhibit aggressive behavior and be more disobedient throughout elementary school, the conclusion of one of the most comprehensive studies on child care to date. Researchers speculate that a lack of experienced childcare teachers in childcare centers and a lack of time for teachers to address issues such as children fighting over toys and activity space are influential factors. The study of 1,364 children, which spanned more than a decade in child care, compared the size, type and quality of care children received from one month old to four-and-a-half years old, and examined their emotional and language development up to age 11. The elementary school teachers surveyed reported that children who spent more time in child care, even at age 11, were “prone to fighting” and “quarrelsome. 4, too early to enter the garden light affection Lele mother are working in the workplace of young parents, the two work and busy, they had no choice but to let the two-year-old four-month-old child in a small kindergarten, and still full day care. At first the child was very reluctant to go, every time they went to cry a lot, from the morning mood is not good, and for this reason also affect the morning appetite. After adapting to kindergarten, the child became dependent on the class caregiver, and after coming home and making out with his parents for a while, he stayed in front of the TV to watch cartoons, and talked to his parents much less. According to the relevant state regulations, the age of entry into kindergarten for small children should be 3 years old. Parents send their children to kindergarten early idea is no more than two aspects: one is busy work; second is that they will not take, early entry into the nursery can make the child early education, in fact, this idea is rather biased. The first is that the child’s psychological development is still in the parent-child attachment stage until the age of 3. It is best to raise the child in the family; the time away from parents and family should not be too long. 6 months-2 years old is the special emotional connection stage between the child and parents, until about 2 years old when the child and peer initiative socialization began to sprout, about 2.5 years old when the child’s logic and sense of order gradually established, in order to be able to effectively interact with organizational and life. Since infancy is the best time for early attachment development, premature entry into kindergarten can lead to a strong psychological burden on the child due to lack of mental maturity, limited language development, and lack of emotional regulation, which can have an impact on the child’s ability to build good interpersonal relationships and enter into high level emotional development. Therefore, age-appropriate behavior and education is crucial to a child’s development, do not become a stumbling block to the child’s long-term development because of parents’ own opinions. 5, before the age of three years old in daycare is prone to emotional problems In the United Kingdom, Cambridge University’s renowned psychology professor Lamb recently published the results of another study echoing the above-mentioned study by the U.S. National Institute of Child Health and Human Development. Lamb’s study found that sending children to daycare early may lead to long-term emotional problems. Lamb noted that children who are sent to daycare before the age of three are more likely to grow up with poor behavior and less ability to handle stress. Last year, Professor Lamb and colleagues conducted a study among 3,000 young children and found that levels of cortisol, a stress hormone, were twice as high in children nine months before they entered daycare as they were in children of the same age who did not enter daycare. Moreover, the younger the toddler attending daycare, the higher the stress value. Steve Biddulph, an Australian child education expert and renowned clinician, then warned that placing children under the age of three in daycare increases the risk of impairing their normal psychological development.