Confucius said, “If you do not learn manners, you will not be able to stand.” Locke, a famous English educator, believed that politeness is the first important thing that children and young people should take special care to develop habits. This shows that politeness is a very important cultivation for a person. It is a kind of pliable wisdom, when you treat others civilly and politely, you will also get the recognition, goodwill and respect of others, and also broaden a larger and more interpersonal interaction. So, in the baby’s growing stage, as parents, how do we train our babies to be civilized and polite? Which polite habits are necessary for babies to develop? 0 ~ 1 year old: a polite role model Do not underestimate the 0 ~ 1 year old baby, do not always think that this time he is still uninitiated in the world of small children, do not know that 0 ~ 1 year old is the baby language, sensory, action is very sensitive period, is a person’s social ability to grow rapidly, is the fastest growing baby development progress of the year. The 0 to 1 year old little people receive the words and actions of their mothers and fathers, their companions, and unconsciously and unobtrusively digest and absorb them. Therefore, in order to let the baby become a polite and cultured person in the future, parents should pay attention to their words and actions at this time. In life, to speak more polite words; in the world, to do more civilized things. As the saying goes, “you are right and then you can be right”. Detail 1: Although the baby can not speak at this time, but usually accompany the baby’s adults should often say to the baby: “Baby, hello!” Detail 2: Early in the morning, when the baby wakes up from sleep, mom and dad do not forget to give the baby a smile. Smile is the first step of polite education, when the baby can not yet express themselves in words, mom and dad should encourage the baby to smile more, the first is their own example, smile to the baby, let the baby know that smile is a way to show friendship and goodwill to others, so that the baby learn and like to smile. Detail 3: Mom and dad, family members in front of the baby do not always swear or argue, because those uncivilized details, uncivilized speech behavior will be deeply engraved in the baby’s mind, subconsciously affect the baby is about to establish the language behavior system. Detail 4: More civilized and polite words. When about 1 year old baby is learning language in the first time to accept polite language, the impression will be more profound. As the saying goes, good examples lead to good output. 1 to 3 years old: input of politeness It is said that 1 to 3 years old is a critical period of growth for babies, when they input a lot of information and start to develop many habits. At this time most of them have not yet entered kindergarten learning, social interaction is relatively small, so family education is crucial. Detail 5: When your baby opens his mouth to learn to talk, repeatedly tell him to use different polite words in different situations. For example, when you need help from others, use “please”; when you receive help or gifts from others, say “thank you” and so on. When my baby was more than one year old, sometimes she wanted to drink milk and asked us to make milk for her, so she shouted “nai nai ……” in a hurry. We then asked, “Does baby want to drink milk? How do you say that?” Baby would say, “Mommy makes nai nai,” and I would say, “No, baby should say, ‘Please make nai nai for Mommy.’ Baby say it again.” Baby said it again, just like I said it. I praised her at the right time, “Baby is so polite.” Then I made her formula and Baby smiled at me and said, “Thank you, Mommy!” “Baby is so good.” It warmed my heart to hear such polite words from Baby. Usually, we would ask Baby to help us carry the books on the coffee table or pass the hangers or whatever, and Baby would always hold those things and bring them over to us. We intentionally create opportunities for her to do things, and when she makes these “little contributions,” we take the time to express our appreciation and say, “Thank you!” These polite words are instilled in her through communication in daily life, and are the input for her to develop her manners. Detail 6: I remember my mom and dad used to talk about how when I was little, I always called my neighbors and friends politely when I saw them, and everyone always praised me for being understanding, and after being praised by adults I felt sweet, more willing to greet people and more confident. Nowadays, I often teach my baby the same way. When I take her out, whether in the neighborhood or outside, when I see someone I know, I always say to her: “Baby, say hello to Grandma”, “Say hello to Uncle”, “Say hello to Sister”, etc. When When the other party hears baby’s warm greeting, they will praise baby’s manners, and baby is motivated by the good feeling after the praise, gradually she is also very willing to take the initiative to greet people. When we go out to work, she will say “bye” to us; when we come home from work, she will carry a small bench to us to sit and change our shoes. After the age of 3, babies have more opportunities to come into contact with society and other people. Detail 7: Sometimes we will invite some friends to our home, so we can take the opportunity to teach our baby manners. For example, before the guest arrives, let the baby prepare candy and drinks with us; when the guest arrives, let the baby clap to welcome the guest; if the friend brings children over, we will let the baby be the little host to entertain the children and remind her to take out picture books and snacks to share with the children. In addition, we will instill in our baby the way of hospitality, telling her that when the adults are talking about things, children should not be unreasonable, not to interrupt, and if you have something to ask adults, you should politely say: “Mom and Dad / aunts and uncles, I have something to ask you to help”, not to go through the guests’ bags or bring things, etc. Detail 8: We also often take our baby to participate in children’s activities, guiding her to share with friends, treat people politely, and not to argue with children. We have to be friends.” Because in the usual education, when baby has incorrect and uncivilized language behavior, we will stop her in time and explain to her clearly why she can’t speak impolite words and do uncivilized things, and this serious attitude of ours has invariably influenced baby. 4 to 6 years old: the consolidation of politeness 4 to 6 years old baby has basically integrated into kindergarten life, or in the primary stage of elementary school, kindergarten, school, teachers of children in the quality of etiquette education to further correct the baby’s character. At this stage, family education to follow up, you can consolidate the baby’s sense of civilization and courtesy cultivation. Detail 9: In life, we should not only teach our babies to be polite and courteous at the table, do not talk with food in their mouths, be polite when treating others, do not sneeze at others, observe public order, do not throw waste, behave appropriately in public, do not make loud noises like no one else, line up first and then in order, do not crowd the car and boat, etc., but also teach our babies to respect the old and love the young, be helpful, take the car and boat to meet The old, the weak, the sick and the disabled, as well as pregnant women and people holding children, should take the initiative to give up their seats, etc. One day, we took the baby to the park to play, many children gathered at the slide to grab the slide. My baby also liked the slide, but it was crowded and crowded. I was trying to guide her, but she was already talking to the kids about taking turns, and while she was directing everyone in line, she pointed to the kid whose turn it was and said, “Now it’s your turn, you go.” Because she was so busy “directing”, she gave up most of the opportunities to play on her turn to other children. I did not expect those children under her command are very orderly slide it. When the adults saw her, they praised her for being a good little foreman at such a young age. I think this is also due to the baby watched a lot of books and animations about courtesy and manners, and listened to the stories we told her about courtesy, courtesy education makes the baby courteous and generous. As parents, we should “prepare for a rainy day”, start from the details of life, use our words and actions to influence and educate our baby, use patience and perseverance to create a civilized atmosphere for our baby, and use sincerity and trust to strengthen the cornerstone of politeness for our baby. I believe our baby will become a good baby who knows how to be polite and civilized.