Have you ever thought about suicide because of postpartum depression? She has thought about. 1. “I want to kill my baby and then kill myself!” A mother of two in Zhejiang said in tears to her attending psychiatrist. When I heard these words, my whole body was uncomfortable, what kind of encounter made this mother have such extreme thoughts? It is said that Xiao Wang, a mother in her thirties, just gave birth to her second child six months ago, who thought that the happiness must be doubled with the addition of a new angel in the family. However, the arrival of this baby did not increase her happiness, but rather increased her worries. When she had her first child, her whole family was centered on her, her husband took good care of her, and everyone loved the baby. But after the birth of her second child, she felt like a single mother, her husband did not care about her, because of the conflict with her mother-in-law, there is no elderly help to bring up the baby, the first two babies eat, drink, sleep and all the things, all on her. In order to take good care of the two children, she quit her job to become a full-time mother, every day when she woke up is all the family chores, feeding, making breakfast, washing clothes, changing diapers, putting to sleep, feeding, walking the baby, the whole body and mind are devoted to the family and the baby, no time and private life, day after day, gradually let her feel that life is bleak, as if she can not find the initial meaning. “I now regret having two children, they came into the world, for me is simply a burden, they themselves suffer.” The husband became a handful, only know work to earn money, back home also do not help with the baby, plus the first baby dissatisfied with the arrival of the second baby, often eat the second baby jealousy, conflict with her, these boredom day by day in her heart pent up …… late at night, the whole family is asleep, only she tossed and turned, often inexplicably crying, looking at the She did not feel happy and warm when she looked at her sleeping children, but instead had the urge to kill them, “to kill the children and then kill herself.” This is such a terrible idea. Wang could not hide it anymore, her husband’s indifference made it impossible for her to talk about it, so she sought help from a psychiatrist. Sure enough, she suffered from postpartum depression, depression has reached a stage that requires drug intervention, but also needs a guardian to keep an eye on her. What a saddening thing to see. She risked her life to give birth to her second child, and now she is on the verge of death. Raising a child chores around, the husband’s indifference, coupled with the big baby unrelenting jealousy dissatisfaction, so she felt desperate for life, once countless fantasies of beauty is so chicken and egg, she could not see hope, fell into the abyss of postpartum depression. 2, earlier this year, the 31-year-old mother in Hunan due to depression to hold two children jumped to their death news I still remember clearly, until now feel heartbroken. At about 20:00 on the night of January 6, a 31-year-old mother with a 2-year-old son and a few months-old daughter jumped desperately from the 13th floor in the residential community of Napa Valley, Xiangtan Hedong, and the mother and son died on the spot, and the few months-old daughter was immediately taken to the hospital but was still not rescued. She used a dozen pages of suicide note to tearfully complain about her ordeal: from a girl growing up in the palm of her parents’ hand to her husband’s wife, after giving birth to her son with her life, she was accused of having a sexually transmitted disease the day after giving birth, and the whole family only revolved around the child, falling down from the cloud of being pampered, and being considered the most useless person in the family by her husband and in-laws. Did not give birth to the child, can not do housework, can not bring up the child, lazy and do not earn money …… The first month after giving birth, the anxiety of the first time with a baby, the torture of production pain, the heavy workload of housework, coupled with the complexity of the endometrial hyperplasia, so she is increasingly irritable, sad, weak, she was depressed after giving birth, and her husband dropped a “why always cry well, their own problems to adjust well”? This husband, your conscience does not hurt? When the child is four months old, her husband about prostitutes, and other girls chatting, which is the same as telling her that the man she sleeps with night after night can no longer be relied on, she gave up on his trust, but also gave up on love, marriage is no longer a paradise, but a prison. The last straw that broke her back was domestic violence. Domestic violence, the first time there will be a hundred times, which made her depressed herself nearly broken. She could no longer wait for the day her child went to kindergarten, no longer wait for the day her child was 18 years old she divorced her husband, she could no longer adjust her emotions, so she jumped off a building to end it all. Heartache for her, heartache for the two unknown children, more heartache for her parents with gray hair at the temples. 