Losing one’s temper with one’s children will extinguish their spirituality, make them more foolish and less fortunate, and cause them to suffer from headaches and other illnesses. Parents should be careful not to lose their temper, get angry and get angry with their children, and not to use their temper to control their children. When you use your temper to control your children, your anger and fire will go to your children’s heads and extinguish their spirituality, as if you have put a curse on your children’s heads, and when you get angry and get angry once, you will put a curse on your children once more. Day after day, more and more spells, these spells into the child’s real headache, parents will be older lower limb leg pain, both harm themselves and harm the child, the child’s spirit is firmly imprisoned damaged, wisdom will be nothing to come from, the more you want him to learn well, his learning will be more and more bad, and the parents of the expectations of the more and more contrary to the way. This is all the result of using one’s temper to control a child. A gentleman seeks to correct himself, to correct himself, to change his own character, and the child will change when you change. There is a profound truth in the saying, “Children and grandchildren are not to be governed, they are all based on the sense of virtue”, and it is important to change our angry temperament. To the child to take the “rate” approach to education, the rate is the commander-in-chief, the child’s sex to the good side of the guide, we must often look for the child’s merits to recognize the child’s flashpoints, more encouragement to children. At the same time in the praise, persuade and guide the child to correct bad habits and hobbies, to help the child to open the treasure of spirituality. Troublesome temper is a kind of negative virus, harming others and oneself. Especially between relatives, each other very cherish each other, care for each other, with heavy heart. The more they do so, the more harm they do to each other. When loved ones live together, the chances of being hurt by each other’s troublesome temper are very high, and this is how illnesses slowly accumulate, from false to true, from light to heavy. Grievance hurts the spleen, hate hurts the heart, annoyance hurts the lungs, anger hurts the liver, and annoyance hurts the kidneys! We should be vigilant, do not belittle the daily small worries temper. A dike of a thousand miles is destroyed by an anthill, and most of the reasons why people in their middle age are generally in a state of sub-health are due to their unhealthy temperament. We can observe, rushing children lose their temper parents, his children not only important exams do not go well, work does not go well, marriage does not go well, all kinds of suppression frustration one after another, the blessing is very thin! 1, if the child likes to condemn others, it is because usually we criticize him too much. 2. If the child likes to complain about everything, it is because we are always picking on him. 3. If the child likes confrontation, it is because we are hostile and coercive to him. 4, If the child is not kind enough, it is because we are a person who lacks compassion. 5, If the child is timid and shy, it is because he is often taunted, abused, 6, If the child does not speak his mind to us, it is because we catch the child’s words put and rehash old scores. If the child does not know right from wrong, it is because we are authoritarian and do not give the child a chance to think for himself. 8, if the child is very low self-esteem, because we are always disappointed in the child, can not patiently encourage. 9.If the child is jealous, sensitive and afraid of being hurt, it is because our family has no tolerance and warmth. 10.If the child does not like himself, it is because we lack acceptance, recognition and respect for him. 11.If the child is not progressive and does not try hard because we ask too much of him and he can’t do it. 12, if the child is very selfish, because we are too spoiled him, what to give. 13, if the child does not understand the pain of parents, because we did not teach him to understand others. 14.If the child is evasive and withdrawn, it is because he has been belittled and struck by us. 15. If the child is lazy and dependent, it is because we make too many things and decisions for him.