“Mom, I want to kill you when I grow up, chopped into meat, wrapped in buns to eat!” It’s no exaggeration to say it’s downright creepy when you hear that! The thing is this: one day, a parent full of panic, said yesterday really scared her, her child said to her: Mom, I am still small, can not beat you, when I grow up I will kill you, chopped into meat, wrapped eat! The words sounded childish, but the light that came out of the child’s eyes really took the parent by surprise. The parent did not understand why the child had so much hatred for her, said the tears flowing. The mother belongs to a typical parent who pays too much attention to her child’s education, the child is her everything, after the birth of her child she resigned to put all her energy into the child, her point of view is that I am not as good as others in some areas, my child must be better than other children. With this thought, her eyes only the shortcomings of the child, once the child has a little does not meet her requirements, she will be on the child through scolding to educate the child. One day she helped the child wash his feet when the child accidentally turned the footbath over, the mother beat the child. A 10-year-old child, the mother is still washing his feet, how to see, this mother just love him. The child was wrong, the punishment, the mother looked not wrong, because her purpose is right. Then why is this mother “hated” by the child, to be chopped into meat and wrapped into buns? Let’s use an analogy, we planted a crop, we want it to flourish when we give it water, fertilizer, these can make it grow, but if the water becomes a flood, the fertilizer is higher than the crop, what will happen? The crop must not become what you want it to be. We also have good intentions, the purpose is right, the way is also very conventional ah. But the same thing, in some cases can achieve results, but in other cases can only let it destroy or even die. This is the “too much is not enough” reason. Using too much force and in the wrong way is the mistake this mother made. One second, the mother was washing the child’s feet, the mother’s love is still enveloping the child, the child still feels that you are a loving mother. Because of a small matter, began to scold the child, the mother suddenly became the devil. In this extreme role change of the mother, the child’s mind will be how big impact ah? We often say that “failure is the mother of success”, this mother must have heard this saying, and once the child made a mistake, what did this perfectionist mother do? Scold the child. Although the starting point is good, so that the child can become a person who strives for perfection. The mother’s approach to education, let’s see what kind of children will be educated in this way. This kind of education will put the child afraid to make mistakes and strive for perfection. A person who is afraid of making mistakes, what will it be like? First of all, do not dare to easily try, because not to do can not be wrong; and once forced to do, he will do things with fear, fear of error, with such a reluctance and do not dare to let go of the psychology, he will do things naturally will not be high chances of success, after doing, found that the results are not good, he will be increasingly inferior, and began to question their own ability, over time, this strive for perfection will be away from the starting point More and more distant. This is why the more we are afraid to make mistakes, but the more likely to make mistakes.