1, do not chatter, too much communication Many parents like to nag their children, one thing to say once the child does not listen, they began to say non-stop, if the child appears defiant, and even appear to scold the child loudly, and finally let the child in the case of reluctance to “obey”. Parents can agree with their children in advance. Is the child not listening, or is there another reason? The incessant nagging is a form of communication that is too much, and many children want their mothers to stop nagging them. Parents can agree with their children in advance, for example, to allocate time for waking up, eating, doing homework, resting and recreation, so that not only does the child have a sense of time, but parents are also spared too much worry. 2, do not put extra pressure on the child Parents like to give children education, such as “must give mom and dad to fight, only good academic performance, the future can be outstanding”; you as long as the test scores are good, you want anything mom to meet you”; “all my hopes are in You can’t let mommy discredit you…last time you took fifth place, this time you must be in the top three.” It is natural for children to study with high scores, fame, and hope on their backs, and psychological pressure is high. Some students who do not do well on their exams are not too afraid to tell their parents. Over time, students will develop a lack of self-confidence, fear of exams, and fear of shame to mom and dad. Parents should set reasonable expectations. Consider your child’s own characteristics and abilities, and set appropriate requirements for your child, not subjectively hold them to high standards. Because too high a standard, too much expectation will bring great psychological pressure on the child, to parents will produce reluctance to communicate, and even will be afraid to face their parents. At the same time, parents should learn to think differently, put themselves in the child’s shoes to consider the child’s feelings, help the child to determine the actual learning goals, so as to increase their interest in learning, but also to improve the communication between the child and parents. 3, don’t uncover old scars, the more the child pushed away from communication When the child is at home on vacation playing games, or watching TV, always habitually take the child’s previous bad performance behavior to repeatedly lecture. For example, “the final grade is not satisfactory, inattentive in class, love to play, how did you promise me in the beginning, go to the room to think about it, do not know to play all day ……”. The parent’s original intention is to hope that the child is also on vacation to read a book, but the result is that the child and you talk back to each other, each other very unpleasant. See more of your child’s improving side. Parents always reveal their children’s old scars, which for sensitive adolescent children, will most likely make them think they are failures, or even give up trying, and become increasingly distant from their parents. If parents can pay attention to every small progress of their child, let the child understand that no matter what his grades are, as long as he tries hard, it is good. The child will then feel that his parents really care about him and encourage him. Sometimes, parental understanding and support is the greatest encouragement to the child Oh ~ 4, do not forget the child because of work When the child is in junior high school, many parents think that the child is older, do not need to accompany the child as when they were young. So focus on busy work or other things, lack of communication with the child at the very least. Parents don’t really understand what their children are thinking and need, causing them to be disconnected from the heart. Be friends with your child. When children are on vacation, they have more spare time and more energy, which is a good time to communicate with them. Parents should spend more time “playing” with their children, so that they can “teach and play” together. Find time to enter the world of humanities with your children, accompany them to bookstores, museums, painting exhibitions …… can also accompany them to watch movies and go to playgrounds to relax. Organize a short family trip where the parents pick 1-2 destinations and let the child choose where to go. Give the child the task of trying to make a strategy, the child can use travel books, or search the Internet to find must-see attractions and so on. This makes the child feel like a young adult, and it’s much easier to communicate with parents. More and more parents are finding that the words that come out of their children’s mouths from time to time are confusing to them, and they are worried that their children will “eat chicken”, “awesome my brother”, “call “, “awkward chat”, “does your conscience not hurt” …… will not affect the normal interaction? What if I use these words in my essay and the teacher can’t read them? But more than that, they are worried about not being able to communicate properly with their children. Parents need to take the initiative to learn and use some internet terms. When your child is at school, he or she will meet a lot of friends and will be exposed to a lot of “internet language”. Parents should look at this phenomenon with tolerance and understanding, as sometimes “alternative language” can add to the fun of communication with each other. When children find out that their parents are also consciously learning and using these Internet phrases, they will feel that the distance between themselves and their parents has been shortened and that “you know my stems”, and parent-child communication will be much smoother.