How important it is for parents to be emotionally stable to shape a child’s character. In the children of friends who are emotionally stable, they are more calm when things go wrong and more resilient. Because the gentle, sure aura of their parents gives them a strong heart to face the world. May our children become an emotionally cultivated person who really knows how to take in and out of emotions, so that they can get more opportunities than others and be more successful in their careers. Think about it, one day you have been busy in the unit for a day, you still can’t rest when you get home, to review for your title exam, but there are several pages you ponder word by word, wasting a lot of time, still can’t understand. At this time, if the child is crying and smashing things on the side, what kind of reaction will you have? In this case, most people may experience a strong sense of frustration, may be to say a few curse words, or worse, may also punch the child hands …… Last month, the sensational case of Yangzhou missing children high Junyi has come to light, the police after nearly 3 days of investigation work, and finally found that the mother in the process of discipline, due to emotional disorder The case of the missing child Gao Junyi in Yangzhou has been solved. The first is that the mother of the child was not able to finish her mother’s extracurricular homework, and the mother was furious, beating and stepping on the child, causing serious injuries to the child’s hands and feet. …… You may think that such cruelty is far away from us, but looking at yourself and the people around you, you will find that the shadow of violence has actually existed for a long time. Now, when the mother Lynn is good to the child when love and care very much, but when the mood is low, see the child make a little mistake, will start to hit him, while playing also all kinds of drop things, smashing the wall. One time, when the child refused to sleep because of crying for a long time, Lynn, who was exhausted, actually covered her daughter in the blanket for 5 seconds. When Lynn told us about this, we were all shocked. If, however, you are aware of the violent tendencies within, ask yourself where this emotion really comes from. It’s not hard to find that parents’ tendency to be violent with their children often comes from their own traumatic childhood experiences. For example, if your parents often used their fists to solve problems with you when you were a child, then you should beware of how you will treat your children in the future. In addition, if your parents have always liked to use hate, hostile way to deal with conflicts with others, then it is likely to affect your attitude to solve problems in the future. 2, in real life, there are many reasons for emotional outbursts. Emotions, itself is a very slippery thing, sometimes slippery to let people uncertain, but no matter what, we have to find a way to pinch it tightly, because it is related to a person can survive and develop in society with ease. This is true not only in the workplace, but also in some other places where we deal with people. At home, children occasionally spontaneously vent their emotions is justifiable, as a parent, if you do not move hissy fit, do not move easily panic, anxiety, and panic, anxiety to the point that even they can not help but rant to themselves, to the point of others, not only will make people around the deep fear, but also make people feel tired. What’s more, bad emotions are always easily contagious and patterns of coping with bad emotions are easily followed by children, and a parent who is always showing bad emotions is naturally unwelcome. Later, before the intern left, I had a talk with her and finally understood how she came to be. It was common for her parents to argue when she was young, and the increasingly escalating arguments eventually became irreconcilable and divorced. So, this child’s emotional instability comes more or less from what she heard when she was young. This shows how important it is for parents to be emotionally stable to shape a child’s character. Later, I gradually found that the children of emotionally stable friends are more calm and resilient. Because their parents that gentle, sure aura gives them a strong inner face of the world. 3. “Behind the out-of-control emotions are many deviations in thinking.” This is what my friend Jun told me recently. Jun’s grades were good, but in the college entrance exam, the sound of others flipping papers was too loud, and the sound of the fan turning overhead was too loud, which affected his emotions, and he was so irritable that he played badly, so he fell behind – he could have gone to a major school, but ended up in a general school. Indeed, sometimes the unreasonable way of thinking about things can cause emotional outbursts. It is said that back then, Jun’s parents said to him most often – “If you fail in such an important exam, your future is ruined!” For many years, Jun has been growing up with this perception, and the reason he lost control of his emotions in the college entrance exam was because he was afraid to face the “truth” that her parents had always said – if he failed to get into college, it would mean that his life had lost its meaning. Thinking is a wonderful thing, it can be the sky beyond the ring to think about, but also into the bull’s-eye in the narrow body can not turn over. In fact, many times emotions are not triggered by an external event, but by the way we perceive things. The starting point of thinking is wrong, the perspective of people may be so narrow that they can not even tolerate themselves, in the end, they are unable to live with themselves. Therefore, if parents can teach their children more positive and resilient ways of thinking in general, it will be beneficial for them to maintain emotional stability. Educator Tao Xingzhi said, “Giving a child the right thinking position is the same as giving him something to rely on to face the world.” When a child steps outside the fence of negative thinking and treats the world with more tolerance and optimism, he or she is less likely to go to extremes, lose control of emotions, and shout at every turn. Behavior has cultivation, emotions also have cultivation, and a more profound cultivation. Since ancient times, we evaluate a person’s standard, look at his connotation and style of action, to know whether it can become a moldable talent, whether there is a great general style. Therefore, in order to raise our children to become human beings, in addition to learning and developing their abilities, we must also train them to control their emotions properly. May all our children become emotionally cultivated people, who really know how to take in and out of emotions, so that they can have more opportunities than others and be more successful in their careers.