3, postpartum depression is no longer a small range of individual cases, has been one of the focus of global medical research. In recent years, the incidence of postpartum depression has been increasing year by year, and depression has become the fifth most common disease affecting human health, and is expected to jump to second place in 2020. According to statistics, including postpartum depression, there are about 340 million people with depression worldwide. The incidence of postpartum depression in China is 13.1% – 16.3%, with an average of 2 out of 10 mothers being depressed, and there are about 10 million mothers in China every year, so you can imagine how large a group of depressed people are and how much they need more attention. Not every mother will get postpartum depression, but many have had brushes with it and almost fallen into the abyss.” Women who have had children will especially understand that the joke is that if your husband is good, try having a baby. After the birth of a child, that period of time is unbearable to look back on, every day is full of tears, my husband does not understand me, called me crazy, psychological then all thoughts, every day thinking about how to leave.”” Now I’m going through this. He failed in business to put all the fault on my head, from 6 months of pregnancy began to fight cold war not home, less than 10 days after the birth of a child and fight, and then half a year not home to the child regardless, money is not a point. I was so desperate that I said I would divorce him but he didn’t show up, and several times I had the idea of ending myself and regretted bringing my child into this world to suffer.”” I almost had postpartum depression, I cried every day during the month after I gave birth, but luckily I survived.”” After giving birth, I had a cesarean section, painful wounds, sore nipples, the baby ate once, the baby ate milk once every two hours, my mother-in-law read every day that there was not enough milk and asked to add milk powder to the baby, I was also anxious, anxious and depressed, my mother-in-law took the baby and gave her a look, at that time I felt so useless, I didn’t want to live.””” Before I had a baby, I heard people say that postpartum depression was not possible, and I felt that it was very far away from me. This is the way it is, it is never possible to have an open heart. I did not expect that when I had a child to sit in the month, every day to face the wall at home, stay at home every day can not go out, super irritable, feel like they are suffocating fast depression.” 4, pregnancy and the month is purgatory, and the child is like an abrasive goblin, if the family ignores the pain of maternity, is undoubtedly the clutches of her into the abyss of depression. The drastic hormonal changes after childbirth make the mother’s mood erratic and extremely anxious and irritable. Low milk, crying baby, frequent night wakings, and sick children all make new mothers worried and anxious, and they once complained that they were not good mothers. Family conflicts and disagreements over different childcare concepts such as feeding, drinking, and feeding the child often make postpartum mothers break down in aggravation. The postpartum pain of the incision, the troubles of the dew, the worries of overflowing milk, and the sagging of the breasts make the postpartum mother physically and mentally exhausted, and her husband’s indifference and lack of understanding is the last straw that crushes her heart. Once she stood at the edge of the abyss and stretched out her hands for her family to pull, but they chose to turn away indifferently and even pushed, which is such a desperate, lonely and helpless feeling. 5.So what should we do and how to stay away from postpartum depression? Dear mom, if you feel anxious and bored: please make sure to talk about it, whether to friends or relatives, and make sure not to smother it inside. We are not all moms, we don’t have to be perfect in everything, let ourselves relax and occasionally raise the baby like a pig. If you really can’t let go of the depression in your heart, please remember to seek professional medical help. Stick to breastfeeding, the risk of postpartum depression is lower for breastfeeding women than for others. Dear father, please care for the woman who gave birth to your child: please be more caring and understanding than before she gave birth. When she is angry, please be more tolerant; when she is anxious and manic, it is not that she has become bad-tempered, dealing with a series of parenting problems, when she is at her wits’ end, please help; when she is depressed after giving birth, please listen to her more and think from her point of view, perhaps you are the redeemer who pulled her back from the death line. Love your wife well, in fact, is to love the child well. Having a baby is already a ghostly gate, don’t let postpartum depression harm her again.