I found that the proportion of women asking questions about postpartum frigidity and difficulty in achieving orgasm was quite large, and the questioners were either women themselves or their husbands, far more than I had previously thought about impotence, premature ejaculation and other male sexual dysfunction problems. Perhaps men with this problem still have a place to seek treatment in reality (the men’s department of the hospital), but as many of the female questioners themselves said, they were embarrassed to encounter this problem, as there is no female sexual dysfunction department in the hospital, and the gynecology department does not seem to be very good at treating this type of seeker. The following is a rough analysis of what I can think of about postpartum frigidity and its causes, and I hope that it will help women and their spouses who have this kind of problem. As the saying goes, “food is the nature of the sky”, no one will be surprised by the lack of appetite, we all know that it is because of busyness, tiredness, the recent bad mood and can not eat, good food does not taste good, know that these reasons lead to the lack of appetite, no one will be for this reason to go to seek medical help again. Although no sex drive and no appetite is very similar, but people have no sex drive, no orgasm, but easy to feel strange, have to know whether they have frigidity, whether to take some drugs. Although similar, sexuality can be much more complicated than eating or eating activities. It is always known that eating is just one person’s business, while sexual life is between two spouses and requires mutual cooperation. Take a precision mechanical watch as an example, this watch is composed of many different sizes of tiny gears, screws and other parts, to watch the front of the dial of the hands go accurate, it is necessary to the back of the various gears mesh very well between the joints have a certain degree of lubrication, the screws are suitable for the loosening and tightening of the case closed, can not enter the dust …… And so on and so forth. How the quality of sexual life, whether to achieve orgasm, just like the watch hand whether to walk accurately, this is an appearance, is externally apparent, its essence depends on the spouse behind the marriage and family, interpersonal relationships and emotional environment, physiological and psychosocial and many other factors. My understanding of frigidity, like loss of appetite, is not a separate disease, but only a symptomatic manifestation. Physiologically, hormonal changes during pregnancy and labor may affect sexual desire. Changes in body shape after pregnancy and childbirth, and vaginal looseness and scarring after childbirth can affect sexual feelings. This aspect can be consulted at the gynecology department. From the environmental factors, after having children, the original living environment may become narrow and crowded. Women who have become mothers are instinctively afraid of waking up their children, and cannot devote themselves to sex because of their scruples. Although I used a precision mechanical watch as an analogy for sexual activity, the latter can be far more complex than the construction and mechanism of a precision instrument such as a mechanical watch, because psychological activity plays a subtle and vital role in sexual life! The influence of psychological factors on the so-called sexual frigidity and sexual pleasure is the main point I want to talk about. After a family has a child, and the previous two-person world has changed in all aspects: for example, coaxing the child, breastfeeding, cleaning and so on child-rearing aspects of the housework increases steeply, many women will be tired, lack of sleep and lack of sexual desire. Many mothers put their children to sleep at the same time, they also fell asleep. This can be annoying if the husband wakes himself up again. Some women do not place a contraceptive device after giving birth and their husbands ejaculate outside the body for contraceptive purposes, and women often do not experience sexual pleasure as a result. In addition, about childcare, division of labor, economic expenses and other aspects of the husband or in-laws disagreements, disputes, internal estrangement, women then dissatisfied with their husbands, or even disappointment, naturally, sex will also be “sex” interest declined. In addition, during maternity leave or after giving birth to become a full-time mother, with the outside world to reduce or even interrupt the interaction, the circle of life has become closed, so women feel bored, boredom. Of course, working mothers will also face conflicts between work and child care and family, and it is also likely to be busy, tired and less interested in sex. There is another situation that should not be ignored, namely, postpartum mood disorder (commonly known as “postpartum depression”), in which women often experience anxiety, depression and other emotions, a decline in interest in many things, and may not be able to take care of their children, not to mention sexual interest and orgasm. In other words, “frigidity” is one of the symptoms of mood disorders after pregnancy and childbirth. The physical, psychological and environmental factors mentioned above do not work in isolation, but rather are causative and intertwined to affect the sexual desire and orgasmic experience of postpartum women. Insufficient knowledge of the causes of frigidity often leads to treating the symptoms rather than the root cause, and the root cause is not the root cause. Many people ask if there are any medications or treatments for frigidity. No wonder, if “frigidity” is regarded as a disease, people naturally want to have a drug to cure this disease. However, it would be better to have a drug that not only improves sexual life, but also solves the above mentioned differences, contradictions and conflicts between husband and wife, family, etc., then life will become simpler and easier, and human beings won’t have so many troubles and sufferings. If there were such a panacea, wouldn’t everyone want to seek it? Regret! Just like other problems and paradoxes in the world, since the so-called frigidity is caused by the above biological, psychosocial and other aspects of the disturbance, we can not expect to rely on a drug to solve the problem, but rather for the factors mentioned above, “the treatment of the cause”, so we can not hope for an easy way to solve the problem of “sexual frigidity”. “The problem of sexual frigidity can not be expected to be solved by a simple method. To put it bluntly, also like the treatment of any kind of psychosomatic disorders, to take a biological-psychosocial integrated treatment approach, and also far from a quick fix, may need a longer process, can not be rushed.