A. 0-6 years old, love equals companionship 1, the shaping of intelligence: 0-6 years of age, the fastest growing intelligence, 50% of the intelligence formed before the age of 4, smart is not how many brain cells, but how many connections between brain cells. In a certain area of stimulation more, the brain neurons thicker. In a certain area of intelligence is developed. 2, emotional training: the left brain is developed → is logical thinking strong, the right brain is developed → is creative thinking strong, imagination cultivation, and complete emotional training to have a complete personality performance: this time period, do not restrain the child too much, play with him, let him win. Cultivate his sense of warmth. 3, character building: build concepts, know right from wrong, put education in the story, less reasoning. There is a saying to the effect that if you are used to having a request, you will be arrogant and rude; if you are used to having a request, you will have low self-esteem and negativity. The child’s self-confidence and self-esteem is most important. Parents should pay attention to this point. Second, 6-12 years old, love is equal to coaching 1, self-confidence development: must follow the interests of the child, not to make him become famous and a family. We need to use more thumb education instead of index finger education. 20,000 times of affirmation should be completed by the age of 12. Praise must be timely, in-your-face criticism should be serious in a relaxed manner. Sandwich education can be invoked here: shortcomings are sandwiched between strengths and criticism is sandwiched between hopes. What is wrong when you do something wrong? Change a mistake, it will be better and better. 2, habit formation: attention to detail, all get through their own efforts, be honest with yourself. 3, rewards and punishments: pay attention to his preferences, wait until it is time to reward him, so that he is moved by the affirmation. Do not reprimand in public and protect his self-esteem. Even if your child does something wrong and makes you angry, it is important to separate things from love. You make mistakes and should be criticized and punished, but punishment is not for venting discontent, but for education and for love. Every education is connected with love. 4, responsibility to raise: independence or dependence are cultivated, their own things to do, seriously, do complete. Parents instead of him to do, but can not replace a lifetime; teach him to do, he can be used for a lifetime. 5, play and learn: interest is the best teacher. Play well, in order to learn well. Third, 12-18 years old, love equals respect He is on a self-centered path: I grew up and demanded equality. How you talk to your friends, how you talk to your children. 1. Parents and teachers: Don’t take the teacher’s words as holy writ. Let the teacher look at the child with an appreciative eye: what areas of the child have improved? All children are afraid that the teacher will tell on them. It is important to make your child like the teacher. 2. Academics and grades: A child’s mental health is more important than academic performance. A momentary achievement does not represent a lifetime of success or failure; constant growth creates a lifetime of achievement. Never make your child feel apologetic and guilty because of poor grades. 3. Give a platform: Encourage going to the library and developing the habit of reading. Encourage participation in cultural and sports team activities. Encourage walking a million miles in safety. Let children love life and participate in summer parent-child camps. 4. Give role models: who to walk with and learn from. Appropriate goals to encourage reaching. More care, more communication, more petting. Touch has a huge impact on the child’s psyche, conveying understanding, trust, and respect. Always remember to let home become a warm harbor in the heart of each child, do not let home become an arena.