Children are always inseparable from their toys, but most 2-3 year olds don’t want other children to touch their toys, even if they take toys they don’t normally play with, they want to grab them immediately. Parents are worried that their children will be selfish if this continues? It is a normal phenomenon for children to have these situations during the socialization process. In general, children’s self-awareness begins to emerge around the age of 2, and they know how to say “I”, “mine”, “I want”, “I don’t want “So don’t worry too much about your child not knowing how to share or being selfish, and don’t put a big “selfish” label on your child. Selfishness” is the path to “sharing” For a two or three year old, “selfishness” is normal and even the path to “sharing”. They must go through a process of mental growth in order to gradually understand and learn to “share”. This is growth. Before the age of three, children do not know how to share, not are unwilling to share, and this is not a moral issue. First, the child is building a sense of self and moving toward independence. At this stage, children are establishing the concept of “ownership”: me, mine, my stuff. In their minds, everything is “mine” and they do not realize that others have “mine” and do not understand why they should share with others. Second, they have not yet grasped the concept of “borrowing” and “returning”. They do not know that “borrowed” items can be returned to them, but they think that once they leave their hands, they are lost. It is only after children identify what is “mine” and what belongs to them that they gradually become aware of what belongs to others and separate themselves from other people’s belongings. It takes a long time to build a sense of sharing. Children must first figure out what is “mine” and what is not “mine” before they can gradually experience the joy of sharing through repeated social activities. Parents should not force him to “give up” to others. If you make him give up reluctantly every time, your child will feel that not only children but also adults, including his own parents, want to take away his things, which will make him more possessive. You can ask your child’s permission and not label him as “petty” or “selfish” just for a toy or a cookie. The right way is to guide him to be willing to play with other children, and from there, think of ways to let them share their toys. Understand and accept that it is normal for your child to have difficulty sharing personal items at this time, and wait patiently for your child to grow up so that sharing becomes something he is willing to do. Guide your child to experience the feelings of others Parents can say, “Baby, your child likes your toy very much, let’s let him play with it, he will be happy, okay?” Parents often let their children experience the feelings of others, so that the child develops compassion and takes the initiative to take out toys to share the joy with children. This experience should be cultivated for a long time.