For all of us parents, waking up our children in the morning is a difficult task. Especially in autumn and winter, it is easy to get impatient over time and take “killing wake up”, which actually has a great impact on the mood of the child for the day. When people get up, it is best to lie with eyes open for ten minutes before sitting up, which will help your health. Give your child plenty of time to wake up. Of course, this time varies from person to person, some people need five minutes, some people need ten minutes, please decide the point of time you go to call your child according to this time. Don’t ask the person to pop up at the moment you give the command. Let’s look at what is meant by a “kill wake”, i.e. a wake-up call that cuts off the start-up process and brings the person back to consciousness immediately. This rough approach can have extremely bad effects on children. For example, disruption of emotional control, impulsiveness and irritability, depression, apathy and numbness, or crying. Here is a list of several common mistakes we often use, mothers and fathers to see if they have done? 1, rushed into the room, shouting “seven o’clock, still do not get up!” You should know that it is human nature to stay under the covers and in the subconscious dream world, and this kind of accusatory wake-up call and language with “it’s wrong to sleep at this hour” can easily take away your child’s sleep security, plus the loud noise of waking up is enough to destroy everyone’s happy morning. 2.Pulling away the child’s blanket This way not only seriously destroys the child’s sleep safety, but also the temperature change, which will suddenly attack the nervous system, even if the other party “whoosh” sat up, limbs are stiff. So it is not recommended to move anything that the child used to hold, hug or cover during sleep, that is the environment he feels safe, do not touch! 3, not at all gentle pat the child’s body – wake up, touch the child’s body, especially the rough “pat”, is very damaging, human under the control of the subconscious, for the sudden appearance of the body “attack “, in addition to being startled, will also fight back. In many sleep experiments, “pat” is the worst way to wake up, will immediately anger a docile sheep! 4.Repeatedly nagging and calling – Some parents will use the way of calling once every 5 minutes to wake up their children, which seems to give the child some “start-up time”, but in fact, the child is constantly interrupted by your wake-up call when completing the process of switching and starting, and each time has to start over, so the more The more you wake up, the more you can’t get up. In fact, when a sleeping person receives the “wake up” signal for the first time, it seems that he is still asleep, but in fact his brain has already started to switch, so there is no need to call repeatedly, he will get up naturally after starting. 5.Life noise to wake up Some parents do not purposely wake up their children, but use their own noise after waking up to wake up their children, such as walking, washing and brushing teeth, basin rubbing, talking …… This way will not wake up the dreamer, but will make the child feel extremely disgusted, because in the process of switching to start, the brain work is constantly interrupted by noise and cannot be completed in a safe and quiet environment, leading to irritable waking up, and “wake-up call”. We can briefly summarize that any fierce cutting off of the sleep process, using excessive noise, or non-stop noise to touch each other’s bodies and deprive sleep security are all “killer wake-up calls”. Suggested wake-up calls for mothers 1. Tell your child the night before that you will wake him up in time for tomorrow morning, so that your child can be mentally prepared in advance. If your child is already accustomed to being woken up by you, no special reminder is needed. But if the time changes, for example, from 7:00 to 6:30, it is best to say: “Tomorrow I will wake you up half an hour earlier!” 2, use the light to wake up If you have a dimmable lamp, you can gradually turn on the lamp, and then turn it on and quietly walk away. Light will wake him up for you, because from ancient times, humans are woken up by light. Light will wake up the visual system, which will send signals to the subconscious, and wake up the brain and start the limbs, which is the most natural way to wake up. That is, it is safe and effective, and requires no effort from you at all. If you don’t have such a lamp at home, slowly and quietly pulling open the curtains is just as effective. 3. Use the aroma of breakfast to wake up Put the fragrant breakfast quietly on the bedside table, the aroma will send a gentle signal to the brain through the child’s olfactory system that “it’s time to get up and eat”. Of course, you can also use flowers with a pleasant aroma to achieve this effect. 4. Use music to wake up Please choose some soothing music and use a lower volume to send signals to the brain through the auditory system to wake it up. If there are some special ambient sounds, such as a few crisp birds chirping, creek babbling, etc., it is also good. 5, gentle strokes to wake up For those children who sleep deeper, it is not easy to wake up, you can use this method. But be careful to be gentle and gentle. And the order of stroking should start from the hands, then to the small arms, upper arms, cheeks …… If the quilt cover is thick, touch the hands or small arms through the quilt. When the child slowly squirms and opens his eyes, smile and look at him and say “Wake up!” That’s it. Your hand better be warm and soft, cold and stiff hands will have the opposite effect. 6, lightly wake up first lightly touch the child’s bed, so that the child feel this small touch. For example, hands first pressed to the bed, or first sit on the edge of the bed. Then whisper the child’s name and say, “Do you want to get up now?” Asking for your child’s input will make your sleeping child feel safe and thoughtful. When the child nods with slightly open eyes, give him a smile and then quietly walk away to allow the child to complete the initiation without disturbance. 7. Use the same way to wake up When parents find a way to wake up that the other person is satisfied with, please insist on using it all the time and don’t change the way when nothing is wrong. Forming a habit of waking up one’s child not only succeeds in waking him up every time, but also develops the child’s love and attachment to you.