Introduction: When children enter middle school, they enter a special period of growth – the rebellious period. Many parents report that their children are disobedient, talk less to their parents, dislike their parents’ nagging, and even confront their parents during this period. Some parents also visit or call to ask how to get along with their children. As a middle school teacher, I would like to give parents one piece of advice: learn more about your child, understand more about your child, and grow up together with your child. In fact, the rebellious period is an opportunity for the two generations to grow together. The characteristics of the rebellious child As the saying goes, “Half a kid, angry at the old man.” There is some truth in this saying. 12 to 15-year-old children are in the psychological weaning period, known as the rebellious period. The rebellious period of the child has the following two main characteristics: First, is gradually formed their own values. As children’s exposure expands, their knowledge increases, their inner world is enriched, and they gradually form their own values. Such values are sometimes different from those of the parents. When the two values conflict, if parents still impose their views on the child as they do with children, the child will resist. If similar situations occur repeatedly, children will communicate less and less with their parents. Second, it is the child’s increased sense of self. As they grow older, they think they have matured, but often do things that seem childish to their parents. Although their self-awareness is stronger, they still have poor self-control and often violate discipline unconsciously. At this point, if parents try to give their advice to their children, they often hit a wall and are met with resistance from their children. Parents often have two states of mind when disciplining their children: one is to see their children as private property and have absolute authority over them; the other is to see their children as a reproduction of their own ideals and hope that they can achieve what they want to achieve but have not achieved. Parents with junior high school students are usually middle-aged and are in the period when they are young and strong and consider themselves to be the most experienced in life. Therefore, parents often want to instill their own life experiences into their children and want them to live their lives as they envision. In this way, the “experienced” parents and the rebellious children form a pair of irreconcilable conflicts. The correct interpretation of the child’s rebellious period The rebellious child has no intention of challenging parental authority. Some parents mistakenly believe that rebellious children intend to challenge the authority of their parents. Psychologists say that the child’s rebellious period is a period in the child’s growth process, is the child’s growth process from “other discipline” through “self-discipline”, and finally integrated “other discipline” and “self-regulation” process. The process of “self-discipline”. “Other-regulation” means that early in life, children see the world and themselves through the eyes of others, and regulate their behavior according to the standards of others and society. “Self-regulation” is to see the world, see themselves in their own eyes, and behavior standards are gradually maverick and even seem a little cynical and alternative. Experts say that if children are always obedient, always good girls and boys, this is the great sadness of parents. It is through the transition from “other discipline” to “self-discipline” that children will eventually integrate their own personality and behavior into a harmonious blend of personal and social direction, becoming “other discipline” and “self-discipline”. In the end, they will integrate their personalities and behaviors in the direction of harmonious integration of individuals and society, and become qualified members of society with a sense of social and personal responsibility through the organic combination of “other” and “self-discipline. Scientific handling of children’s rebellious period Many people believe that children’s rebellious period is a difficult period at home. Some parents are helpless, bitter and have nothing to do; some parents try to oppress their children with their own authority; some parents even fight with their fists and feet, respecting that “filial children come out from under the stick”. These unreasonable behavior is not only distressing to parents, children also feel the same pain. In fact, the rebellious period is the opportunity for the two generations to grow together. Scientific handling of this period, can let the child smoothly through the rebellious period, will also let parents feel less hardship and bitterness of this stage. 1, to respect the child. Wise parents will reflect on their own ideas from the child’s rebellious behavior. Sometimes, the child’s new ideas will also enrich the parents’ wisdom and enhance their lives. Get along with your child, you can’t engage in solipsism; otherwise, you’ll push your child away from yourself. 2. Be a friend to your child. One student parent did a good job, he often read the books that children like to read, often play chess with children, often play games with children, children look at him with “buddies” like, and his communication without any barriers. 3, to listen more. The famous American success scientist Carnegie said, when people talk to each other, to leave 80% of the time to listen, the remaining 20% of the time to bring to inspire each other’s problems to say. This also applies to the communication between parents and children. 4, to communicate more with the teacher. Frequent communication with the teacher can understand the child’s situation at school; at the same time, it also allows the teacher to grasp more of the child’s characteristics. In this way, it is conducive to cultivate education for the child’s personality. The rebellious period is not a dangerous period, but a formative period for the child, a psychological weaning period for the child. Parents should take out the same care and patience they had when their children were weaned, not be impatient, learn more, ask for more help, understand the psychological characteristics of the child during this period, and grow with their children. As long as the parents do a good job, the child will definitely reward them with healthy physical and mental growth.