“Food is the God of the people”! Chinese people value eating. Parents’ love for their children is even more evident in eating. We can often see such a picture: the child runs in front, and the parents or grandparents chase after him with a bowl. In order to get the child to eat one more bite of food, some cajole and entice the child, some scare and scold the child, and even put a small stick next to the dinner table. CASE SHARE: Doudou from elementary school, almost every meal Doudou mother to personally feed the child for fear that the child is not enough to eat, go out and see other people’s children skinny and small, their own children and tall and strong feel particularly proud. Sometimes even if the beans want to eat on their own, DouDou mom is still constantly on the sidelines to urge, “eat more vegetables”, “don’t just eat meat, to eat”, “big mouth to eat, to finish a bowl, can’t waste! “…… When she sees that the child is eating smoothly, she will add more meat, vegetables and rice to the child. …… Occasionally, if Doudou doesn’t want to eat, Doudou’s mom will say, “It’s easy to get sick if you don’t eat,” or “Don’t get sick if you don’t eat. “The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have the right amount of food and that you have the right amount of food to eat. While saying this, he would pick up the dishes and feed her… Later, Doudou always repeated high fever, took medicine is not good, Doudou mom sent the child to the hospital, the doctor told Doudou mom: the child is due to “food fire” caused by fever, usually should pay attention to diet, do not take in too much nutrition. Since then, Doudou mom gave up the habit of forcing Doudou to eat. I believe that many parents have more or less said similar words, although the parents may be young, the family is not rich, to have a child, life has become better, all the good food are eager to stuff the child to eat, so that their children thrive. But within this reckless love is a kind of disrespect to the child. How to let the child eat normally A, parents do not overstress in the child’s eating problem attitude is calm, eat more than praise, eat less than criticized, this issue is always calm and pleasant, so that the child is no longer because of the problem of eating and feel pressured. The child picks up the rice bowl when the psychological ease, it is possible to produce a normal appetite. Second, do not treat food differently There is no nutrition to rely on parents to regulate when cooking. Take the food on the table should allow children to choose their own. For children do not like to eat the food can not be used to coerce conditions, such as do not love to eat meat and do not love to eat vegetables of the child said, “If you do not eat the vegetables, you will not give you meat”. This will only make him hate eating vegetables even more. Parents may wish to prepare more recipes, and give the child a variety of ways to do. Third, do not negotiate with the child on the issue of eating For example, some parents always like to say that if you eat well, I will give you to buy toys or take you out to play, this kind of words will have a negative impact on the child to eat, and teach him to blackmail parents with unreasonable demands. The child eats and decides for himself what he likes to eat and how much he wants to eat in order to have full confidence in himself. If a person has to let others decide even his most basic physical needs, then he will lose the opportunity to find himself and know himself when he grows up. Moms and dads, please start by letting go of your child’s right to eat on his or her own, and give every child back the opportunity to think and explore independently!