There are many ways to improve self-control: First, actively clear life goals, control their desires, face tension, anxiety, irritability and other emotional problems when actively diverting attention, such as doing something happy, you can chat with good friends, go shopping, listen to music, watch movies and so on, can make their emotions smooth down, control negative emotions. Second, actively communicate with people, learn to express, so that they can control their desires and negative emotions, can not let their contradictions, conflicts repressed in the heart, the more repressed rebound the more serious the consequences are more dangerous. And to communicate with people in a timely manner, learn to express, seek the understanding and support of family and friends, and enhance the feelings and trust with the people around. Third, you can also consider using psychotherapy methods, such as humanistic therapy, family therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy and other psychological counseling and treatment methods, which can improve cognition, while developing healthy behavior, allowing themselves to become more mature, improve the ability to cope with setbacks and self-control.