Introduction: When children enter junior high school, they enter a special period in their growth – the rebellious period. Many parents report that their children are disobedient, talk less to their parents, dislike their parents’ nagging, and even confront their parents during this period. Some parents also visit or call to ask how to get along with their children. As a middle school teacher, I would like to give parents one piece of advice: learn more about your child, understand more about your child, and grow up together with your child. In fact, the rebellious period is an opportunity for the two generations to grow together. The characteristics of the rebellious child As the saying goes, “Half a kid, angry at the old man.” There is some truth in this saying. 12 to 15-year-old children are in the psychological weaning period, known as the rebellious period. The children of the rebellious period mainly have the following two characteristics: First, the gradual formation of their own values With the expansion of the child’s exposure, knowledge is also increasing, the inner world is rich, and gradually formed their own values. These values are sometimes different from those of their parents. When the values of the two conflict, if parents still impose their own views on their children as they do with children, the children will resist. If similar situations occur repeatedly, children will communicate less and less with their parents. Second, children’s self-awareness has increased. As they grow older, they think they are mature, but often do things that seem childish to their parents. Although their self-awareness is stronger, they still have poor self-control and often violate discipline unconsciously. At this point, if parents try to give their advice to their children, they often hit a wall and are met with resistance from their children. Parents often have two states of mind when disciplining their children: first, they see their children as private property and have absolute authority over them; second, they see their children as a reproduction of their own ideals and hope that they can achieve what they want to achieve but have not achieved. Parents with junior high school students are usually middle-aged and are in the period when they are young and strong and consider themselves to be the most experienced in life. Therefore, parents often want to instill their own life experiences into their children and want them to live their lives as they envision. In this way, the “experienced” parents and the rebellious children form a pair of irreconcilable conflicts. The correct interpretation of the child’s rebellious period The rebellious child has no intention of challenging parental authority. Some parents mistakenly believe that rebellious children intend to challenge the authority of their parents. Psychologists say that the child’s rebellious period is a period in the child’s growth process, is the child’s growth process from “other discipline” through “self-discipline”, and finally integrated “other discipline” and “self-regulation” process. The process of “self-discipline”. “Other-regulation” means that early in life, children see the world and themselves through the eyes of others, and regulate their behavior according to the standards of others and society. “Self-regulation” is to see the world and oneself through one’s own eyes, and the standards of behavior gradually become more and more independent and even cynical and alternative. It is a great sadness for parents if their children are always obedient and always good girls and boys. It is through the transition from “other discipline” to “self-discipline” that children eventually integrate their own personalities and behaviors into the direction of harmonious integration of individuals and society, becoming “other discipline” and “self-discipline”. “In the end, they will integrate their personalities and behaviors in the direction of harmonious integration of the individual and society, and become qualified members of society with a sense of social and personal responsibility. Scientific handling of children’s rebellious period Many people believe that children’s rebellious period is a difficult period at home. Some parents are helpless, bitter and have nothing to do; some parents try to oppress their children with their own authority; some parents even fight with their fists and feet, respecting that “filial children come out from under the stick”. These unreasonable behaviors not only distress parents, children also feel the same pain. In fact, the rebellious period is an opportunity for the two generations to grow together. Scientific handling of this period, can let the child smoothly through the rebellious period, will also let parents feel less hardship and bitterness of this stage. One should respect the child Wise parents will reflect on their own ideas from their child’s rebellious behavior. Sometimes, the child’s new ideas will also enrich the parents’ wisdom and enhance their lives. With children, you can’t engage in solipsism; otherwise, you’ll push them away from you. The second is to be friends with the child A student parent did a good job, he often read the children like to read books, often play chess with the child, often play games with the child, the child look at him with “buddy” like, and his communication without any barriers. Three to listen to the famous American success scientist Carnegie said, when people talk to each other, to leave 80% of the time to listen, the remaining 20% of the time to bring to inspire each other’s problems to say. This also applies to the communication between parents and children. Four to communicate more with the teacher Often communicate with the teacher, you can understand the child’s situation at school; at the same time, it also allows the teacher to grasp more characteristics of the child. In this way, it is conducive to cultivate education for the child’s personality. The rebellious period is not a dangerous period, but a formative period for the child, a psychological weaning period for the child. Parents should take out the same care and patience that they had when their children were weaned, not to be impatient, to learn more, to ask for help, to understand the psychological characteristics of the child during this period, and to grow together with the child. As long as the parents do a good job, the child will definitely reward them with healthy physical and mental growth.