Children in the process of growing up, will always show some inappropriate behavior. If parents let it happen, once these bad behaviors become natural, they will become the child’s growth of the stumbling block, as the saying goes, “thousands of miles of dike destroyed in an anthill”. Therefore, parents are reminded: do not ignore these small bad habits, quickly prevent the problem before it occurs, and seek ways to quickly stop. 1. Interrupting conversations Why not to be ignored: Your child may be dying to tell you something or ask you a question, but allowing him to interrupt you will not help teach your child to be considerate of others, let alone how to pass the time on his own when you’re busy. The result will be a child who believes he has a right to attention and will not tolerate any frustration. Stop it: The next time you’re on the phone or talking to a friend, tell your child he has to be quiet and not disturb you. Set up an activity for him or let him play with a toy he doesn’t normally play with. If he pesters you while you’re talking, you can point to a chair and ask him to sit there quietly and wait patiently until you’re done talking. Afterwards, tell him that interfering with others won’t get him what he wants. 2.Aggressive behavior Why not ignore: You may not always discipline your child when he has a small conflict with his buddies, but you shouldn’t ignore those little aggressive behaviors, such as pushing down a little brother or pinching a child. According to Dr. Michelle, a consultant on parenting issues, if you don’t do anything about it, the bad behavior will build up by the time your child is about 8 years old. Letting it go sends the message that hurting others is acceptable. Ways to stop it: Respond positively to aggressive behavior. Pull your child aside and tell him, “That will hurt your sister. What would you do if he did that to you?” Be sure to tell him that any action that hurts another person is not okay. Before the next time you go out to play, remind him not to be rude and bossy and help him practice what to say when he gets angry. You can also give him a little punishment by not letting him go out to play if he does it again. 3, pretending not to hear you Why can not be ignored: pick up the toys, take their own water to drink, when you remind the child to do something he does not like to do, once, twice, three times, or even four times, he is still as if he did not hear the same, this time you can not be ignored. Because this down the message is to ignore the adult instructions do not matter. Reminding your child over and over again is training him that he can wait for the cue without paying attention to your first instruction, and if you condone your child to continue this behavior, your child is likely to become oblivious and extremely controlling. To stop it: Instead of talking to your child from the other side of the house, walk up to her and tell him what to do. When you talk, have him look at you and answer, “Yes, Mommy.” Touching her shoulder, calling her name, and turning off the TV will help get her attention. If he doesn’t listen, tell him what the consequences will be. 4. Ignoring the rules Why it’s important not to ignore: It’s certainly convenient if your child can get his own snacks and put on his own DVDs, but there are some foods, like candy, that you can’t just eat on a whim, and you can’t watch DVDs all day long in the house. yuko believes that it’s never a good idea to let your child go without following the rules of what he can do. If you think it’s fun to watch a two year old get his own cookies from the counter, wait and see what you do when he reaches eight and runs off by himself without saying hello. Ways to stop it: Set up a few home disciplines and talk to your child about it often, for example, tell your child, “You have to ask if you can have candy because that’s the rule.” If your child turns on the TV outside of the allotted time, tell him to turn it off. And stating the rule loud and clear will help keep it in your child’s mind. 5. MAKING LITTLE MISCHIEVES WHY IT SHOULDN’T BE IGNORED: You may think that your child won’t roll his eyes at you or speak in an arrogant manner until puberty, but arrogant demeanor usually begins when children mimic older children in order to test their parent’s reaction. Some parents think it’s just a phase and ignore it, but if you don’t deal with the problem head-on, you’ll find that by the time your child reaches about the third grade, he or she will have no friends and won’t be able to get along with teachers and other adults. How to stop it: Make your child aware of his behavior. For example, tell him, “You’re rolling your eyes like that, like you don’t like what I’m saying.” This is not to make your child feel embarrassed, but to make him realize that he may lose the friendship and affection of his friends by doing so. If he persists, you can ignore him and walk away. You can say something like, “I can’t hear you if you talk to me like that. I will only listen when you are ready to speak politely.” 6, exaggerate the truth Why not ignore: Perhaps a child who can not fold the quilt said he made his bed, or a child who has not even been on an airplane told his companions that he had been to Disney, these boasts may seem unimportant, but we must be wary of the child’s dishonesty. According to Yuko, “If a child learns that lying can easily glorify him, can avoid making him do things he doesn’t love to do, and gets him out of trouble, lying becomes natural.” STOP IT: When your child tells a little lie, sit next to him and tell him point blank. “Of course it’s fun to go to Disney, and maybe we’ll go someday, but we haven’t been there yet, and you shouldn’t tell your little sister that you have.” Tell him that people won’t believe him if he lies all the time. Find out what his motives are for lying and don’t let his little lies keep getting the better of him. For example, if he says he’s brushed his teeth before he’s brushed them, tell him to go back and brush them again. 7. Nose picking Why it shouldn’t be ignored: As gross as it is to watch your child’s fingers swim from his nose to his mouth, eating snot doesn’t make him sick. But picking his nose is a major route to infection. How to stop it: Distraction is often effective. Give him a book or a toy, anything to occupy his hands. Explain to your child that picking his nose can spread germs. Carry a tissue with you and hand it to him as soon as he reaches up to pick his nose. Keeping the nostrils moist will reduce the itching sensation. In winter, a humidifier in his bedroom will help prevent his nose from drying out in the night. 8. Bad wipes Why you shouldn’t ignore it: When your child can go to the bathroom on his own, you may be willing to let him take care of it himself. But if he doesn’t wipe properly, his hands can make a mess. In girls, improper wiping can lead to bladder infections. How to stop it: To check, just look at his underwear, and your child may also need regular instruction. 9. Coughing and sneezing unobtrusively Why it’s important not to ignore: Colds and flu viruses or other more serious illnesses like pneumonia and meningitis are spread by these particles. How to stop it: Set a good example. If you can hold your own nose or mouth when you cough or sneeze, your child is likely to follow your example. Don’t be afraid to nag and remind your child often. To prevent viral infections, teach your child to sneeze into his elbow, not his hand. 10. Picking at scabs Why it’s not worth ignoring: Dirty fingers can carry infectious bacteria to wounds. Wounds that are repeatedly opened can also scar. How to stop it: Apply antiviral ointment to the wound and wrap it in a Band-Aid to keep it out of the hands of little ones. Let him choose a favorite cartoon Band-Aid and he’ll be reluctant to remove it. 11. Forgetting to wash your hands Why it shouldn’t be ignored: Children who don’t wash their hands often can come into contact with horrible germs, such as parasites, fecal germs, and even Hepatitis A. How to stop it: Often, and gently. Remind her to always wash her hands before eating, after going out to play, and, more importantly, after using the restroom. At the same time, you do not prevent in the home and the bag with more sterilization wipes. 12. Nail biting Why it shouldn’t be ignored: Your child’s fingertips can bleed and become infected. Biting dirty nails can also spread germs. How to stop: Most children bite their nails when they are bored, so it is worthwhile to distract them with music, books or paintbrushes and paper, and so on.