Bringing up a baby well is not only a mother’s responsibility, but also a test for the father. To a baby, a father’s love and teaching is unique and irreplaceable. The more a dad does, the more his gift of fatherhood will be brought into play, and eventually he will be able to develop his own unique parenting style and bring more positive influence to his baby. How to be a good father to a boy? A. The 4 things boys like most about what their dads do 1. The vast majority of boys like sports and enjoy playing with their dads. He likes to hug his father and play with him. (If you don’t like it, then you’re too cold!) 2, he likes to explore with you and experience the bigger, broader world together. He also needs to feel safe because his father seems tall and lanky and omnipotent (even if sometimes dad himself doesn’t think so). 3. He likes it when his dad tells stories about his own childhood, wants to meet his dad’s friends, and wants to know how he earns money to support his family. 4.He likes his dad to teach him something practical. If you don’t know how to fish, how to make something small, or how to fix a toy car, etc., you can learn together. It depends on whether you want to try or not. Second, the boy will learn the father’s human attitude The child will learn your every word, every action (even to the point of surprise). A friend was driving his kids out and they stopped at a red light to wait, when a family from Asia ran right through. At this point, the friend’s child spouted an obscenity. The friend heard it and it was something he had said before. He was extraordinarily shocked to hear his child say something like that, which was unacceptable. He pulled over to the side of the road at a place where he could park and told the child that he should not have said such a thing in the first place and did not want the child to say such a thing in the future. Third, boys learn how to love others by observing their dads’ behavior Children learn how to show their love by observing your actions. When you express your care to your wife and make her happy, when you say your strong love or hug or kiss her, in an invisible way, children are learning from their fathers. A boy will imitate his father. He will imitate the way you treat your mother and will adopt your attitude. Fathers should respect their wives and not be abusive or dismissive. What the son needs to see is not only that men should respect women, but also that he should know that men are equally capable of discussing matters calmly and peacefully without having to use force. Fourth, boys learn how to feel everything by observing their dads’ behavior Sons learn how to feel everything by observing their dads and other men’s behavior. But first they need to know how dads express their sadness, anger, happiness and fear. There is no need to avoid children when we show our feelings, because children must know that their parents are people with feelings. When parents are angry, they should voice their grievances and their feelings instead of going into fights with others or throwing tantrums and smashing things around the house. When we feel scared, we can say it and bear it with our family. When we feel sad, we can say it or even cry it out, but we can’t become cowards. Fifth, no matter what problems arise in your marriage, do not abandon your children Divorce can be a huge blow to your child and can destroy the hopes he had for his father and the dreams he harbored for his father. No matter what goes wrong in your marriage, it is vital that you do not leave your child’s circle of life. In order for your child to grow up healthy, you must treat your partner well, give each other some space and time as well as enough care, and try to maintain a close couple relationship. Sixth, boys like to play fetching games with their dads The vast majority of boys like to fetch. Dad can play with the child, for the sake of fun, but also to teach him to learn self-control. But be sure to set some rules beforehand to prevent getting out of control. What children learn from playing around has far-reaching implications for their future growth. This is a lesson they must experience to become real men: to know how to have fun, how to make noise, and even how to make themselves angry; at the same time, they should know when to end it. Seven, a lesson of great significance to men: knowing when to end If you have ever played with a boy when he was three or four years old, then you know that at first, young boys are happy, but after a minute or two, they lose interest and become angry. They’ll hold their heads high in protest, and they’ll tighten their brows and start pushing with their elbows and banging with their knees. The attentive dad will stop at the right moment. Stop! Stop! Stop! Then, you can teach him a lesson – don’t yell, just explain calmly. Little boys learn one of the most important life skills, and that is self-control. Eight: Teach boys to respect women When boys reach the age of 14, one day they will find themselves undergoing a major change. Suddenly, he’s bigger than his mother! Even the sweetest, most gentle boy can’t help but think, “She can’t force me to do anything anymore!” Sooner or later, this thought is put into action. They get the upper hand in the mother-child contest by deception, intimidation or other cunning tactics. It is important to educate them and correct their wrong ideas in time. When women get together to talk, sometimes you will hear something like, “I have four children, and one of them is my husband!” And then they will let out a helpless laugh. I’m sure most men would be shocked to hear that. For a wife, it’s not children she needs, it’s a man. What a wife needs is not an imposing hero, but an ordinary man who will stand by her and work with her to solve her problems. The wife longs for her husband to do this. If the husband can do this, then he will be able to get the respect and trust of his wife. Ten, the role of the father is irreplaceable Some people will ask: Is the role of the father important in the process of raising children? Can’t the mother raise the child by herself? The American Blankenhorn, in his book “America without a Father’s Love,” believes that the role of the father is irreplaceable. Boys who don’t get a father’s love are more likely to become violent later in life, get hurt, get into trouble, do poorly in school, and are more likely to join bad gangs during adolescence. Being able to be a dad is probably the greatest thing you can do in your life, because not only do you get the most satisfaction and joy from your role as a dad, your influence on your children can also affect the future of others, and it really is a lot of fun.