Successful tutoring is closely related to the verbal expression of parents. In particular, the tone of voice that parents speak to their children will have a profound effect on their children’s emotional intelligence, intelligence, temperament and cultivation. Trusting tone Children especially want to be trusted by adults, especially parents, so they should show full trust when they speak to their children. For example, the child wants to learn to play badminton, you use a trusting tone of voice to say: “Star, as long as you work hard to learn, seriously learn, you will be able to learn to play.” This invariably gives the child a self-confidence, and let him understand that only persistence can achieve success. If you use a sarcastic tone: “You’re such a three-minute enthusiasm still want to play ball ah?” It will hurt your child’s self-esteem and make him feel less confident in his own abilities. Respectful tone From the age of two or three, a child’s sense of self begins to sprout, and as he grows older, this sense of self will become stronger and stronger. The fact that a child has some opinions of his own shows that he knows his own strengths and abilities. When he puts forward his own different views and requirements, do not think that he is not listening to you, against you, and roughly against him. For example, if you ask your child to learn English, but he still wants to play with his buddies again, you can’t lose your temper: “The older you get, the more you don’t listen to me, don’t study hard, see what you can do when you grow up.” This will only make the child more averse to learning. You should use a respectful tone: “Then you play a little longer, but, after playing, you must learn English.” The child will be happy to accept this. Negotiating Tone Every child has self-esteem. If you want your child to do something, use a negotiating tone of voice so that he understands that he is your equal and that you respect him. For example, you want your child to clean up and organize the toys littered on the floor, you can say: “Star, toys littered, what a bad habit ah, you with mommy to clean up the toys, okay?” Never use a commanding tone: “What’s wrong with you, toys littered, quickly go clean up!” Otherwise, the child listening to you reproach, the heart will produce resentment, even if according to your requirements to do, is not happy. Appreciative tone of voice Every child has advantages, all have the desire to show, find the child’s advantages and appreciation, will make him more happy to show. If your child draws a picture, it may not be very good, but the enthusiasm and seriousness with which he or she draws is the biggest advantage. When your child shows you his drawing, you can’t just make light of it and say, “It’s not very good, practice.” This will make your child lose enthusiasm and confidence in drawing. You should use an appreciative tone to recognize his work: “I can’t believe my baby draws so well, keep up the good work, you will surely draw better.” The child’s desire for expression is satisfied, and with a happy emotional experience, he will be more interested in drawing. Encouraging Tone It is impossible to ask your child to do without fault. When a child does something wrong, do not just criticize and blame, but should help him in the fault to summarize the lessons, accumulate experience, and encourage him to succeed again. Such as the child’s first time to help his mother end the rice bowl fell to the ground broken. You can not blame him: “even a bowl are not stable, really stupid.” This will discourage your child’s confidence and courage to try new things. You should use an encouraging tone: “Star accidentally broke the bowl, it’s okay, in the future, use your fingers to try hot or not before you go to the end.” In this way, both the method of practice is taught and the child is given the confidence to try again.