In any country, adults and children alike must have three meals a day. What adults do and say at the dinner table every day has a much deeper imprint on children’s minds and bodies than schoolwork. The Chinese attach importance to eating: Parents’ love for their children is especially reflected in their meals. The first thing is to let the child eat more, indiscriminately and vigorously, as long as the child eats more, as it has been since ancient times. Chinese parents feed their children. In their own mouth chew soft, and then fed into the baby’s mouth; a little older, a spoonful of feeding; and then finally a chopstick a chopstick feeding. Often seen grandmother with a bowl, chasing around the grandchildren shouting to feed a mouthful of food. And the maximum age of feeding children can reach eleven years old. Even now, the vast majority of parents will use even just one hour of their time at noon to rush home through the mountains of people and cars to make a midday meal for their children. Of course, in addition to eating more, but also eat well, parents can go hungry, but the child bowl of meat can not be less. Parents can watch their children smack their lips and eat well, and their hearts are as sweet as honey. American parents also care about their children’s diet a day, but compared with Chinese parents, it is a world of difference. Americans never force their children to eat more, and never think of giving them bird’s nest, because adults do not eat it either. Highly educated American families will take the initiative to give their children calcium supplements, are also strictly forbidden to drink carbonated beverages, but also do not eat a lot of sugar. The difference is that American children start to eat by themselves from the day they can hold a spoon, and even if they make a mess, their parents will not bother. Moreover, American children eat lunch at school every day from the first grade onward, and no parent will ever have to go home to cook for their children. Students from poor families can receive free lunch at school. Children decide what they want to eat at school and what they don’t want to eat, out of sight and out of mind of their parents. Middle class children bring a meal to school, mostly a sandwich, a bottle of juice and a piece of dessert. Parents know nothing about how their children eat, how much they eat, and how much they throw away, and they don’t even ask. At American family dinners, it is up to the child to decide what he or she likes to eat or not to eat. American parents treat their children as their equals and respect their individual wishes. In fact, almost all American children do not like brussels sprouts. Some American parents will ask their children to eat some, and if the children insist on not eating them, they will not eat them. Even though American parents know the nutritional value of brussels sprouts, they will never force their children to eat them. American children eat, and when they say they are full, they can immediately put down their knives and forks and even leave the table. American parents do not coax their children to eat more after they say they are full before they are allowed to leave the table. The American attitude and practice in this matter of eating reflects a core goal of American children’s pedagogy: to develop the ability of children to think independently. Children must decide for themselves what they like to eat, what they don’t like to eat, or whether they are full. If he is not full and stops eating for the sake of play, then he deserves to be hungry after a while, because it is his own choice and he must suffer the consequences himself, and really taste the pain so that he will not repeat it next time. Americans love to say that making mistakes is an indispensable learning process, and child pedagogy is particularly important to this understanding. American parents believe that a child’s life is the child’s own, now and in the future, and that the child can only live his or her own independent life. In contrast, Chinese parents believe that children are too young and inexperienced to make good choices, so parents must make decisions for their children. For example, if children do not like to eat vegetables, then adults will definitely force them to eat; children only eat a bowl of rice, adults must force them to eat more. In such two different living environments, American children may not avoid going hungry often, Chinese children are full from morning to night. American children rely on vitamins for nutrition because they don’t eat green vegetables, while Chinese children have enough nutrition in the rice lai, and only bird’s nest and ginseng are needed for supplementation. American children grow up knowing that they should decide what they want, what they don’t want, whether they are hungry or full; Chinese children grow up understanding that adults know more than children, so they have to listen to adults at all times. American children grow up saying what they want, saying they don’t want to eat, saying they are full when they are full, they have full confidence and can be trusted by their parents; Chinese children grow up understanding that they will not be trusted to say anything and have to wait for adults’ orders all the time. Every day, they have to please adults, saying that they don’t like to eat and that it’s really good, and that they want to eat when they’re full. The result: When American children grow up, their favorite phrase is: “I know, I will”. Chinese children grow up, the most popular phrase is: “I obey, I am a good boy”. American children are half hungry, half full, go alone, and say and do whatever they want. Chinese children, on the other hand, have bulging bellies and rosy cheeks, grow up to obey their leaders, work hard, and say and do whatever their leaders tell them to say and do. American parents do not care what their children eat, whether they are full or not, but strictly disciplined children’s eating. When Americans eat, they are not allowed to pick up the plate and put it to their mouths, they are not allowed to chew with their mouths open and then their lips rattling, they are not allowed to suck noodles, rice or other liquids loudly, they are not allowed to talk with their mouths full of food, and they are definitely not allowed to spit out what has entered their mouths. Children are trained from childhood to take a knife and fork ribs, chicken, duck, fish and shrimp and so on in the plate peeled clean, only fork meat or shrimp entrance, and peel the meat and bones can not be cut in the porcelain plate sound, but “bang” a knife cut to the plate, the parents glared, the child must quickly apologize. Chinese parents talk about affordability, pay attention to what their children eat, how much to eat, generally do not care much about the appearance of food. Adults and children, eat lively, smacking their lips and sucking soup, picking teeth and burping, very enjoyable. American children grow up to pay attention to grooming, respect for others; Chinese children grow up to pay attention to the self, look at their own desire.