Abstract: If the family of a few years old child began to lie to you, I believe that the mother will be more anxious to jump feet. “In fact, lying is a phenomenon that every baby is bound to experience in the process of growth, you know? Why do children lie? The parents on the road to parenting are very puzzled, usually very worried about the look. In fact, a child lying does not mean that the child is stubborn. From “truthfulness” to “cleverness”, it is a process in which the child is trying to explore the world in a more advanced and complex way. Today’s sharing is about learning to appreciate your child’s “smartness” and to channel that “smartness” into great wisdom. Ages 2-4: Loves to Talk Big Children in this age group have a rich imagination and live in a fantasy world, so they often say things that are out of the ordinary. Put another way, this means that his intelligence is still in a developing stage. Your child is not yet able to distinguish between what is real and what is not, and he is equally unable to distinguish his dreams from his real life. Sometimes parents find that their child’s lies are what he wants them to be. One mother of a 4-year-old asked her kindergarten teacher, “My child takes home at least one toy a week from kindergarten, and he told me the teacher said he could have it. Is that right?” Of course not. However, the teacher’s analysis removed the mother’s unease and embarrassment: “Children of this age think that if they want the toy so badly, then the toy must be theirs. A gentle reminder: Punishing a young child this age for lying not only doesn’t make any sense, it may have a negative effect. In fact, your long lecture on honesty and integrity will just fall on deaf ears for your child; your punishment will not make him know what the problem is. Instead, he’ll just know that he’s been naughty again, and he certainly won’t want you to know about the naughtiness in the future. Therefore, it is better to pay more attention to his bad behavior. You can clearly tell your child, “I know you really, really want this toy, but it doesn’t really belong to you, it belongs in this mall.” This way the child can slowly understand that his or her idea of possession is wrong. Of course, parents must not want to suppress their children’s fantasies, so you can let them believe in Santa Claus, but they must let them know that people can’t fly, even with wings. Ages 5-7: Escaping reprimand Children who are almost school age realize that lying is a good way to solve problems or escape punishment. Because children want their lies to be more believable, they are better crafted. 6-year-olds already know that if they tell the teacher that the dog ate their homework, the teacher won’t believe them, but if they say ‘I was sick, so I didn’t do my homework,’ they may be able to get away with it. There are many reasons and ways to lie, and parents need to learn to treat them differently. If he hears you telling your mother-in-law how much you like the sweater she gave you, when in fact you never wear it. Then he will think that lying is permissible. Of course, if he lies to cover up the fact that he didn’t brush his teeth then he is simply trying to cover up his mistakes and the wrong things he did. A gentle reminder: Tell your child that sometimes well-intentioned lies are made so as not to hurt other people’s feelings. Give your child an example to make him understand this better: “For example, when you are invited by a child in your class to his house, if you tell him directly that you don’t like him, so you won’t go, then your words will hurt him and make him very sad. But if you tell him you can’t go because of something else, it won’t make him sad and upset, even though it’s not the real truth.” But if his lies are just to cover up, then parents should take action on things, like if the child doesn’t brush his teeth we should check and monitor him more often. And if the child’s lies escalate to very serious consequences, then punishment can begin to be meted out to the child so that he can more viscerally appreciate that his mistakes need time to be forgiven. What do parents do when their children lie to you? 1, do not knowingly let the child have the opportunity to lie further. If you can see that your child did something and ask if you did it, it’s easy for your child to lie, so it’s better to point it out directly. 2. Focus your energy on finding a solution instead of just blaming. “No matter how it happened, the light is broken. What should we do about it?” 3, If you are not sure if your child is lying, trust your instincts: “It doesn’t sound like the truth to me. ” 4. Don’t tell your child, “If you tell the truth, you’ll be okay.” Instead, you should say, “If you lied, then you’ll be in bigger trouble.” Admitting that something was done wrong is the right attitude, but not that things are right. But if you hide it, that’s a big problem! 5. Sometimes children lie because they feel they are not living up to your expectations and they feel it is better to lie than to fail. So in the usual education, you will need to let your child know that trying your best is acceptable, even if it is a mistake and a failure. 6. Set an example for your child. Children will always imitate what adults do, so don’t be the “opposite”! By showing your child your “lie”, you are telling him that it is the right thing to do and you are encouraging him to do it. (Except for well-intentioned lies) 7. Don’t label your child as a “little liar”. Don’t give your child a “liar” hat because of a mistake, and emphasize it again and again. This will make your child feel rebellious and will make him give up on himself: “Didn’t you say I love to lie? Well, from now on I will not tell the truth!” 8, create a relaxed atmosphere, do not let the child afraid to tell the truth. If the child does make a mistake, we must teach the child how to make up for his or her mistake, corresponding can have punishment but never scolding and beating.