Recently, a mother came to us with a question about her child’s reluctance to talk to herself. She wondered why her child, who was so talkative, did not want to talk to herself about what happened in kindergarten and why she did not want to talk to herself. Mothers want to know if this is a big problem and if it will affect their child’s mental health and development. Your child doesn’t want to tell you what’s on his mind? What should we do? This is a problem that many parents worry about. Don’t worry, let’s find out the reason first, and then solve the problem. 1, is there a problem with parent-child communication? This is the first thing to consider, many family members do not have time to accompany the child, many important moments for the child, did not give him enough support and help, and the relationship with the child gradually distant, over time, the child is reluctant to speak to his parents. If this is the case with your child, parents need to review themselves, busy at work, but also remember to take time to talk to your child, play with your child as a friend, remember, do not take the chat as a lecture “education”, endlessly “lecture” The child, that is not good for the child, will only widen the distance between you. 2, is not the child has a self-reliance, want to solve problems through their own efforts Some parents may ask, we parent-child relationship is very good ah, then why the child is still reluctant to talk to me? Don’t worry, let’s see if the child feels grown up and wants to solve problems on his or her own. Children are becoming more and more aware that they will want to do things for their family to express themselves, they will want to solve problems independently to prove themselves, and they will want to have some private space to protect themselves. If your child belongs to such ideas, do not worry about it, let your dear children enjoy their self-reliance, when necessary, we are adults, silently give some help is enough! 3, is he feeling very ashamed, afraid that others do not accept? In the minds of children whose cognitive systems are not yet perfect, changes in the family environment, changes in kindergarten, changes in the body, and even jokes from adults may leave the child at a loss, and he does not know that these changes are actually universal problems, he feels that only he will encounter problems, only he is a special case, and even feels that he is a monster. These children will be afraid of not being accepted and not being welcome in the group, so he will try his best to hide his thoughts and not want anyone to know about him, which of course will include his parents. If this is the case with your child, parents can subtly tell your child some common sense and politely let him know that everyone is the same, so that he will be happy to play again! Every child is a treasure in the hands of parents, any problems with the baby, will grip the hearts of parents. But please parents do not rush, distinguish the cause, find the root of the disease, everything can be solved, let us together for the child to do the strongest support it!