Socializing is an indispensable activity in modern life, but many introverted people, especially young women, will feel uneasy in interpersonal interactions, and blushing, sweating, rapid heartbeat, stuttering and at a loss for words, etc. This phenomenon is called “social phobia”. Generalized social phobia: If you suffer from generalized social phobia, you will be afraid of being the center of attention anywhere, in any situation. You realize that everyone around you is looking at you and observing your every little action. You are afraid of being introduced to strangers, or even of eating or drinking in public places. You avoid going to the mall and into restaurants as much as possible. You’re never afraid to get into an argument with your boss, coworkers, or anyone else to defend your rights. Specific Social Phobia: If you suffer from specific social phobia, you have a special fear of certain special situations or occasions. For example, you are afraid of public speaking and performing in public. Despite this, you are not terrified in other social situations. Salesmen, actors, teachers, music performers, and so on, frequently have specific social phobias. They are not unusual in their general interactions with other people, but when they are required to perform on stage or give a public speech, they feel extremely fearful and often become stuttering or even flabbergasted on the spot. People with social phobia are always worried about making a fool of themselves in front of others, and they feel extremely anxious before attending any social gathering. They will imagine how they will make a fool of themselves in front of others. When they are actually with other people, they will feel even more unnatural and can’t even say a word. When the party is over, they will relive the footage of what they just did over and over again in their head, reviewing how they handled every detail and what they should have done right. Both types of social phobia have similar physical symptoms: dry mouth, sweating, rapid heartbeat, and wanting to go to the bathroom. Symptoms that may be seen by those around them include red faces, stuttering and stammering, and slight wariness. Sometimes, patients find themselves whistling and having cold hands and feet. The worst outcome is that the sufferer goes into a state of panic. Social phobia is a psychological disorder that is very distressing and seriously affects the patient’s life and work. Many things that the average person can do easily are daunting to the social phobic. The sufferer may think that he or she is a boring person and assume that others will think that way too. The sufferer then becomes overly sensitive and more reluctant to disturb others. This, in turn, can make the sufferer feel more anxious and depressed, which can worsen the symptoms of social phobia. Many sufferers change their lives to accommodate their symptoms. They (and their families) have to miss out on many meaningful activities. They can’t go to the mall to shop, they can’t have normal relationships with either gender, they can’t take their kids to the park, and they even have to give up great job opportunities to avoid dealing with people. How can we eliminate this mental illness? The following five measures are very effective may wish to try: 1, do some exercise to overcome shyness. For example: the two feet stand smoothly, and then gently lift the heel, hold on for a few seconds and then put down, each time repeatedly do 30, every day so that two or three times, you can eliminate the feeling of distraction. 2, shyness makes people whistle, therefore, to force themselves to do several times deep and long and rhythmic whistle, which can make the tension can be relieved, for the establishment of self-confidence to lay the foundation. 3, with others together, whether it is a formal and informal gatherings, may wish to hold a thing in hand at the beginning, such as a book, a handkerchief or other small things. Holding these things, for shy people, will feel comfortable and have a sense of security. 4. Learn to look at others without fear and intently. Of course, it is difficult for a shy person to start doing this, but you have to learn. Imagine, if you are always avoiding other people’s eyes, always staring at a piece of furniture or a distant corner, does not it seem childish? Aren’t you and the other person on an equal footing? Why don’t you take out some courage to look at others boldly and confidently? 5, sometimes your shyness is not entirely due to excessive nervousness, but due to your field of knowledge is too narrow, or know too little about the current events. If you can often read some extracurricular books, newspapers and magazines, to develop their own horizons, rich in their own experience, you will find that in social occasions you can express your views without difficulty. This will help you build up your confidence and overcome your shyness.