The growth of a child from 0-18 years old is divided into three different stages, and parents should play different roles in the three different stages. 0-6 years old, love equals companionship 1, the shaping of intelligence: 0-6 years of age, the fastest intellectual development, 50% of intelligence formed before the age of 4, smart is not how many brain cells, but how many connections between brain cells. In a certain area of stimulation more, the brain neurons thicker. In a certain area of intelligence is developed. 2, emotional training: the left brain is developed: is a strong logical thinking, the right brain is developed: is a strong creative thinking, imagination cultivation, and complete emotional training to have a complete personality performance: this time period, do not restrain the child too much, play with him, let him win (each win increases his confidence). Cultivate his sense of warmth. 3, character building: build concepts, know right from wrong (never do anything after the age of 6), put education in stories and less reasoning. There is a saying that if you are used to being asked, you will become arrogant and rude; if you are used to being asked, you will become inferior and negative. The child’s self-confidence and self-esteem is most important. Parents should pay attention to this point. From 6 to 12 years old, love is equal to coaching The child has a second world: school! As he enters the group society, he feels the power of the group, and praise or criticism acts as a cue for education. Send the message of love in words and behavior: love is the greatest motivator. If he can feel the sunshine and rain of love, the sapling thrives. Therefore, the power of positive suggestion is very important: how you evaluate your child will be how your child becomes; so how you want your child to become, how you have to evaluate your child. Always convey positive thinking, positive language and positive energy. 1, self-confidence development: must follow the interests of the child, not to make him famous and famous. We need to use more thumb education instead of forefinger education. 20,000 affirmations must be completed by the age of 12. Praise must be timely, in-your-face criticism must be serious in a lenient way. Sandwich education can be invoked here: shortcomings sandwiched between strengths and criticism sandwiched between hopes (affirmation – but – believe). Doing wrong, what is wrong? Change the wrong once, it will be better and better. 2, habit formation: attention to detail, all get through their own efforts, be honest with yourself. 3, rewards and punishments: pay attention to his preferences, wait until it is time to reward him, so that he is moved by the affirmation. Do not reprimand in public and protect his self-esteem. Even if your child does something wrong and makes you angry, it is important to separate things from love. You make mistakes and should be criticized and punished, but punishment is not for venting discontent, but for education and for love. Every education is connected with love. 4, responsibility to raise: independence or dependence are cultivated, their own things to do, seriously, do complete. Parents instead of him to do, but can not replace a lifetime; teach him to do, he can be used for a lifetime. 5, play and learn: interest is the best teacher. Play well, in order to learn well. 12-18 years old, love equals respect He is on a self-centered path: I grew up and demanded equality. How you talk to your friends is how you talk to your child. 1. Parents and teachers: Don’t take the teacher’s word as holy writ. Let the teacher look at the child with an appreciative eye: what areas of the child have improved? All children are afraid that the teacher will tell on them. It is important to make your child like the teacher. 2. Academics and grades: A child’s mental health is more important than academic performance. A momentary achievement does not represent a lifetime of success or failure; constant growth creates a lifetime of achievement. Never make your child feel apologetic and guilty because of poor grades. 3.Giving thoughts: What kind of person to become? Become a person of integrity, kindness, a person with a story to tell, a person who contributes to the family, a person who contributes to society and earns the respect of others. To be a leader in the future, to be able to suffer three losses: to suffer when contributing money, to suffer when contributing effort, and to be willing to suffer when speaking. 4.Give platform: encourage to go to the library and develop the habit of reading. Encourage participation in cultural and sports team activities. Encourage walking a million miles under the premise of safety. Let children love life and participate in summer parent-child camps. 5. Give role models: who to walk with and learn from. Appropriate goals to encourage reaching. More care, more communication, more petting. Touch has a huge psychological impact on children, conveying understanding, trust and respect. Always remember to let home become a warm harbor in the heart of each child, do not let home become an arena.